I finally did it.

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I thought she gave excellent advice! The best relationsips I have ever seen are ones in which each person took care of themselves first, and worried about the love stuff last. And when they did that, love found THEM, not the other way around!

I agree with virtual. Youre doing very good right now Capri, your getting educated, got your kid taken care of, your on the right path and your doing great! You did a hard thing by letting ur bf go but it was the right thing to do.Your young still, you will find love again someday, right now star is right, focus on yourself and your child and just be in love with yourself and your child, you and her are number 1 so take care of you and her and focus on school!Great job on what you did! Good luck to you!

Quote:thats terrible fucking advice virtual! how are you going to say "forget about guys" and relationships can wait! Easy, if you can't handle your own life, why try to handle others?Remember what I told you, you can't help others if you can't help yourself.This young lady has a more important life to worry about than some guy: her daughter.Are we having another bad day?  Quote:are you ignorant, im sorry i know we said we'd drop this beef between us, but you know what im sensitive about this subject.I'm afraid I have no clue what you're talking about. I never said anything about dropping any "beef" against you. I'll be honest, I still don't like you, but I am willing to get along. Or at least, try to. And no, not only am I not "ignorant", I don't know what you're "sensitive" to.  Quote:for the simple fact that my ex was told that same information and you know what, she puts EVERYTHING in front of relationships now, and thats terrible, shes highly depressed and constantly stressed!That's not terrible, that's being responsible for one's life. And once you get control of your life, then you can add a relationship. You can't ignore your own life for someone else. Stress and being depressed is a part of life. Once you learn to deal with it, you become more aware on how to handle life's challenges.

If you didn't know already Virtual, GPMY's ex-girlfriend left him pregnant with his baby. Got an abortion and never even told him she was. I've talked with him in private, and for the sake of him I'm not going to tell you all of it on the public forum.

I think he can relate better to this than anyone else.

Stop being a bitch, seriously, it doesn't make it any better when you sarcastically say "Are you having a bad day again?"

I think he can relate better to this than anyone else. Really, so you're saying that her primary focus is to find someone and be in a relationship/

Quote:If you didn't know already Virtual, GPMY's ex-girlfriend left him pregnant with his baby. Got an abortion and never even told him she was. I've talked with him in private, and for the sake of him I'm not going to tell you all of it on the public forum. He mentioned that, however, that's the reason why his judgement is cloudy.His relationship has nothing to do with this one. So, there's no reason for him to take my advice FOR HER so personally.  Quote:Stop being a bitch, seriously, it doesn't make it any better when you sarcastically say "Are you having a bad day again?" Lol, that's like me telling you to stop with your temper tantrums.

No, I think she needs a break, but I don't think she should throw the thought of love or guys completely out the window. She has a kid, right? I don't think it's a good situation to be a single mother with a child especially since she can't get child support since they weren't married. You need more support financially and for parenting.

Most of the time when you thought I was mad, I wasn't at all. I was poking fun and being sarcastic. And the caps I used wasn't me screaming, it was for emphasis. And you don't realize how irritating you can make people. He's not a loose cannon and neither am I, you just seem to draw anger out of people a lot.

I don't think she should throw the thought of love or guys completely out the window. Why not until she gets her life sorted out???.. Thats what the advice was.. No one said forget about guys FOREVER...

Well she should still keep her eye out for guys. Like not go all out looking for guys, but be open to seeing someone. But definitely have a high tolerance for trust.

I know her heart is probably really vulnerable right now, but she has a child who needs a father and waiting too long might not be good for the child.

Quote:Most of the time when you thought I was mad, I wasn't at all. I was poking fun and being sarcastic. And the caps I used wasn't me screaming, it was for emphasis. Oh, so the "fuck you"'s and "stop being a bitch" is fun and sarcastic?Honey, I'm sorry but I'm raising my official BS flag on that one. Get real.  Quote:And you don't realize how irritating you can make people. He's not a loose cannon and neither am I, you just seem to draw anger out of people a lot. Yeah, and I'm an international super model.And I don't draw out the worst in people. People are responsible for how they react.  Originally Posted By: cooldawg2No, I think she needs a break, but I don't think she should throw the thought of love or guys completely out the window.I didn't say she should completely give up on finding a boyfriend. You and Grown love to assume things, don't'cha? She needs to focus on herself right now. Later, when she has her life together, then she can do whatever she wants.

