No where to sit at lunch!!!

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We move a lot so being in a new school and having to make a new set of friends is kind of becoming "one of those things" for me now. Sitting in the Bathroom is even worse than sitting on your own because in the bathroom you have slim to no chance of coming into contact with people that may spark a friendship. I am generally quite shy but if i see someone on there own i will either ask if they are ok or ask if they would like to come sit with my group of friends and I. The school i am in at the moment was probably one of the hardest i have found to fit into a 'group'. Its an international school and has only about 250 people most friendship groups are set on nationality but i really wanted to avoid becoming like that and after hanging out with a few sets of people i found a good group of friends i now hang out or speak with all the time. So don't be dis-heartened if the first group of people you hang out with aren't quite to your taste just carry on looking.Fitting in is just one of those things , in every school there will be people you don't get along with and those you do, you just really got to put yourself out there and use your personality to find a group of people to suit you.Don't you have any friends within your classes or Extra Curricular activities ? If you do maybe ask them what they are doing at lunch and if you can sit with them or join them in what they are doing ??Another good way to make friends is to join one of the club's at your school... preferably a team orientated event it keeps you in contact with people and is a great way to fit in with people of a similar interest's.Hope this HelpsToriex

I'd say the easiest thing for you to do is go up to someone else who is sitting alone and sit with them (and maybe even become friends, or if you don't like that one guy, sit somewhere else with someone who's sitting alone).There's bound to be several people sitting alone in the lunch room.

how i made friends is... all from the classroom. You hear them talking about similar interests and it goes on from there. but try not to sound like a creep like ur desperate for friends. Once u made one friend, they introduce you to other friends.

Old thread.But still, if you want to make new friends, the best approach is to put yourself out there man. During lunch just walk up to a table of guys and gals (preferably, as one of them will enjoy your company) and then just play the, "Looks like this is where the party's at!" enthusiast guy routine. Or...Walk up to a crowd and ask them a question. You'll interrupt them, but you'll want to get their opinion on something so they'll listen. Simple, "what do you think about the food here, guys"? or even, "What do y'all think about the M. Vick situation"? Girls love to give their opinion, so if you get them you'll get responses, BUT you have to work on the guys as all males have a tendency to not like abrasive intruders. Then while you're talking, just take a seat. Easy. From there just keep talking and asking questions -- try to befriend the guys and the girls will follow.

Remember that you absolutely DO NOT talk trash about anything or anyone. Always find something positive to say, and if someone disagrees with your viewpoint, just let them have the last word and drop the subject. But if you go up to someone's table and ask them what they think of the food, and they say, "oh, I don't know," don't reply with, "it sucks!" Just say, "yeah, it's okay."

For starters, sit in a public area (cafeteria, outside, hallway...etc)
Personally, to make friends, i recommend cafeteria.
Making new friends/meeting new people in the hallway, just doesn't really happen.
Anyway.
So once you're comfortable in your seat, don't think ,'I am a loner, i am a loser, i am a loner...'
Chances are, it will be written on your face.
And people can tell.
So have a friendly face and enjoy your lunch.
Who knows?
A super cute girl who's new to the school may slide in across from you and you two can hit it off right away.
Don't forget.
First impression DO mean a lot.
First impression determines whether or not someone is going to want to find out more about your personality.
Always make yourself presentable.

Thanks everyone for the advice. School is coming up in a few days now and,the closer it gets, the more I am freaking out. Last year was awful, and I want this year to be different. I just want to get good grades, have lots of fun,and to make a lot of friends this year. I'm really nervous that this year will be a complete repeat of last year and that I'll be totally miserable. I REALLY don't want to have a bad year again this year. If anyone has any advice about friends, lunch or anything school related that could calm me down and make me panic less, please post.

> the closer it gets, the more I am freaking out

You are setting yourself up for failure before it even happens. Stop worrying about it. Face the "problem" when it actually happens.

What you're doing now is convincing yourself that no nmatter what, you will have no one to sit with at lunch and you'll be the loser. Stop doing that.

That's really good advice... I agree, live in the present.

Honestly, if i was in your situation, first thing i would do is sit at the "nerd table". Every school has one, and nerds are pretty nice people so im sure they'd at least say hello if you sat down. After you sit there for a few days, maybe you'll meet some freinds, or if the people at that table don't spark your interest, just look around the room and see if there's anyone from your classes. If you see someone who looks intresting to you, who's in ona your classes, just go up to the table and be like "Hey, you're in Mrs. So-and-so's class right? Mind if i sit here?" and if they ask who you are, just lie and be like "Well, im (insert your name). I'm new here". People seem to like new kids alot.Also, try to find people who look like you, like style and stuff. Its not really a great idea if your white and nerdy to go up to the gangster table and wanna sit down. Just find a table that looks like it would be comfortable with you around.One more thing, try talking to somoene that is in the class you have lunch in, or right before. If you make a freind in that class, you could be like, "hey, mind if i eat lunch with you?"