How far up is the prostate

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Do as JenJen said..also when you have your finger inside if you make the "Come here" motion with your finger (Mind you the finger needs to be point up towards the penis when making the "come here" motion) and usually that's a good technique to hit the prostate gland. Hope thats helps.

Yo Whatup,I discovered the joy of having my prostate gland stimulated on the second date with my boyfriend. Since then I’ve included prostate stimulation in my solo masturbation sessions, as it is only a curved finger away! Dudes, I can understand that if you have never explored your anus before that you might think this as an unpleasant experience. But if you are open to earth shattering orgasms, then this is definitely worth experimenting with. And don’t give a fuck what people think, as there are some stupid fucks that think masturbating alone is a sign of being gay?!!? If after experimenting you find stimulating you prostate works for you, then I say tell your girlfriend about the unreal sexual pleasure you get from doing it. If you make her moan and scream from working her G-spot, I see no reason why you shouldn’t have some pleasure in return! I can assure you that her finger up your arse when you are fucking her is ultimately only going to benefit her anyway!! Enjoy sex in all its forms!Sparkus

i did that to my bf he asked me to he said he almost jumped out of his skin it was nothin like he ever felt before now he likes it hehehe

Sorry to change the subject again, but I'm catching up on my post... Your screen will return to it's normal station after reading this...lolDude,You guys have no clue…. We do use the terms “Boyfriend”, “Partner”, “Other half”, “Better half”, “Husband”, “Fuck buddy”, “Trick”, “Bitch”... You name it we use it in our own community. But you see, we just can’t refer to our “Significant other” in a predominantly straight society because it is not socially accepted yet and there could be major ramifications. So in order for us to “fit in” and be accepted in this ‘being gay is wrong’ society and talk about those close to us, we use the terms that the “Straight” people are comfortable hearing… When it comes to a Gay lifestyle, (aka: An alternate lifestyle). We have to be politically correct in hopes not to offend anyone, thus attracting more negative attention about us or our lifestyle.I personally have a partner. We have been together for 16 years this New Years Eve. In my circle of friends and family, he is my husband, my partner and jokingly my lesbian bitch!The majority of society dictates how we, the gay community have to act in order for it to be less offensive for you to deal with us….For example… Saying like this:“Don’t ask. Don’t tell”“Hey! It’s cool… I don’t hate gay people”“Gay people? Ahhhh, they’re fine as long as they don’t try to play in my yard”How many straight men do you think would feel comfortable showering naked or changing clothes in front of a gay man???? Not many!!Let me just burst your little bubble here… Gay men have taste. We just don’t scam on or google at every naked male body we see. We wouldn’t just "check you out" and or want to have sex with you just because you have a dick! Sometimes society is so frickin narrow mined… No wonder we have to say so repressed and have hidden lives.That is one topic that gets me fired up. Sorry! Off the soapbox

Amen hun! Very well said =-)hug

> I personally have a partner. We have been together for 16 years

Beyond the circle of your friends and family, do you refer to your significant other as your roomate?

I agree that it's not easy to just come out and live an openly gay life in most places, but homosexuality is much more accepted in some places in the U.S., not to mention Europe. I realize that you have friends, family, a career, and a life in Dallas, but and you'll find bigotry and hatred everywhere, but it's possible to live openly gay in a lot of the bigger "blue state" cities, like New York, Boston, San Francisco, Miami Beach (plus or minus a bit of friction with the Latin community), Los Angeles, central and western Massachusetts, Vermont, etc. I have friends, a straight couple, who live in Provincetown. It would be cool if you and they could trade places for a while, although I'm not sure how they'd feel about living in Dallas.

(Irrelevant aside: The wife's sister of the above-mentioned couple recently came as as gay (she was married to a guy and living near Boston), and, last I heard, is in a relationship with a woman. Her ex-husband still wants her back. Also, the sister (lived in central Mass.) of someone I dated came out a couple of years ago, left her husband and son, and is living with her girlfriend in southern Vermont. She is not at all shy about her relationship.)

Well lesbians are highly more accepted than gay men. Obvious reason that a lot of straight guy fantasies are to be with two women. I cannot tell you how many times I've heard straight guys say "All gay men should be killed.. but the lesbians can stay, their cool". Double standards.. same act.. just different gender and it's such a difference in reaction.

You should visit Provincetown. It will be a real eye-opener.The area I live in has a large gay population. Men walking hand-in-hand is so common that no one pays attention.

roc's saying the same thing i am only he told it better than i did, and all im saying is i do not care who says "boyfreind" around me. I am perfectly fine with people who use that term for their partners.

Roc, I never would have guessed you were gay until I read that post when you openly stated it.I hope I don't offend you or anything by saying that, but with some other forum members you can usually tell.

I have to try to sit back and laugh at the way some people see relationships in general and gay relationships specifically.
When I was young, all I knew about gays was the crap you hear from other highschool kids. As an adult, I have learned so much more about reality.

When I was 19, I started dating this older girl. Her 2 best friends were a gay dude and a lesbian. This presented me with my first real exposure to this community. I went with the group to a gay bar. Imagine... 19, skinny, tight jeans, very long hair, leather jacker AND first ever time in a gay bar!! Oh my, in retrospect it was funny.

Anyway, I'm rambling. Point is, I just don't understand how an adult can have hangups about gay people in general, or worse, accepting physical pleasure in a straight partnered or solo fasion that somehow seems gay .

making sense or should I go to bed?

Wow Sexpot and Steve..maybe I do need to visit these towns. My goal eventually is to move to a town/city that's gay friendly. Might have to check this Provincetown out lol.

ProvincetownIt's more of a resort town. And unfortunately, real estatate prices have been rising rapidly there recently. And as they're building more condos, the area is slowly losing it's charater, like Miami Beach. It's too bad. Unfortunately, a lot of gay-friendly cities now have a hight cost of living.If you like a more countrified life, "artsy" places like Peterborough, NH (yes, New Hampshire) are good, as are a lot of college towns.

Very true. But once I finish my new degree and my lover finishes his degree, I think we'll be pretty set financially. Plus we both have big dreams of owning our own business. We just haven't really decided what yet lol.

actually, Waterloo On is a pretty liberal and artsy city.
Mostly due to the 2 universities. It also has an "uptown" as opposed to it's twin city which has a grimy "downtown"

I haven't been there personally, but I think college towns like Athens, GA are good (any place that produces the B-52's and REM has something going on).

I find its impossible for me to position my hand and insert a finger in a way that the finger will be pointing forward towards my penis... Pretty near impossible. What tricks if any do you use? We're talking here about you doing it yourself, not someone doing it for you, thats easier.. An illustration would surely help!

Well I have no illustrations, but your prostate is about 1.5-2 inches inside from the rectum. One technique I have found is to actually use your thumb. When you reach around you can insert the thumb and use the "come here' motion with you thumb. You should be able to feel your prostate (Walnut shaped). I find that to be the easier way other than using toys.

Hope that helps some.

Ah! I wuz using the pointing finger... Yeah I can see how it might be possible using the thumb, but I wasnt aware its long enough Say, you know about Aneros, right? I've had some limited success with that toy.

One more question -- do you have a hand preference, for better reachability?And thanks for the idea... cool