ok well its me again....for those who dont remember me....ive been with my boyfriend for almost 2 years now. i love him to death and will do anything posible for him to be happy(1st love). we just got off our "break" wich wasnt a break at all we just told people that we wur working on it instead of "we go out". well after i got a few messages from other guys he got jelious. and asked me to be with him again.... so we started to be together again.everything was good untill now. (bytheway the reason we roke up in the first place is because we always fought about the stupidest things). now we start fighting again its been the 3rd day in a row... i tried to stay away to make things better but it just dont work.i feel as if he dontlove me but i no he does. he doewsnt show it. we talked about this topic more then once but it doesnt solve anything. i dont want to break up with him because hes been the longest relationship i ever had and im scared to be alone. i no it sounds stupid but i dont have anymore friends that are there daily for me, and im just scared of sitting home depressed all day. i tried calling some of my old friends back but they dont want to hang out with me no more.plus i just wana be with him i had really cute/rich/watever guys hit on me and all i thought about was him. i really dont know wat to do we cant continue our lives like this.i want it to stop but i dont know how(he wont go to counseling) if any of you have a good thought or any advise please let me no . im so confused right now. i wana be with him and spand the rest of my live with him but i want him to change.THANX FOR LISTENING (READING) LOL
I don't think you can get him to change... People don't change. They only evolve thru progression. You might be able to meet him half way, but it will take both of you. You'll need to have some serious heart to heart talks to find out what each of you need and want from this relationship. Fighting and arguing are just way that most people try to express themselves when something is bothering them. Sometimes it difficult to express what a person is feeling when you can't really verbally express it. Guys are the worst when it comes to spilling everything and bearing it all. We tend to feel vulnerable so we keep it all in and think you can read our minds. If you really want to spend your life with him, them fasten your seatbelt because it will be a very bumpy ride to hell and back. In the long run it will be worth it all, but only if you are in fact... soul mates.
You stated that you don't want to be without him because you will be alone and depressed and let me tell ya, girl i have definately been there more than once but if he doesn't want to compromise in order to stop fighting then he must not want to be with you too bad. i know that's hard to hear but you need to come to a big realization. if yall fight over dumb stuff now and have to take breaks what happens when something really big comes up & yall are married...what are you gonna do..split up? i know breaking up is really hard and it is hard to be alone....right now im facing a very similar problem with my boyfriend..not fighting just other things and it's hard to accept that it won't work b/c in your mind you want it so much but for everything to work yall both have to want it that bad and girl, it doesn't sound like he does. * A lot of guys don't want you but they don't want anyone else to have you and that could be why he wanted to get back together with you.maybe....just do your best to care for him and if he doesn't return your feelings then you just need to try really hard to accept that and move on. someone else will be there i promise.
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