I found something on my boyfriend's computer

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Was it like hairy men or something? Or just hairy women? Probably an unknown fetish he has

See I'd get really pissy if I found that my other half was deleting his internet history because I'd be convinced he was up to something (jealousy and paranoia .. I'm awful.. have to control it ) I'd say just ask him about it or you'll be constantly wondering. Does it really bother you?edit: Just making a point.. hiding "something" not meaning just hiding porn..

Originally Posted By: AmzSee I'd get really pissy if I found that my other half was deleting his internet history because I'd be convinced he was up to something (jealousy and paranoia .. I'm awful.. have to control it ) I'd say just ask him about it or you'll be constantly wondering. Does it really bother you? But you have to remember it is just the internet, all they can do is look.

It was like cartoon type furry animal creatures. Hard to describe, if you google it you'll come up with some website like "sexy fur" which was the closest I could find, except this was nastier. The websites he was on were different. I was shocked, so I couldn't remember them. It was something like "gabe works/trade/art/world etc" lol and I don't even remember the other website.Yes well I have been convinced for a while that he's up to something. A few months ago I found a couple porn links in his "bookmarks". He said they were old, so I believed him. Then he told me had one school girl video with the girl stripping. I made him show me it, and I dropped the subject of him hiding any porn. He had that stripper video so hidden no one could find it, so who knows what else he is hiding. However he always jokes around saying if there was anything he didn't want me to see, I'd never know because he deletes his internet history and hides all his files.As far as the furry animal porn goes, I find it really disturbing. I realize every one has fetishes, but this was nasty stuff in my opinion.

Yes! It's far better to look than do anything :smile: I have a problem mainly because of things that happened in the past with other people, and I try not to take it out on my partner now.. I'm a nightmare to put up with lol.

To moonlight.. I thought about this a bit more and really think you should talk to him because you will drive yourself crazy thinking about it :smile:

Edit: I just read through your post. Does he know that it would bother you a lot? I wouldn't mind too much if mine was looking at porn. Maybe he hides it to avoid upsetting you..?

Quote:But you have to remember it is just the internet, all they can do is look. That is true. It's not so much that he is looking at, it's that he tells me he isn't and then furry animal porn is disgusting in my opinion. And yes I guess I will ask him about it, although I doubt he'll admit to it, if he looks at it all the time.

Okay you have to tell him that you have a problem with him lying and hiding things then (not necessarily that bluntly lol)Just out of interest.. is it this sort of thing? Wikipedia

So its basically anime with animals really? Cartoon porn at best.

I'm not sure if that is what moonlight means. I've never seen it before. There was a discussion on it a while ago in this forum but I can't remember what it was called!!

Originally Posted By: Joe MelvilleSo its basically anime with animals really? Cartoon porn at best. I guess that's what I'd describe it as... It was just weird. Whatever floats some one's boat I guess. Just never thought that some one would be my boyfriend lol. EDIT: I don't know if it's like Furry Fandom or not, the only thing I could find that was similar was "Sexy Fur". I'm not sure I'm allowed to post the link.

Not trying to make anyone feel worse, and I completely respect what you are saying Helms.. but I have to butt in here and just point out that if he is willing to hide such insignificant things, which they are - I wouldn't really be bothered about those - is it really showing much honesty? Why hide it?

Originally Posted By: Amz

Not trying to make anyone feel worse, and I completely respect what you are saying Helms.. but I have to butt in here and just point out that if he is willing to hide such insignificant things, which they are - I wouldn't really be bothered about those - is it really showing much honesty? Why hide it?

I have to agree with Amz. I am not blowing anything out of proportion, as I haven't even said anything to him. I was never mad about it but yes I was disturbed by it and I posted here. I don't like porn in general and what I saw was disgusting. It's the fact that he tells me he's not looking at any, but then has this furry animal crap on his computer. If he looks at this then what's to say he isn't watching the actual stuff. This only leads me to believe he's lying and just trying to cover his tracks.

The fact that I actually caught his computer before he deleted his history was simply an accident. He never slips up. He told me just yesterday that he didn't look at or watch any porn, on the phone and to my face. I can't remember what we were talking about, but porn came up. Then later that day I find furry stuff on his computer. Pretty much flat out lying if you ask me.

Why would he feel the need to lie about furry animal porn?

You shouldn't be going through his computer, that's his personal space, as is the porn he watches. Respect his space and don't make him feel guilty, or act like he doesn't do it.

Why would he feel the need to lie about furry animal porn? cuz u don't like it? is there anyway some one else could have used his computer? i mean if he's so into deleting his history he's probly got that in to habbit. i dk.. guess he could have been in a hurry and forgot. i remember cpouple years ago.. wow it was a long time ago.. i was looking for a pic of micky mouse (i dk why... ) but i came across a pic some one did of him naked. LMAO i couldn't stop laughing at micky's black dick and balls... i mean it was just so funny. i mean i had never thoguht about micky mouse having a package in all my life till that pic i found. lmaoi delete my history... not that i look at anythign bad. about all i look at is i guess light porn (if it dont; scare me to death) i mean something like a woman in a wet see threw bathing suite or in a bikini. (i don't think of a woman in her underwear or bikini pron tho) my gf don;t knwo about it but i look at it. she knows i check out half way naked womaen bent over or sitting on dirtbikes and motocrycles tho. nothing bad tho.. a while back i even used one as a avatar. but i still delete my history. keeps crap from being all clogged and suposley keeps ur cp runing faster (well that's wut i was told) like it has less to remeber and memery bogs it down. ... acorse since i got this new one that's not a problum anymore but i still have the habet. like b4 i log off i delete my cookies and files and stuff (supossenly it helps too) my brother don't delete anything ... but i have our history thing set on 1 day so it auto deletes the history after a day. i dk my point of the rambling.. i dk.. i dk ur bf so i dk.. but maybe he's not up to anything bad... (maybe he is??) i can understand being pissed abotu lieing but... i mean porn.. now if u find kiddy porn turn the F*er in. (not sayign he is..just sayign it could be worse that u find...shit i hope not tho)

I don't go through his computer I found it by accident and for your information he'd go through my computer any time with out a problem. So it works both ways.I apologize for having the "incorrect" reaction about furry animal porn. I guess I should just accept whatever he's into and have no personal opinion about it. However he should be allowed to tell me when something I like sexually is creepy (which he does, he voices his opinions all the time). I just had never heard of such a thing and I was shocked. I NEVER said anything to him about it, or made nasty remarks. I posted on a forum.

I agree with Helmsman. Why don't you just talk to him about it? And why are you still with this guy anyway? It appears, to me anyway, that you are not very happy with him. (going by your previous posts)

Men and women will keep certain things to themselves, no matter what. I don't even know of any married couples who don't keep SOMETHING to themselves. Especially when it comes to fantasizing. Also, a healthy, active sexual relationship does not mean there wont be fantasizing and such on the side. He's probably embarrassed about it.

Originally Posted By: DxLISHxISx_43I agree with Helmsman. Why don't you just talk to him about it? And why are you still with this guy anyway? It appears, to me anyway, that you are not very happy with him. (going by your previous posts) I will probably end up talking about, however I won't voice my opinion as to what I think about it. I wouldn't try to make him feel bad about it, even if I am not a fan. We've been trying to work things out and they seem to be going better.

Get a grip.If you have reasonable suspicion thats one thing..However, I delete my internet files daily sometimes hourly. If you have a problem talk to him about it.I feel like I'm a pretty paranoid individual and I'm not that bad.

The view that partners should tell each other everything is not one I agree with. I think people should be allowed to have their own private spaces. If everything we did or thought were open to view, none of us would look good.