I Want to freaking kill this kid.

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Ok, so I spend my summers in Maine, but I normally live in Ohio. So, back home, there is this kid who is known to be quite snuggly, and touchy. He also happens to be best friends with my girlfriend. He always wants to hang around with her, being completely stupid about the fact that she is MY girlfriend, and I DO NOT want him fucking touching her like he does.So whenever I am talking to my girlfriend online, I am always like, hey, whatcha do today? and she ALWAYS responds like, "oh hey, I have just been hanging with trevor" or "hey, just doing stuff with trevor" or "watching a movie with trevor". Now this kid is a huge pussy, and wimp, and a TON of people think that he is gay, but he claims that he isn't. Also, I can't fucking touch this kid cause my girlfriend will kill me and most likely break up with me.I swear he just does it to piss me the fuck off, for example, during the school day, I will be walking down the hall with her, and he will come up and hug her for extensive periods of time and like walk down the hall way while hugging her FUCKING "OBLIVIOUS" TO THE FACT THAT I AM RIGHT FUCKING THERE WANTING TO TAKE HIS HEAD OFF. Also, whenever we have a ton of people over, and watch movies in her basement, he always scoots over and tries to "join in" on us cuddling, and I just want to fucking kill him. He does this to other girls, but I swear he just it extra to my gf just to fucking piss me off, and I've had enough of it.The reason I am so fucking pissed right now is because she just said that they have been watching movies together all fucking day, and she can't fucking realize that she shouldn't be doing it. And I guarentee that during the span of their movie watching, they he has been cuddling with her and feeling her up and stuff, but SHE DOESN'T FUCKING REALIZE THAT ITS NOT RIGHT.He is there literally every day this whole summer, and I can't do anything about it and I dont know WHAT they do.I'm really sorry about the language and the anger in it, but I have just had to deal with this for too long and I actually just punched a hole in my wall...I just went for a 5 mile run after I typed this^^^ and I think that it really helped me get some stress and anger out.Please I really just need someone to talk to to drain out my anger. If you want to help me I guess you could hit me up on AIM, my sn is Ibanezfenderrr but if you decide to talk, prepare to be drained out with info x_x.Anyways, I just needed to get that out cause my anger at him right now is just unbearable.

Have you talked to her about how this makes you uncomfortable?

It is quite complicated actually, cause if I say that, then she will just be like "oh, I'm sorry, I will try not to" and then the next day I will see him hugging her.She is like afraid to hurt his feeling or something, which is fucking pathetic.

Then talk to her again and let her know you're being serious.

It does seem like this friend of hers is over stepping his boundaries. If he weren't over doing it, you'd be okay with them still being friends, right?

You need to let her know because right now, all you're doing is giving yourself an ulcer from keeping all this anger inside yourself. And she can't be afraid of hurting his feelings. All she needs to do is tell her friend to back off a bit because it's making her boyfriend uncomfortable.

If he's truly a good friend of hers, he would understand and respect her AND your decision. But if he continues, then it's more obvious that all he's doing is playing with your head.

Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarThen talk to her again and let her know you're being serious.It does seem like this friend of hers is over stepping his boundaries. If he weren't over doing it, you'd be okay with them still being friends, right?You need to let her know because right now, all you're doing is giving yourself an ulcer from keeping all this anger inside yourself. And she can't be afraid of hurting his feelings. All she needs to do is tell her friend to back off a bit because it's making her boyfriend uncomfortable.If he's truly a good friend of hers, he would understand and respect her AND your decision. But if he continues, then it's more obvious that all he's doing is playing with your head. I would be perfectly fine with it, as long as he wasn't touchy, and he wasn't such a prick.He does this to make me feel uncomfortable. He likes messing with peoples minds and lives.If she tells him that it is making me uncomfortable, then he will be satisfied, and still try to drive me crazy. It gives him pleasure to know that he has successfully "mind damaged" someone, and I don't wanna give him the pleasure. I want him to know that I am going to kick his ass one of these days, but he know I wont cause of my girlfriend....just wait until we break up...

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He does this to make me feel uncomfortable. He likes messing with peoples minds and lives.

do you know for a fact that this is why he does this? has he said, or has your gf said? im not doubting you for a second, but it could partially be in your head. when i think about shit going on with me, i make it seem worse than how it actually is. you can read in my other posts what im talking about mostly.

you realllllly need to tell her that it doesnt make you feel comfortable. how would she feel if a girl was cuddling you all the time and watching movies with you all day? maybe you can ask her that and see what she says.

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...just wait until we break up...

you think you will break up?

