They say you only get one real chance at love

---

Ok,well I have been friends with this beatuful wonderful deep caring girl for coming on like 3 years and i met her at school. Well she decided to go out with this ugly horriable guy that dident treat her how she disirved and cheated on her probley 16 or so times and they were a on and off again couple. Just about a year ago after i went out with her friend that broke my heart and dumped me. She called, well we were friends but not that good of friends because she left to a diffrient school that year and soon after i droped out for that whole year. But she called me and we got to talking and i brought up how i was hating my life and I told her about how i always cut myself. She sounded like she carred so much and she did. She told me how i had know idea how much she carred about me.So i pushed the coment she made and i asked if she ment that she loved me and she said yes. Well of course i felt the same and told her the same. We talked late through the night about are life and dougbts and fears and preaty much everything. The next day me The girl i was telling you about and her boyfriend went to see a movie and soon after i found out she had told him all this. I was shocked and scared and hurt. She told me that night we talked how she wanted to leave her boyfriend and start a realastionship with me but she never did. Ok so we skip ahead through my little story to now. Well she recently about 2 months ago was dumpped by her shitty boyfriend. And then her friend my friend as well (her friend first) that she went out with for like 2 years a long time ago asked her out and she said yes. My friend well call him dave well hes not a bad guy but hes not to deep and very imature but hes really all ive got when it comes to friends. I guss he says he still loves her and cares about her????? so after a week or so of them going out she starts calling me again and we have been talking for like 3 or so weeks and i told her all about my recent life i told her every thing and i mean everything you know. Well i guss she really dosent see herself with dave for very long just because hes just not very deep or sweet like she is. Well i just tonight finally told her i loved her still and really care about her and she told me the same. And i know this time she really wants to be with me. I couldent be more happy for the frist time in my life. But im not sure what i should do because dave is my friend. Does this just make me a really fucking horrable person. Because i really care about this girl. So how should i feel? After all they say you only get one real chance at love. Anyones help i would greatly appricate. Thanks

hm...does your friend know you've liked her? if yes then he's the dick....if no then let them figure it out and you just sit tight...you can't aska girl that has a bf out, you have to wait until something happens. maybe try talking to him and seeing how he feels about her. because he might feel the same way you do about her. but if it was my best friend and a the girl i loved and they were good together i'd just be happy for them. (but in real pain inside, knocking out friend in thoughts):P but ya hope this helps

No i talked to her for a while about how she feels about him and she really dosent see that they would really go any whare together. And thanks for your opinion i appricaite it

well you need to tell her to talk to him about it then. because if she doesn't then she wasn't tell you the truth sry it's just life.

shes just scared because they have been friends for so long and i dont want to push her so fast. I just told her all this tonight.

oh well then give it time:P it'll come(no pun) and whatever you do don't talk to him about them breaking up or anything that's a prime way of destroying a relationship really quick

im sorry, i only read half your post but...STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP STOP..thinking about it...STOP! just cut it out. this is very obviously not good for you. and stop cutting yourself that is just regressive. she is a self serving cunt.

You're right. He's a cuddle bitch.

LOL i love that steve it's hilarious....sad thing is it's very very acturate for the situation:P

hahah, i dont mean to laugh at your situation mr.sadguy but that cuddle bitch thing is hillarious.

It's not true that you only get one real chance at love. There are chances after chances after chances. There isn't one right, exact soulmate - love involves two people who are similar in some ways but always different in others, who have to learn about each other but can love regardless of each other's imperfections.

That is true. What "they say" is nonsense, and can lead to a fruitless obsession with a particular person.

I think theres one person for another

well i think there's someone for everyone out there:p

When your friend broke up with the first guy, why didn't she go out with you when she said she loved you, instead of "Dave"? I find that quite odd. The "cuddle bitch" theory may be very accurate in this situation. Had she wanted to be with you, "Dave" wouldn't be in the picture.

Another idea, if all is ligit and for whatever reasons, "Dave" got the prize and the two of you still want to be together, I wouldn't hesitate to have her make a decision, but it's not your place to force the issue.

My experience in a similar situation: I was dating a man for 1 1/2 years. A friend of his wanted to go out with me for at least a year while we were seeing each other. I was attracted to him as well, but I would never cross that line, besides, I wanted to make my relationship work. Well, we finally broke up and after 1 week, the other man and I started seeing each other. It was the best thing that ever happened to me. We have been seeing each other for 6 months now with not 1 argument. He's terrific to me and I in return. The point I am trying to make is that I do believe that there is the right person for everyone, but sometimes it can take a lifetime to find that person. You will have several loves through your lifetime, but only a few will really stand out. I am now 42 years old and am the happiest I have ever been. Another point to be made, although the man I'm with wanted to be with me for a long time, he never told me, never pursued me until my ex bf and I broke up. I was shocked when he told me he had wanted to be with me for a long time.

Even if the odds were 1-1 million, for the right person out there, how many '1's' would that make in the world.You get many chances for love, you just have to take the chance and jump in...........whatever the outcome.

Yup, that's true. The idea that there's "the one" is magical thinking. But most people don't think about statistics when they fall in love. It's easier to think that the universe has been organized in a way that they would be brought together with a specific person.The idea of "one true love" makes a nice romantic novel, but it's not real-life.

"Even if the odds were 1-1 million, for the right person out there, how many '1's' would that make in the world."Following is the answer to Angels question, using the Google estimate of the current world population and assuming women make up 52% of said population also excluding the gay and lesbian population by using the unreliable estimate of 20% being gay or lesbian.If your a man looking for a woman then there are 2,681.590 true loves for you in the world, thats 1 for every 19,391.48 square miles, excluding antarctica.If your a woman looking for a man then there are 2,475.314 true loves for you in the world, thats 1 for every 21,007.432 square miles, excluding antarctica.Using an unreliable estimate as 20% of the population as gay:If your a man looking for a man then there are 618.829 true loves for you in the world, thats 1 for every 84,029.728 square miles, excluding antarctica.If your a woman looking for a woman then there are 670.398 true loves for you in the world, thats 1 for every 77,565.903 square miles, excluding antarctica.If your a bi-sexual man looking for either sex then there are 3,970.317 true loves for you in the world, thats 1 for every 13,097.191 square miles, excluding antarctica.If your a bi-sexual woman looking for either sex then there are 3,764.541 true loves for you in the world, thats 1 for every 13,813.106 square miles, excluding antarctica.In answer to your question, yes, it's a very boring day at the office.

OMG scotty you are bored, can't you look for porn or somat like a 'normal' person hugs

I've looked at some much porn, since I got the internet at my desk, I can't look at anymore...well almost no more..lol