OK Well then I guess she should just find some guy and get married so he can support them. That would be best.

Originally Posted By: Virtual_Star And I don't draw out the worst in people. People are responsible for how they react. So you're telling me if I say "You're a Japanese slanty eyed faggot." It's your fault for getting irritated and not mine? How does that work?

Quote:So you're telling me if I say "You're a Japanese slanty eyed faggot." It's your fault for getting irritated and not mine? How does that work? You love taking things out of context, don't'cha?Sigh, I'd explain, but I've done that so many times before, it just goes over your head.By the way, I forgot... Originally Posted By: cooldawg2I know her heart is probably really vulnerable right now, but she has a child who needs a father and waiting too long might not be good for the child. Sorry, but you're being a bit naive.She doesn't NEED a father at the moment. Obviously, from her past posts, the guy wasn't being responsible and the child is being taken care by other family members. Fatherless children don't all grow up to be disfunctional adults and single moms are capable in raising families. It's much harder but it can be done.When the time is right, the OP will find someone. But now isn't the time.One day you'll understand.

You said it's up to the person how they react. So how am I taking things out of context if that's an example of someone being justified to get mad?I understand this perfectly well. Two parents are better than one, but she needs to find the right guy. You're stereotyping men if you think there's not one guy out there who would help her out in a relationship. I don't wanna be an ass here, but you definitely need to be married before you even plan on having kids. I can understand when the baby's an accident, but I would have 100% trust with the person before I ever even slept with them. It's the only safe bet if you're husband ends up leaving you, because you can get child support. If you have a child when you're just boyfriend and girlfriend you're shit outta luck if he leaves you.

Quote:You said it's up to the person how they react. So how am I taking things out of context if that's an example of someone being justified to get mad?Pass.  Quote:I understand this perfectly well. Two parents are better than one, but she needs to find the right guy. She doesn't NEED to and certainly not right now.  Quote:You're stereotyping men if you think there's not one guy out there who would help her out in a relationship. I'm stereotyping no one. I didn't say anything close to that. It's like you're reading something totally different from what I type.I'm not saying there's no one to help. There may be someone out there for her. But right now, she doesn't need a relationship to help get her life on track. She needs to do that on her own.  Quote:I don't wanna be an ass here, but you definitely need to be married before you even plan on having kids. I can understand when the baby's an accident, but I would have 100% trust with the person before I ever even slept with them. It's the only safe bet if you're husband ends up leaving you, because you can get child support. If you have a child when you're just boyfriend and girlfriend you're shit outta luck if he leaves you. Wow, if only life where that simple. Things really are different when you're a kid, huh?Thanks for sharing.

It's called condoms, birth control, and a fun little thing called abstinence. I'm not arguing about this anymore. We both have our separate opinions that seemingly aren't going to change.

Hey guess what? She did use protection.How about reading her posts before jumping to conclusions?That would help a great deal!Sorry, but you are naive.

I wasn't talking about her.

Dude, seriously, I'm with VS, your saying that people shouldnt have sex with someone until they've legally bound themselves together, wrong, people shouldn't have sex with someone until they are both prepared for the possible outcomes.
Condoms and birth control are not 100% effective, absinance is, except that it requires alot of willpower on both sides to work for any length of time.
You think it's the mothers fault for being a single parent? you think its impossible for a single mother to raise a child? those are two absolutes that my life happens to disprove. My father left my mother when i was less than a year old, he payed child suport and got me an my sister on weekends, but my mom did most of the raising. I think she's done an amazing job under the circumstances, so if you believe those statements, seriously, then you really are naive. I'll concede that its not an ideal situation, and it is generally good for a child to have both a male and female input to their growth, I stress the word generally, if the father was a jerk, or if there is no more conection between the parents, then I believe its healthier for the child to be raised by a single parent.