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He does this to make me feel uncomfortable. He likes messing with peoples minds and lives.

do you know for a fact that this is why he does this? has he said, or has your gf said? im not doubting you for a second, but it could partially be in your head. when i think about shit going on with me, i make it seem worse than how it actually is. you can read in my other posts what im talking about mostly.

you realllllly need to tell her that it doesnt make you feel comfortable. how would she feel if a girl was cuddling you all the time and watching movies with you all day? maybe you can ask her that and see what she says.

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...just wait until we break up...

you think you will break up?

I am most certain, because I knew this kid before we were going out and he used to kinda tell me about stuff that he does. Then we kinda stopped being friends, then my GF made us in contact again.

So what I did was I kinda "created" a new girl who just moved here in maine, and am now telling her about how we were out on our boat all day, and I am going to make her insanely jealous until she cracks, and then I am just gonna fire back at her everything she does.

And, no, I don't think we are gonna break up soon, I was just making that remark that I WILL hurt this kid for all the anger if something does happen.

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So what I did was I kinda "created" a new girl who just moved here in maine, and am now telling her about how we were out on our boat all day, and I am going to make her insanely jealous until she cracks, and then I am just gonna fire back at her everything she does.
You just made a huge and moronic mistake.

Playing mind games DOESN'T get you anywhere. What you're doing is playing with your girlfriend's feelings and that's completely unfair and unnecessary.

All you're doing is playing right into the hands of this guy.

Be a man and talk to her. Who gives a fuck about what this guy thinks. This is your relationship, no one else's business.

And also threating to kick this guy's ass doesn't help as well. If you continue to hold in this anger, it's going to explode into something ugly and you might do something you'll regret.

Ask yourself, what means more to you, your relationship or winning this petty fight with some random guy?

I really don't care at this point, I just want her to realize what its like for me.So far it seems to be working. She keeps asking me about her and I can tell she is getting angry/jealous.After a while she will crack, and then go all emotional on me and break down and be like "Well, I know you have been talking about this girl a lot, and I just wanted to know what you guys have been doing" or something along that line. She is incredibly nosy with me, and gets all protective when I talk to other girls.I am just gonna reply and then explain the situation.It may seem cruel, but it is the only way that it is going to actually make her realize what it is like for me. After that, I should be able to control what she lets him do.I have a fairly different way of handling things, so what you think is acceptable is probably completely different from what I think is acceptable.

What a way to be a man.

What you're doing is no different from what that other guy is doing. Congrats, you are now on the same, low level as he his.

It would be a lot less cruel if you just break up with her now.

Originally Posted By: Virtual_StarWhat a way to be a man.What you're doing is no different from what that other guy is doing. Congrats, you are now on the same, low level as he his.It would be a lot less cruel if you just break up with her now. again... Originally Posted By: snatchI have a fairly different way of handling things, so what you think is acceptable is probably completely different from what I think is acceptable. and I know that this will work.

You think it's acceptable to play and hurt another person's feelings just so you can say, "Ha! Now you know how I feel"? Completely childish. What's worse, you're now exposing how little you respect your girlfriend.It's not too late to just break up with her now, rather than have this drag on and turn into something worse.How can you come here and ask for advice if you weren't planning on listening?

let us know how it goes!!!! im actually very curious now.

Originally Posted By: ashley69let us know how it goes!!!! im actually very curious now. I will let you know

How old are you?

any more news?

Originally Posted By: CockRockerHow old are you? 17 almost 18, but that is irrelevant.I will keep you guys updated as things happen.

I know the type of guy you're talking about, and they are pretty sneaky but you're acting just like him. In the end if all you wanted to say was "Now you know how I feel", your girlfriend is going to think you're quite childish, especially if she finds out this girl is not even real.It would be much better to just man up and tell you girlfriend that you don't like how this guy acts around her, and if she doesn't do anything to change the situation, then you might as well end the relationship because it will only make you more and more angry. Making up girls and telling lies to try and trick your girlfriend into seeing how you feel is just going to get complicated and is definitely not worth it. You'll just look bad in the end, and if it is tactics like those that you feel are acceptable, well then good luck with any future girlfriends, I'm sure they will really like you.

I have asked her several times already, and no matter what I do, or no matter what she says, he STILL does it to her, and she is AFRAID to tell him not to. She doesn't understand it.

so whats going on? did you talk to her or no?

If she is afraid to tell him not to, then how does making up some girl to get her jealous help to solve anything. I don't see how it will make her less afraid to tell him. Unless she stops being afraid and tells this guy that he can't keep doing what he does, you're going to have to either choose to live with it for now or end your relationship. You could also try and talk to the guy yourself and hope he isn't a stubborn little shit about it. As I said, I know the type of guy you're talking about and if you did anything violent against him it will only make you look bad since he probably wouldn't fight back or anything, and your girlfriend wouldn't be too pleased with you obviously.