This boy is driving me insane

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In reply to: A lot of guys are emotionally distant, cheaters, players, and then the other guys suffer for it and think that most women are jealous, possessive freaks!!!!!!!!!! LMAO!!!Ahhh, I haven't laughed so good in a long time. I guess that means I'm the other guy. But I only think the last girlfriend was a jealous, possessive freak. Where does this merry go round stop?

Massgravegurl...its me again..lol..well, im cheking to see wut was your opinion on my post...im glad u dint get pissd or ne thing cuz u shouldnt...but honestly about theyre being no good guys...really...there arent! im a guy, and all my boyz r players and not only that almost all guys i kno...when u talk to them...theyll jus tell you "yea im cheatin" it seems its no big deal ne more in the dating world to hear of a guy doing something like that...and so its obvious why gurls act the way they do...and i have nothing gainst gurls, who only want to love and be loved with no strings attached...sadly that cant happen...but trust me...your not alone...with me...i am ALWAYS on the market...i never have a gurlfriend...not cuz i cant get one or dont want one...but becuz i ALWAYS pick the wrong gurl...who only want a fuk and chuk.... ...so as soon as i fall for a gurl....i still keep myself on the market knowing that the gurl will break it off after the job is dun or w/e...and so i jus always have a girl waiting for me on the back burner (a little how u r with this guy...no offence...again)....my problem is the girls that always fall for me r the whores...i have been dating girls nonstop since i was 12...and for the last 4 years now...i ahve had around 130 relationships...and the longest one being 3 months...i kno i kno...its sad...and i really really want to settle down too...but of course...the only ones that want me r the whores...i askd one of them why and she sed cuz im black...and i sed wutthe hell does that have ne thing to do with ne thing...and she sed...well u kno...we've all heard the rumor.....that really isnt the best way to get a relationship going now is it...LOL

But here's the thing... I don't fall for too many guys, and I've never really had sex so it's not like I'm looking for a guy to fuck. I'm a really good person... I'm down for a guy through anything, even all the tough shit. I'm pretty, I'm intelligent, and I'm really caring. Although I try not to be clingy with this guy, it bothers me that he won't talk to me now because he's pushing me away. He doesn't want to screw things up with his gf. I've talked to a lot of people about this, including his best friend, and it seems to me like his relationship with his gf is purely a sexual attachment. So I know he doesn't want me, and I accept that, but I don't deserve the bad treatment... He says cocky shit to me all the time now and he'll talk about what him and his gf do in bed in front of me. But the thing is, I never hear him talk about what other non-sexual things they've done together or what they talk about. I personally feel like me and him would be better together, and I'm going on logic here, not just my own desires. Even though I think this, he won't allow himself to see it because he's afraid to break up with his gf of i guess 2 years????? His best friend even said Kyle is usually grumpy and doesn't want to be bothered by anyone except his gf, and the only time he was happy was when we used to hang out. I'm really confused... I already told him how he ditches his friends for his gf, and all he could say was WELL I LOVE MY GIRLFRIEND. I'm not into games at all, and he's usually really honest with me. Now he's always short with me and has an attitude.

You've never really had sex??? According to a lot of your posts on here you have.

I've been raped before, so I know how sex feels, yet it has been a long time since then and I haven't had intercourse with anyone yet I have dry humped and done oral.

you can be secret sex-friends ^__^

dunno if you were kidding or not, but that shit will fuck things up way worse then anything that has happened...and massgrvgirl...did you tell him off like you said you were going to? if so, any updates?

I did tell him off. I said you've changed. You're not happy anymore, you act cocky, and you never want to hang out with us anymore. I told him how I heard how before we met, he always used to ditch his friends for his girlfriend, and I said he's doing it again. I said you're acting obsessive over her. This was on aol so he wasn't responding too much, but I think he was annoyed with me saying anything about him obsessing over his girlfriend. He just said WELL I LOVE HER. I even asked him if he was pushing me away because he didn't want to lead me on, and he didnt' say anything for the longest time. And that was that. The next time we hung out he was different with me probably because I said something. HOwever, I'm the only one who had the balls to tell him off, and I thought he would appreciate my honesty b/c he's honest too, but I guess not. He doesn't care what anyone thinks of him and his girlfriend because he's stuck in his own little world with her. He had me fooled that he was a nice guy. Now I know he's just crazy.

don't waste r time with him as anything more then a friend.

rape is not sex!

yeah it is

It's sex, but it's not consensual

I don't like to call it sex because it's not about sex. It's a violation and it's about someone trying to have power over another human being.

Sex is between two people while rape is someone inflicting their sickness upon someone else. You can say you've "had" sex while you can't say you've "had" rape. You've "been" raped, big difference.

IMO, it makes it harder for rape survivors to heal and have healthy sexual relationships after the attack if what happened to them is called "sex". Whether you add the word "unconsensual" in front of it or not, rape is not sex.

Rape is sex, it's penetration...it's sex

yep...sex is sex...penetration makes it so...UNBREAKABLE LAW

Keep your blinders on why don't you. At least I prefaced my words with "in my opinion".

Don't want to argue semantics. What I am trying to get across is that mixing the words/conceps of rape and sex is something that many people would like to see change, ESPECIALLY rape survivors. I know someone who was gang raped with a broom handle and that is not sex. Do you see what I mean???? Sure, that's penetration, but it is not sex. And as for laws, look at science/politics, it's not a static situation. Again, don't want to argue or put anyone down. Just want you to think about what I am saying before shutting me down. I don't want this girl whose first experience is rape to be associating that with sex for the rest of her life.

Well I understand where you're coming from. Rape with a broom handle it's walking a fine line with regards to sex, but rape with a penis is definently sex.

Sigh. One day I hope you'll understand.

In reply to:rape is not sex! Good point. Let me repeat it, for those who didn't catch it: RAPE IS NOT FUCKING SEX!!!!