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Well I know I could never have an abortion.. but in the end it really is up to you. you need to consider how you would deal with the emotional consequences of whatever you choose, and you really do need to talk to whoever is involved with this. Drop me a pm if you want to x

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ah yes! The crisis centers. I forgot about those. They are easy to find. Check out your school or a community resource center (if you have one.. Im not exactly sure where you reside) .. They should point you in the right direction.

Sweetie, there is no reason you should be judged, things like this happen. I've never had to deal with something like this but I have really good friends that have (and I was there with them every step of the way because they needed a shoulder to lean on), and there is nothing to be ashamed about. You made a mistake and sweetie that's okay, you didn't plan on this happening. There are free clinics that are completely confidential that you can go to to get advice. You should talk to a trusted school offcial, or a trusted adult about this. I know you've got to be scared, and that's completely understandable, this is something new to you and something you didn't plan on. You need to really think about this and talk to someone before you make any choice, and make sure it's the choice you want and not what someone else wants. There are people out there that will help you, and if you need anyone to talk to about this, don't be afraid to shoot me a PM. Good lucky sweetie, I wish you the best! hugs

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My thoughts (Since this thread is actually being moderated to keep the trolls off):

Just consider these things, because my dear friend got pregnant, and thanks to me, she decided to have an abortion. Im not saying that you have to get one though.

You may think that getting an abortion can seriously mess you up, which it can, but giving birth at your age can kill you.

Are you ready to completely leave school and cherish your baby every moment from now on?

Are you planning to go to college? Your chances of going wich a bady is slim to none.

Is the father ready for a baby? Are YOU ready for a baby?

IS having a baby important at this time of your life? Do you really need one right now?

Just ask yourself those questions outloud, and hopefully you make a good choice. I personally think you should get an abortion, but do w/e you like.

which it can, but giving birth at your age can kill you. I hope you didn't mean actually kill you........if you did thats a load of rubbish!

The younger you are, the more risk of complications you take. So, in extreme cases, it could probably kill you. Depending on family history.. diet.. health.. etc

I think this fear of complications, killing you etc... are the opposite. I believe the younger you are the less likely that there will be problems.

16 is not that young. If you're 11, carrying to term can be very risky. If you're in your late 40's, there are also added risks.In any case, carrying to term is riskier to the mother's health than having an abortion. But there is some risk no matter what you do.

Speaking as a person that had a baby at 16, I can only say, this is your decision. And there are many people and places that will offer help to you with whatever you decide. For example if you decide to keep the baby and you do get kicked out, a place called "Birthright" (I think) will help with clothes, housing, etc. Planned Parenthood is also a good place to go to talk to someone.I went from wanting an abortion to adoption to finally deciding to keep the baby. I had NO help from my mother and I never had a father. Looking at my son and my life now, I know I made the right choice for myself. I definately sacrficed many, many things in my life.This is something that no one here can decide for you. Just know that there is help out there for whatever you decide. And remember you are not a bad person because of this.Good luck.

I See no reason for an abortion. Personally I say that if you think you are mature enough to have sex, then you better be able to handle the consequences. It's not the childs fault that you got pregnant so why would you deny it it's right to live. A baby is a gift! My professional opinion on this is that you should seek help in all aspects. If your mother loves you then you should have nothing to worry about. As far as the Health Risks go, they are about the same either way you go. Bottom line, in my complete opinion (Personal and Professional) you should have this child. Take responsibility for your actions, if you don't you only show others how weak of a person you are. It takes more guts, or balls ,or whatever you want to say, to actually be a parent than to do any other thing in this world. I wish you the best of luck to you and your child. If you put your heart into anything, NOTHING can bring you down. Good Times and Good Luck Friend.

There's a shortage of babies for adoption, so if you decide to do that you will be helping some childless couple a lot.

As far as the Health Risks go, they are about the same either way you go.That is incorrect. Do you get your information from anti-abortion organizations? There are actual statistics on this. If they claim what you claim, then they are liars, since they should have the data at hand.> I See no reason for an abortion.People don't get abortions for no reason. Think about it some more, guy. If you insist that she have the child, then you sign up and support him.Original poster, the decision is yours. If you're pregnant, you need to weigh your options and decide what you need to do, regardless of what the kooks think.Are you a born again something-or-other, Mr. "Good Times and Good Luck Friend"?

no Steve A I am not a born again something. I simply am stating an opinion and giving advice just as everyone else is. By the way your online statistics aren't always right my friend (not saying that they are wrong either). You say I need to support her child if I suggest she should have it. Nice way of not thinking buddy. There is a father involved in this, he should help support the child, and if neither one of them can or are not willing to support the child then I suggest adoption. If killing the child is what you would do then fine, I just hope you never impregnate a female. I have stated my opinion and no more need be said so, End of Discussion for me.