I found something on my boyfriend's computer

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Originally Posted By: Amz

Not trying to make anyone feel worse, and I completely respect what you are saying Helms.. but I have to butt in here and just point out that if he is willing to hide such insignificant things, which they are - I wouldn't really be bothered about those - is it really showing much honesty? Why hide it?

I have to agree with Amz. I am not blowing anything out of proportion, as I haven't even said anything to him. I was never mad about it but yes I was disturbed by it and I posted here. I don't like porn in general and what I saw was disgusting. It's the fact that he tells me he's not looking at any, but then has this furry animal crap on his computer. If he looks at this then what's to say he isn't watching the actual stuff. This only leads me to believe he's lying and just trying to cover his tracks.

The fact that I actually caught his computer before he deleted his history was simply an accident. He never slips up. He told me just yesterday that he didn't look at or watch any porn, on the phone and to my face. I can't remember what we were talking about, but porn came up. Then later that day I find furry stuff on his computer. Pretty much flat out lying if you ask me.

Why would he feel the need to lie about furry animal porn?

You shouldn't be going through his computer, that's his personal space, as is the porn he watches. Respect his space and don't make him feel guilty, or act like he doesn't do it.

Why would he feel the need to lie about furry animal porn? cuz u don't like it? is there anyway some one else could have used his computer? i mean if he's so into deleting his history he's probly got that in to habbit. i dk.. guess he could have been in a hurry and forgot. i remember cpouple years ago.. wow it was a long time ago.. i was looking for a pic of micky mouse (i dk why... ) but i came across a pic some one did of him naked. LMAO i couldn't stop laughing at micky's black dick and balls... i mean it was just so funny. i mean i had never thoguht about micky mouse having a package in all my life till that pic i found. lmaoi delete my history... not that i look at anythign bad. about all i look at is i guess light porn (if it dont; scare me to death) i mean something like a woman in a wet see threw bathing suite or in a bikini. (i don't think of a woman in her underwear or bikini pron tho) my gf don;t knwo about it but i look at it. she knows i check out half way naked womaen bent over or sitting on dirtbikes and motocrycles tho. nothing bad tho.. a while back i even used one as a avatar. but i still delete my history. keeps crap from being all clogged and suposley keeps ur cp runing faster (well that's wut i was told) like it has less to remeber and memery bogs it down. ... acorse since i got this new one that's not a problum anymore but i still have the habet. like b4 i log off i delete my cookies and files and stuff (supossenly it helps too) my brother don't delete anything ... but i have our history thing set on 1 day so it auto deletes the history after a day. i dk my point of the rambling.. i dk.. i dk ur bf so i dk.. but maybe he's not up to anything bad... (maybe he is??) i can understand being pissed abotu lieing but... i mean porn.. now if u find kiddy porn turn the F*er in. (not sayign he is..just sayign it could be worse that u find...shit i hope not tho)

I don't go through his computer I found it by accident and for your information he'd go through my computer any time with out a problem. So it works both ways.I apologize for having the "incorrect" reaction about furry animal porn. I guess I should just accept whatever he's into and have no personal opinion about it. However he should be allowed to tell me when something I like sexually is creepy (which he does, he voices his opinions all the time). I just had never heard of such a thing and I was shocked. I NEVER said anything to him about it, or made nasty remarks. I posted on a forum.

I agree with Helmsman. Why don't you just talk to him about it? And why are you still with this guy anyway? It appears, to me anyway, that you are not very happy with him. (going by your previous posts)

Men and women will keep certain things to themselves, no matter what. I don't even know of any married couples who don't keep SOMETHING to themselves. Especially when it comes to fantasizing. Also, a healthy, active sexual relationship does not mean there wont be fantasizing and such on the side. He's probably embarrassed about it.

Originally Posted By: DxLISHxISx_43I agree with Helmsman. Why don't you just talk to him about it? And why are you still with this guy anyway? It appears, to me anyway, that you are not very happy with him. (going by your previous posts) I will probably end up talking about, however I won't voice my opinion as to what I think about it. I wouldn't try to make him feel bad about it, even if I am not a fan. We've been trying to work things out and they seem to be going better.

Get a grip.If you have reasonable suspicion thats one thing..However, I delete my internet files daily sometimes hourly. If you have a problem talk to him about it.I feel like I'm a pretty paranoid individual and I'm not that bad.

The view that partners should tell each other everything is not one I agree with. I think people should be allowed to have their own private spaces. If everything we did or thought were open to view, none of us would look good.

I'm done talking about the subject. What ever happens will happen. I don't expect him to tell me everything and I never have. I never brought it up to him and freaked out. I never said anything about it. I just posted here, so I don't need to get a grip. As I never "flipped" out about it. I have the right to feel how I wish to feel about furry animal porn. I think I have the right to be curious about why there was links to furry animal porn on my boyfriend's computer. I think any one would be curious. As far as the comment I made about him being up to something (meaning porn), well yes I do think he watches porn. I happen to think he's lying to me, I don't expect him not to watch it as all teen age boys seem to. I don't trust him when he says he doesn't. That doesn't mean I'm going to flip out about it, all I was trying to get across was I do think he's lying to me. I apologize if I came off as controlling or whatever else you people think I am. I just happen not to believe what he tells me about the subject.

