First time - Guys perspective

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Hi, I know there is another thread about this, but my question is a little different... I've been with my girlfriend now for about 2 months, and I can tell she wants to have sex. She's a huge tease, and she is hinting at it constantly. The only thing is she keeps telling me she's afraid of how much it's gonna hurt, bleed, etc... and I highly doubt the first time will be a great experience for her. Luckily I'm the one with all the sexual expertise, so I know (relatively) where to touch her so she gets pleasure. I tell her whenever she feels comfortable enough, we can go thru with the whole thing. I just don't want her to be so afraid, so if any girls can reassure her about how it feels, I'd be really greatful! Thanks

hey dan, kenyu here...there is a possibility it might bleed (then again maybe it wont) and it will probably hurt. but it is one of those things that hurts and feels good at the same time.don't worry, all girls go through it at one point in their life (unless they never want to have sex). just remember to use a rubber and just for extra protection make sure she gets on the pill.then, with a 97% chance of hope, you'll be fine!P.S. what i meant was, condoms work 97% of the time. it just came out weird. lol. just tell you're girl you'll be gentle with her, believe me afterwards she'll be saying "that was great can we do it again?" lol.

Just be gentle, no girls first time is good , and it will hurt a lot more if she's stressing about it (tightens up the muscles) tell her to LET GO an all will be fine And, the person above me is right. PILL AND CONDOM! no glove no love...

I am just a bit curious, and I have no intention of having sex yet (I am only 14).But, is it a viable option to get drunk (not like, worshiping the porcelain god drunk, just really tipsy) before the first time to avoid a lot of pain?I am in no way suggesting you GET her drunk to get her laid, I am just saying, if she agreed to being drunk before her first time to void pain, is that realistic?...man that came out as dribble, I hope you get the jist of what I am saying.

I would say thats a bad idea, i mean, you should be fully aware, and it might make the day after a little weird and she might regret it a lot more

Sory to be an ass, but you said you "know it" so in order to touch alot of girls there you must have worked it before.. and 2 months and sex? and please don't say you love her.. cuz the lust part of your brain says it..

Damn you confused me i thought i said something like that so im searching thru my posts like wtf?

First, I'd like to thank everybody for the replies... Oh, and piercingshort04, not to sound like an ass, but did you ever think that all the girls I've been with prior to my current g/f WERE'NT virgins? That's why I'm in this situation... everytime I've had sex the girl has been a lot more experienced, so I never had to worry about popping a cherry. No, I don't love her, and I really don't need a lecture about falling in love at 2 months, thanks anyways... And yeah, of course I'll be wearing a condom, and she just got on the pill, which is a good sign for me.

so basicly, you dont love her, you've been together for 2 months, and all you want from her is sex. Have you told her about your previous g/fs and your sexuak encounters with them? Sorry to get off topic here, but dose any of this sound really wrong and asslike to anyone else? hate away.and if she's on the pill and you got a rubber, theres nothing to worry about like everyone else has said.

I only popped one cherry so far and it didn't go to good. Even tho we did foreplay and she was kinda wet, I still had a hard time getting through the hymen that I cum after just a few strokes, Luckily Iwas able to do it again right away. My friend said I should put KY jelly on her vagina and on the condom that way you can slip right in which is what I would do if I ever got another virgin,

i kinda agree with you, why are you haveing sex with this girl if you dont love her? isnt sex an expression of love?

I think you're confusing 'making love' with having sex. If you asked every person who's ever had a one-night-stand, they might disagree with you, that it was only about the sex, and that there was no love in the silver lining. You can deeply and passionately love someone, and not have sex with them. Or you can not be in love, and have sex, they don't necessarily have to go hand in hand.

Oh dear guys. If she's up for it and she's up for it then it's thier decision to make. I didn't actually see him asking whether you think they should have sex...?It's probably not a good idea IMHO to have sex with some-one before you love them, but stop lecturing the poor guy, it's up to him!

In reply to: it's up to him! Them*

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