I'll try and explain this as best as I can... Okay well I had this really bad crush on this one girl and since I thought she had no feelings towards me I ignored her to make my feelings go away. After about one month of ignoring her she emails me... and well my friend gets involved and he learns that she did have feelings towards me... so then you know I sent her flowers saying I'm sry for ignoring her with my reasons for ignoring her. We start doing some stuff we've probably had about 7 dates/get togethers. The second to last date I put my arm around her when we were watching a movie and the last date we were flirting badly I was tickling her with my right arm when I was driving and we drove another 60 miles just so I could keep my arm around her and cuddle...at the end of the date the put her arms around my neck and I knew she wanted to kiss but I was weary because within a span of 1.5 weeks I had 2 dreams of her cheating on me. The first time I had a dream of her cheating on me she also had a dream of me cheating on her... so that night she said she was going to go look at the stars and I could come with if I wanted to so of course I went... I told her about me having another dream and that it's my biggest fear and she said that it'd never happen so I shouldn't worry about it... anyways I called her up yesterday at about 3 because we were going to do something but she didn't know if she had to paint her basement or not so I called to see if she could do anything... long story short we eventually got talking about us developing a relationship and she says that she's never had this strong of a connection with a guy before and that she'd be afraid to enter into a relationship because she thinks she'd screw it up, I said that I'd make sure that it didn't get screwed up... then she told me about her mixed feelings.. she said that at times she does think I'm the perfect guy(I think she's the perfect girl) but at the same time she doesn't know if her feelings are true..she also says that for now she wants to remain single.. and she said that when school starts if she's in a relationship her grades plummet I said that we could make it work, she also said that she puts her friends before her boyfriends and I'm one of her closest friends already... I said that if her feelings do become true to let me know and she said that I shouldn't wait for her but I don't want any other girl I truly have always thought she is the one from the first day I laid my eyes upon her... I know that's kind of random but please try and interpret it as best as you can.Tell me if I'm wrong to say any of this but this is how I truly feel about the situation. Next time we're together I'm going to say that it would hurt me more to be her friend because since she said she just wants to be friends for now I have lost her and that is my biggest fear. To stop my affection towards her would be like breaking my dream(okay well the day before I saw her in school I had a dream about her coming to me). I really do think that she's just chicken to plunge into this relationship of me thinking she's the perfect girl and her thinking I'm the perfect guy... she says she doesn't want to get hurt but I'd think she could trust me enough to never try and hurt her. She says that she is afraid because we're to open with one another and that'd just put our feelings on the line to much... Isn't it worth it for love though?Feel free to give any advice and ask more questions about the situation.
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Plz Help I'm in dire straights
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Both of you are very unsure of yourselves, so you certainly have that in common. She is getting cold feet, though, and there's really not much you can do except be there if she changes her mind - but not indefinitely.Sometimes we just have to let things be as they will be. Try not to over-analyse, and be prepared to move forward, learning the lessons of the past.
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Whatever her reasons are for not wanting to date you, you need to respect them and accpet her wishes.