Best way to masterbate for girls

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pesonally i finger my clit and start humping my bed while doing so and fantisizing. my problem is that I dont know if i'm actually experiencing an orgasm. after awhile i get close to the climax and then the humping motion becomes involentary. this experience is great fun and all but only last for about 30 seconds! and when its over i hate myself for ever doing it, even though i love it and i know its ok for me to do.so 2 things:-am I having an orgasm when this happens to me?and...-y do i hate myself? is there a reason?

and i also what to keep going but dont want to. why is that?

How do i know when i am about to cum??? I know this is a weird question but i just cant cum i dont know whats wrong with me

u kno u are about to or are going to cum when you fell like your going to pee, don't hold it in, let it flow

My favorite way since 9 ish. Lye on bed naked legs a bit apart sow the lips are still closed and rub along my slit and all over my lips to i get quite wet and i sure do, then Spread my legs wide so the lips open and rub inside the lips n clit, its awsom

I'm sorry for intruding on a female thread but I'm wondering why you reach the edge but can't go over...? In the past I've been fingering my fiancee and her obvious ecstasy has led me to climb on top and fuck her, but later I wonder if she got hers...because I may have left her hanging, so to speak...

Thats What i'm askin mate.We've been together quite some time, and we've tried alot of things - i can have her on her back, biting my arm to stop her screaming (usually we live at her parents place) but... she has trouble. even when she's doing it manually - I was wondering if any one else had problems like that, and had overcome them, or knew what to do?

I also apologize for intruding but I'm going to try to respond to Frosty. I'm a virgin but I still may have some helpful advice. If you're legal aka over 18 because most people ignore the actual legality in a state, then just say fuck the parents. Lock the door and do whatever you want! However if you're younger, perhaps find something else to muffle her with if your arm starts to hurt or something. The final solution would be to wait until her parents weren't home.

Hi i am really new at this and it's my first time masturbating..i did it last night and all i did was just shove my finger in my whole. now i don't know if iam doing the right thing..i didn't cum or orgasm..so can anyone please give me some tips? and please tell me where my clit is..lol thanks

If you look at the female genitalia section there is a thread i think second from the top that tell you where everything is. Roughly speaking, your clit is near your pee hole. It varies in size for each woman. Reading this thread will tell you a lot of different methods, but you should just do whatever feel right for you, feel around until you find what works for you. For some people massaging the clit works, others can't stand actual massaging of the clit, and going around it is better, and others find it better going into the vagina. Good luck and have fun, don't worry about it, it can take some practise.

this is my first post and i found this by searchin on the net...i was hopin it could help me get the courage to do mutal master bation on my bfdo you think im to young to do it?!?i cant seem to get an orgasm so im going to try this with my bf and maybe i can get on then

Honey, at the risk of sounding like your mother, you're really too young to be messing around with your boyfriend like that. I'm a 30 year old woman and I started at 15. I still regret it, I was too young, and now I KNOW by not waiting I ruined what should have been the most wonderful sexual experience I ever had. Dont worry about not coming yet, that'll happen, just keep masturbating (alone!) and it'll happen when the time is right. It'll happen a lot sooner if you're alone too, cause you'll be more comfortable and less self-concious, trust me, it's true.

Hey there i am really new at this and was wondering if you could help me with soemthing. It is my first time masterbating and am 14. i have never done it before and am really nervus. i tried it just now and i shoved the end of my hair brush up my pussy it felt good and i felt this tingy feeling and like everything bunched up inside and i felt like had to fart but i didn't. is that a orgasm? now how will i know when i cum? or how can i make myself cum? i am just really lost and was hoping you could help me as much as possible. and any other ideas for what i could stick up? and how many times should i do it a day? so yeah please help me..hah. thanks so much

-kelsey

masterbation is great and good for you touching yourself is awesome but i have to say that humping something with your panties pulled to the side is so sexy. especiallyi u have a special something in your wet heaven humping while entering is ultimate. i adore itps girlsd i also recommend getting eaten out.

he really wants to but im not sure how to finger me and stuff but i dont no how to say the rite thing i really want to but i dont want ot get carried awayi guess im just curious...wat should i do?!?

what i do is i rub my clit, fantasize and hump my pillow it feels so good! too good actually and i cant keep goin. does anybody have any tips? also when ever my brother comes in town he brings his jack russell and lets just say she and i have some down time, omg she licks my clit and it feels so good! i've also wrapped a hot dog in saran wrap and used that and it felt pretty good but not as good as rubbin the clit. maybe im just weird but clit stimualtion feels better than fingering.

Sorry, my internet shut down for a couple of days there.

