I hate people seeing me naked too. I was never abused sexually. Once, we went to the water park and there was a public changing room in the open. I went into the toilet stall to change. That was only because my family was there though. If i was there with nobody i knew, then i would have changed with all the other guys because i would never see them again anyways.
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I have a fear of others...
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I think the answer to your question is not an easy one. How "paralyzing" is this fear? If you were in a situation where you had to undress in front of other guys, how would you react? What a bout in front of a doctor?Also, do you have any idea where this fear comes from? I think some of the most common reasons are a sense of inadequacy (and this isn't always about penis size...it could be just embarrassment over your body in general), an unhealthy sense of shame around nudity and/or sexuality, past sexual abuse, fear of homosexual advances.I think these days it's pretty easy for a fellow to go through life without being seen naked, other than doctor's visits or sexual contact. But it still might be worth figuring out. Especially if you feel "abnormal" because of it.Bottom line, you have the right to privacy.
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I don't have any fear becuase of anything sexual in the past - I know that one reason might be that it's not just about penis size but a few other details (my other post - "a quick question" - will explain that) it wasn't "why?" it was "is that FEAR normal???".
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It's common; whether it's normal is hard to say. Many thousands of years ago, people didn't wear clothing at all (clothing may have come about when people migrated to colder climates). There still are tribes of people who don't wear clothes (although the custom is disappearing), and there are naturist families that are naked all the time, at least when they're on vacation.But it's not unreasonable to fear being seen nude if you're American. Most of us were raised to feel that way, or have had experiences that cause us to be embarrassed when nude in front of others. Europeans have fewer hangups about nudity.
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It's a matter of degree, isn't it - it's pretty standard in many cultures to feel more or less uncomfortable about being naked in public or semi-public settings. But a paralysing fear could be disabling in some situations, such as in the military.
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Yes indeed. Or at fraternity hazings (another uniquely bizarre part of American culture).
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well if I had to (like in the military) I would but I wouldn't do it for any other reason at all! I'm in showers at like summer camps and stuff scared to death someone will walk in on me. I think it's because I feel like I'm different than everybody else naked - see.. i was born prematurely and never seeing another guy naked until like 8th grade made me wonder if I was different (the whole thing from the topic "A quick question" might explain that a little).
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The fact that you were premature has absolutely no bearing on how you (or your private parts) will look at your age. And as for the "problem" you were referring too in your other thread, 1 - as others said, a bit of curvature is normal, 2 - you won't typically be erect when you're in a locker room situation so others wouldn't even know about that.I'm sure you're a very normal kid with very normal development and bits and pieces. That being said, it's important that you be comfortable. If that means being more modest, that's your right.
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well... it's not just when I'm erect.
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Um that particular fear, i can sort of relate to that. Hey lets form a club! (not-seriousness)
If your afraid of being judged, then fear of what you described would make sense.
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I would have to say that this is not normal... though the definition of normal differs from person to person.You must accept that each person's body is different. You're unique, just as everyone else is unique. Someone that is willing to laugh at your for your differences has deep rooted problems themselves. Your fear, in my opinion, is an unreasonable one.
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I would have to say that this is not normal... though the definition of normal differs from person to person.You must accept that each person's body is different. You're unique, just as everyone else is unique. Someone that is willing to laugh at your for your differences has deep rooted problems themselves. Your fear, in my opinion, is an unreasonable one.