I didnt really get what u meant until i checked out the "sexy fur" thing and its the weirdest fuckin thing ive ever seen. I dont see how that turns ANYONE on, its just wrong IMO.

Privacy, lol jk maybe he was just having fun with friends watching weird stuff, you should ask him why he was watching that

I agree. Originally Posted By: Megadeth90I didnt really get what u meant until i checked out the "sexy fur" thing and its the weirdest fuckin thing ive ever seen. I dont see how that turns ANYONE on, its just wrong IMO. Maybe what turns YOU on is "wrong" to others. All I'm saying is you need to understand people are different and not be so judgemental.

I'm a 19 year old male and I'm a virgin believe it or not.. and I do admit I check the porn sites time to time if I have a girlfriend I do not look at porn so long as I'm in a relationship.As to my saying "get a grip" from my point of view you sound pretty paraniod.

If you're both teenagers, I really don't think you are at a point where you should expect each other to share EVERYTHING with the other. He's a kid. He's gonna hide stuff from you. But it's typically gonna be stuff that doesn't matter. I think it really is a violation of his privacy though for you to feel like you can dig deep into his computer anytime you want. Would that go for his journal or his letters to other people as well? He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend.

I don't mean for that to sound harsh. I just feel like maybe you're expecting more from him than you have a right to.

As for the files you found, two thoughts.
#1 - If you found them in his recent history, then I think it's wrong to assume he is hiding them from you. If you looked at the history for today on my laptop, you would find Best Buy. Doesn't mean I'm trying to hide the fact that I was looking at Best Buy.
#2 - I don't think it's wrong at all for you to be a bit weirded out by that furry porn stuff. It's kind of strange and different. And you're right - your reaction to it is what it is. You have a right to that. But it doesn't make your boyfriend a weirdo.

Originally Posted By: damienIf you're both teenagers, I really don't think you are at a point where you should expect each other to share EVERYTHING with the other. He's a kid. He's gonna hide stuff from you. But it's typically gonna be stuff that doesn't matter. I think it really is a violation of his privacy though for you to feel like you can dig deep into his computer anytime you want. Would that go for his journal or his letters to other people as well? He's not your husband, he's your boyfriend. I don't mean for that to sound harsh. I just feel like maybe you're expecting more from him than you have a right to.I don't expect him to share everything with me as I already stated. If you read through everything you would also realize I don't search through his computer. It was an accident that I even found this and naturally I'm curious. I also have never read his journal, emails, or letters to any one else so give me a break. I do allow him to read my online journal, which is the only journal I have, because I don't see any reason to hide it. So give me a break. What I expect out of a relationship is what I expect, not what you and every one else on this forum happens to think is reasonable.

just trying to reinforce what Helmsman said here, but I really think its possible he wasn't looking at it from the porn perspective. I know that my friends and i are occasionally immature enough to look up really wierd or disgusting things, just so that we can send a link or picture to somebody, or try to gross out whoever our target is. My best friend and i went on my roommate's laptop once and replaced his background with an image of two elderly obese chinese ladies playing in diarrhea, for example. It took us a long time to find that particular image, and we had many similarly disturbing things in our history folder from the hunt.Point: I would give him the benefit of the doubt and assume he was being stupid or something, and assume that furry animal cartoon porn is not something that turns him on in any way. It could easily be that he heard of it somehow and was so surprised he just checked it out. Many of the people involved in this post have checked it out i'm sure, including you, just because they heard about it and hadn't encountered it before.

OK just wanna butt in here.

I found out about "furries" via the same way I bet 90% of other guys do.

One of my mates sent me an MSN message with a link saying "dude, check this crap out! what the hell is going on?!"

I bet you anything this is exactly what happened.

If your guy has mates who use their computers online, they'll send him links to weird crap.

Anyone whos heard of stileproject, goatse, tubgirl, hentai or anything similar will know EXACTLY what I mean.

I find the whole idea behind "furries" and "yiffing" to be hilarious. Doesn't mean I get turned on by it.

I might even actively look for it when bored, just for a laugh, cos face it - a fox with human genitals rubbing itself? It's classic comedy gold!

I would NEVER contemplate going through my partners computer historyIt is the electronic equivilent of going through their filing cabinet reading documentsThe same goes for looking at emails one anyone elses computerIt is no different than reading their personal lettersIf the nessecity is there, the relationship has more than its share of problems

yes but that doesnt apply here,shes said repeatedly that it was an accident finding it, as it was in the regular browser history its completely believable, and everyone jumping on her back for going through his computer when she didnt, probably isnt doing much good