Nice Guys Finish Last

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In reply to: I'm with a wonderful man ummmm typo?

Me again, throwing in a quick point.

I recently started talking to a girl, and things seemed ok to begin with. Possibly because I was quite sarcastic to her.

After a while, she decided to stop talking to me.
The last thing she said to me was "stop being nice".

Interesting huh?

oo god i thought it was i am a wonderful man wow i dont know how to read lol i funno how i miss read that i read that over and over again

im a very nice guy and ive had 2 chicks, but none have lasted for too long. i treat them very well, probably too well. lol. but there is one junior who all the girls love even though he dates the hottest chick in school, because he will drive anyone around who cant drive if they want taco bell or something. so he gets the chicks and he is extremely nice. i just think i get to be too nice and that might not help. its soooo hard!

Nice guys DO finish last, but you don't need to be an asshole to change that.Here are some rules of thumb for guys:- Use confident body language- Be nice ON YOUR OWN TERMS- Be cocky and funny- Be unpredictable- Play hard to get- End dates and conversations YOURSELF- Don't act like all you want is sex, but don't act nervous whenever the subject comes up- Don't be needy- Do not buy her everything she wants or try to buy her love- Don't worry about your results- Do NOT reveal your feelings too early- Do NOT be a wussy!This is just a summary of the many things I learned from David DeAngelo at DoubleYourDating.com

that sounds good, i noticed i missed a lot of that.

Just wanna add I have a really awesome girlfriend now. It seems being a nice guy pays off.

You should have slapped the bitch for saying that! Just kiddng!

I sometimes wonder if women subconsciously want to be treated not so nice. Perhaps it has to do with their self-esteem. My first girlfriend said to me on several occasions "I don't know why you like me so much." Yikes. Not surprisingly, she was a very self-depricating person who had an overall shitty attitude about just about everything.

ive listened to love line a lot and they say like if theyve had a tramad past theyll want to be treated bad. i guess if there dad isnt real nice that can be a reason. even if they dont like there dad they will want to be treated like how he would.

dude your talking to a guy who has been on your side of the fence forever but unlike me you actually had a gf that shows your doing somthing right im guessing your still a tennagaer so one hting ive noticed is high school girls tend to go for the assholes but later in life sensitive guys get the girls you just gotta hold

I would just like to say, i started a huge ass thread on this topic

Just gotta find the right girls. I know plenty who'll go out with 'nice guys'. Then again, they're mostly from my church...And it's not some competition about finishing first or last, it's about finding the person you want to spend your life with(unless of course you're just looking for sex, in which case 'nice guys' are in trouble).

well u could do it like i do,if ur girl is attracted to assholish people for some reason (like mine) just be an asshole for most of the time not to much of course but when it really counts be urself

haha someone said it up there, but at least nice guys DO finish. and we finish nicely. and i heard from someone, that the nice guy ends up with the nice girl/guy/whatever. something to look forward to, right? RIGHT?! T_T

Wow, having read all the posts, I'm guessing that a lot of you are young, or maybe just immature, guys. Nice guys out there, do you really want to be taking advice from a lot of bitter guys who think that women "don't know what they want" are totally "confused" etc. etc.??????? Listen to the women that have written in, you're not trying to date guys are you???? We DO know what we want. We want a confident guy (NOT arrogant or cocky), we want someone who respects our ideas, someone who's not selfish but has his own life/interests, we don't want to be smothered but we do like attention. It really isn't that hard to figure out! I was just talking to my neighbour, who incidentally doesn't have a BF and is quite unhappy in love, and she tends to go for the cocky, jocky types and wonders why she never has a good relationship!!! Maybe highschool girls or girls with not much in the way of a brain like nasty boys, but I find that "nice guys" make way better boyfriends and lovers. Period. Boys, just be yourselves, be secure in that and just try and put yourself in our shoes too. Shit, we're all human!!!!!!!!! Peace.

yeah i also came to that conclusion after meeting a new girl, i just was myself and that was all she wanted and we have a perfect realtionship

I consider myself a nice guy, I have only cursed once in my life, and learned from the punishment... I always try to put other people first. But the best thing is, the girl I liked since 2nd grade came up to me at the 8th grade dance, and said she always admired me... What a good feeling to know someone likes or even loves you. Now we've been together for a year and a half, and she wants to be with me as long as I want to be with her, so Im very happy! In my opinion, she is the best looking girl in the world! So there you have it, it doesn't matter when you finish, only if you finish with the one you love.

i have to say some girls in hs just want to go out with a hot guy and dont really care about having it long term ya know? but this kid who is 2 years older has dated the 3/4 hottest girls in his grade, and has a very good relationship with a very very good looking girl who just loves him, and he is te nicest person ive met. i hope this all makes sense...

My bf is a nice guy. He's the all American guy that gets cheated on. I never did it to him, but he gets the crap cards. I've always been more attracted to the nice guys, dorks, nerds,geeks. And the ending of the relationship is always me getting hurt. So nice guys don't finish last or nice guys become a little bad and stop their overly nice habits.