Not sure if anyone would remember, but a few months back I made a post about a girl that I really liked. I hadn't talked to her all that much over the past month, until today when we walked back from our indoor track practice together (we get rides there, but not back), talking the whole way for almost an hour. I had such a hard time talking comfortably about anything though. I've tried to be more confident in what I'm saying over the past little while, but I feel like I'm ignorant and arrogant about some things.The problem is that I can't be myself when I'm around a bunch of people other than my closest friends or family members. I can't think clearly, and I'm constantly nervous until I get a chance to be by myself (without anyone watching me or judging me). Social anxiety I guess, but I hate that I have such trouble being the kind of person I want to be, and that I know I can be, when I get stressed out by being around others. Unfortunately, my way of dealing with it is to be cold and distant or loud and talk about stupid things.I want to be kind and thoughtful to others, the kind of person other people can trust rather than looking at me as someone who's socially challenged and struggling to fit in or whatever. I get so tense and feel like everything I do is being judged and watched by others, and I worry so much about every little thing. I'm afraid to just act in whatever way I'd act on my own. I can't talk with people who I don't know really well, because my mind goes blank and I get incredibly nervous. Is there anyone else who can relate to this, and if so are there any ways that you have of dealing with it?
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practice , practice and again ... practice
I know how you feel. When I'm around people I don't know I'm like a totally diffrent person, I become a very loud, very arrogant, and sarcstic person. I don't know why, but I think it may be a defence(ms?) that I use to push people away. I try not to, but I get nervous and become that person anyways. I don't know how to keep from doing it, I just wanted you to know, you're not the only person who feels that way. You're not alone.
things we've learned from the movies - - when they're alone, all foreigners prefer to speak English to each other....
Try thinking about them like its one of your guy friends, and nothign more. or, if you really want to be imaginative, think of her as your aunt or someone or relation to you. this should keep you calm
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