Tell Me How Wrong and Immoral This Is

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Yup, saw it in Fiddler on the Roof.

Maybe cause I havent been in a relationship for a while and it seems like shes might be interested in me. Plus I like that fact that she had the guts to call me every 6 months and still sound coinfident while talking to me on the phone. I mean not only did I feel special, but I though she was pretty daring to do that beign that we really never met or hung out before today.

Would that be a bad reason?

I didnt mean it in a fiddler on the roof way, i meant it like her parents wanted her to get off to a good husband and walla there was my dad, they dated for two years and got hitched lmao

I say, Go on a few dates with the girl and see what happens!

Then don't be prejudiced, and go out with her. No one is telling you to marry her. If you like her, keep going out with her. If it turns out that you don't really like her "that way", then stop going out with her.I guess I don't see what the downside is. What do you see as the downside? I still don't understand the "wrong and immoral" thing. What are you afraid of?

True I guess I will jsut have to give it a try and see what happens.Reply to Steve>>>What do you see as the downside? I still don't understand the "wrong and immoral" thing. What are you afraid of? I feel as though Im more mature that her, I mean shes not super immature, but she is 18 and I mean come on that says somethign right there. As far as it being wrong and immoral to me, I think its because I think maybe shed be better suited with someone younger than me and that I have no business to be entering the arena of a relationship with her. As far as being afraid...I have a feeling I definitely wont mix in with her friends that well that are her age and I dont know if Im going to like all these 23 years that she hangs with. She told me she hung out with them even when she was 15. To me I could just see them being shady people, cause come on at the age of 21, 22, or 23 no one should not be hanging out with a 15 year old on a daily basis. Finally Im afraid that she wont connect with my friends. Better yet, while I dont think my friends will make fun of me, I think in the back of their head they will be like why is my friend dating such a young shit. Oh and then there is always the fact that both her parents are cops, so I dont know how it would go over with them seeing her daughter with a 23 year old. Things kinda becoming a little bit more clear now? I knowwwwww Im thinking way ahead, but I just like to look at the angels before I get involved.

No. It sounds like your afraid of what her friends will think, what your friends will think, what her parents will think, what the old lady down the road will think. It's all speculation. If the situation sucks, then you can get out of it. It sounds like you're working overtime manufacturing excuses not to go for it.

And please don't get carried away with how mature you think you are. Seriously, dude.

If you're not planning to jump into bed with her, and you're not going to ask her to marry you, what does it all mean anyway? There's nothing immoral about going bowling together. I wouldn't worry about depriving her from some other relationship. She's 18 and has plenty of time to date lots of people.

And please don't get carried away with how mature you think you are. Seriously, dude.LMAO ok pops =PAs far as excuses go. Yea maybe Im just trying to make them up in my head, because I just dont want to get stiff armed with another heart breaking blow after having just gotten over one from the summer. Plus Im a very shy nervous guy, so for the first couple of times we go out shes going to have to be able to deal with that otherwise its goign to be a no go....which ends up being the case Id say with 60 percent of the girls I go out with. I know your probably say, well from a guy who thinks hes so mature and from the stand point of him thinking that the girl isnt as mature, how can he be nervous and lacking coinfidence...its just the way it is man.

It'll be the same thing with any woman. The only courses to take are to either stop dating altogether, or push yourself and do it.Part of maturity is not worrying so much about useless stuff.

mean sure yea there might be a really hot girl that a total bitch where I might be like damn Id totally like to hop in the sack with her, but in the end I never would cause shes a bitch.I feel the same way.

It's very wrong, you're going to hell.

Are you serious?

very.

I was really starting to wonder if the world has change so much to the point where its exceptable for a 23 year old to go for an 18 year old, Godzilla ended that debate.

Godzilla is a lunatic biblethumper bush fan. Most people would think its fine, especially since back in the fifties and before it was very common for there to be a large age gap with two couples.

> if the world has change so much to the point where its exceptable for a 23 year old to go for an 18 year old,

In biblical times, peoples' kids were getting ready to go off to fight someone somewhere by the time a parent was 23. Guys bought wives of varying ages. That's why the scriptures don't say anything about ages for relationships. God just wants you to make babies.

It's a pretty modern idea that anyone would even think about there being an issue with a 23/18 relationship.

man I was kidding you idiots! Your humor has been blinded! I didn't even read the post anyway!

hon there is NOTHING wrong with an 18 year old dating a 23 year old..............

not unless your 18 and she's 13 or she's 18 and your 13...