Of course he really wants to - all guys do! But that dosent mean it is the right time for you. Take it from me, as an older woman, the decisions you make at your age you cant undo, and theres no way in hell he'll be happy to leave it at fingering or messing around in any other way. He wants to put something of his in you honey, and it's not his finger! If you let him have his way you could end up with a baby (as I did at 17) and it held me back big time in my life, I'm only graduating college now, at 30, for Gods sake!

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with masturbation, there isnt. In fact you should be getting to know your own body and 13 is about the age it is normal to start, cause you're well into puberty and you hormones are starting to rage. It works differently for every girl, so if what other people say dosent work for you just keep messing around and you'll get there in the end. Here's what works for me just in case this helps: I dont get started physically straight away cause an orgasm starts in the mind, not the body. You have to get yourself mentally turned on before your body will become aroused and be capable of responding. I just lie there for a couple of minutes thinking arousing thoughts (they're different for everyone - you'll know when you've found yours when your privates get all hot and throbbing without you having even touched them yet) and when that happens that's the time to get started. You will find a little twist of skin at the front of your vagina, just below your pubic bone (thats where your hair is), that twist of skin protects your clitiros (it has to, cause it's so sensitive) if you begin by massaging that gently and at the same time keep on thinking the thoughts that got you aroused in the first place, and you do that often enough, an orgasm will eventually follow.

There are a couple of important things to remember: sex is new and very exciting at your age, but it is not all there is to life. Go out with your friends as well as you boyfriend and have fun. You wont get your youth back, so make the most of it.

2: Until you learn to pleasure yourself when your alone there's no point trying to get into it with your boyfriend cause you'll be too tense and paranoid and filled with stress and anxieties. Some women spend years and years trying to orgasm, but that's all down to stress in my opinion. Stress and anxiety are the biggest passion killers.

Finally, the most important point: DONT let him pressure you into anything, make him wait till you truly feel ready, and if you do decide for yourself to have sex, MAKE SURE you use a condom and that he puts it on before he gets near you, there's no point putting it on half way through. Putting on a condom is easy with a little practice, you just slide it onto the top of his penis and roll it down. Make sure you dont put it on the wrong way round, a good idea is to practice on a banana by yourself beforehand.

I'm not advocating sex here, certainly not, I'm just telling you the condom stuff in case you decide to go for it anyway, which I hope you dont!

Take care.x

Hiya, you should read the advice I just posted (save me writing it all over again!) That's what's always worked for me. Most women come from clitoral stimulation and not from intercourse at all, so if you're using objects to put inside yourself, even though it feels good, you're actually missing your clitirous and less likely to come.Good luck!

well how old do you think that you have to be to do mutal masterbation with your boyfriend? cuz i was kinna thinking the same thing.

I cant talk for anyone else, but if I could go back and make my decisions all over again I'd leave it till at least sixteen. That probably sounds like forever if you're a couple of years younger than that, I know!

The thing is, a lot of girls find if they tell their boyfriend to wait or fuckoff the blokes will oftentimes fuckoff, and this scares the girls shitless, but it's a damn pity it does cause it just exposes young fellas for the horny fuckers they are - if they cant get it from their girlfriend they'll just go to whatever girl is willing. Surely that's not the sort of boyfriend a girl would want anyway??? But a lot of young women just dont think as highly of themselves as they ought to. I'm sure you've heard the expression 'girlpower' - well, to my mind girlpower means being in control, not giving your control away.

If mutual masturbation always stopped there I wouldnt regard it that big a deal, but the problem is it rarely ever does, and it's the girl whose left with all the issues to deal with, including babies.

Another thing to remember about teenaged boys and young men is this, and it's VERY IMPORTANT! The part of your vagina that gives you most plesure is your clitoris, which isnt stimulated during intercourse, but the part of his penis that is stimulated most is it's head, the cap-like shaped head of the penis (thats sort of like the male clitoris) so when he's having intercourse with you he's having all the stimulation he needs right where he needs it, it's his equivilant of a good clitoral massage, but your clitoris is positioned a couple of centimetres away from your vaginal opening, so you're missing out, but because he's having a fine old time he has no incentive to make sure you're pleasured, he's getting all he needs and is happy as Larry and generally couldnt give a shite about what you want or need.

I'm not saying all males are selfish people, but when it comes to sex young men are a combination of one part selfish and one part ignorant. They dont know exactly what you need one one hand, and cause they're getting all they need they dont really care. It's easy to get carried away for them when they're having the time of their lives! When they've orgasamed and your're ready for your turn (a bit of attention to your clitoris) they're finished and done and getting a wank out of them will be about as likely as George Bush copping himself on and realising he's a war-monger. So my advice to any woman would be to make sure she comes first - every time. Dont let him inside you till you've been pleasured, that'll give him some incentive to get the job done!

(you didnt say how old you are by the way, if you're not sixteen yet my advice would be not to let him inside you at all!)