me and my boyfriend seem to have a lot of trouble having sex. this is my first sexual relationship althogh not the first guy i've had sex with and i never thought it was all that complicated? i'm a small girl and it takes some time/work to fit everything in there but it can deffinently be done...the problem is that once we start sometimes my boyfriend can't stay hard and that makes me feel unattractive or bad in bed or something. i mean he has no problem staying rock hard all through head but when we f*ck it seems to be a challenge. yesterday he told me i had a "messed up vagina". that made me feel pretty bad considering that i have alwasy been self concious about my larger lips and more fleshy than average cooch. reading some of the comments on this site made me feel tons better about not having a lil porn start puss but i'm still wondering if guys think its weird...if thats the reason he can't stay hard and if its him or me? i know sometimes he does perscription drugs to get messed up and i have heard that they can cause erectile disfunction. also i've found the only position that really works is doggy style. when he wants to switch and we try to he can't get it back in and goes limp or vice versa. i don't know what to do becuase im glad to finally be in a sexual relationship and i really wanna start enjoying sex...help please
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I doesn't have to do anything with your vagina. It's all in his head. Frustration with his performance can be a vicious cycle which can make things worse. Get a bottle of lubrication and it will help him "get it in".
he probably cant last long and thats why he cant keep an erection...and so he has to put u down to makes him feel better ... poor man it is mostlikely his fault not urs
"Lasting" has nothing to do with it. It's performance anxiety.
Everyone is different hon, and every pussy I have ever seen has been different in some way to everyother one. Don't be ashamed of how you look down there, thats how you were made, thats you
Your BF was very mean to say that to you, just cos he was frustrated about his lack of erection........personally I would have told him what he could do with his comments LOL
I think him not being able to stay hard is just like sdp said, cos its hard for him to get it in, hes getting frustrated, it takes longer, and so he loses his erection.
Next time you are having sex, get lots of lube, and get him to sit on a chair or the sofa, lube him up in the course of forplay etc, then straddle him, and you guide him into yourself, at your pace........take control, that way you can do it as slowly as YOU need it so it doesn't hurt, but the fact that your doing that will hopefully keep him turned on and hard, and it should slide in a lot easier with lots of lube, and in that position...............good luck hon, and don't let him put you down again, your 'bits' are just fine big hugs </font color>
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He probably made that comment about your vagina being messed up to take the attention off of his erectile disfunction. lol. My ex had the same problem, he had a hard time staying, well, hard and it was frusturating. I knew the problem wasn't me, he even said he wished more girls had a large labia like me, so I felt better. But I dunno, try whispering naughty things into his ear as he's about to slide his dick into you. "Like I can't wait to feel you deep inside of me" or sigh, or moan. I dunno, but it will definitely keep him going. Rub your legs up and down on his sides, or grab his ass. Just lying there might be an easy way to lose his attention. Hope that helps!
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This makes me so sad. I have been looking for a woman with large inner labia for over a year. And I stumbled into these postings only to find women embarrassed by their large inner labia. Listen, there is NOTHING wrong with you at all !!! It is so sexy. Many men love it. If your bf is giving you a hard time, dump him. There are many men, such as myself, that would appreciate how sexy your body really is. Please NEVER feel ashamed. I just hope that the women in my near future have VERY large lips.