AGE?????!?!??

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OK, basically theres this girl who is 13 and me who is 17...Rite...now she really likes me and I quite like her...but i cant help wondering if the age difference is too big....now i know it isnt the biggest gap....but do u think that this age difference may lead to some questions, and do u think its ok that i go out with someone that age?I wont be taking you answers as something i should follow, but could u give some advise on this? Some people think that if u like the person enough its ok and some dont think its a good idea, one basic reason for this is becuase she is under 16, after that age no one seems to be bothered...but what about before that then?Thanks

i think it's a little too much age difference, there's a big difference between a 13 year old and a 17 year old in more ways than one

You need to be weary of possible statutory rape charges. If you're NOT going to have sex, then I personally don't have a problem with it.

I personally don't see anything wrong with 4 years of an age difference but because she's 13, that is something that kinda seems like you're robbing the craddle. People may say that you are a pedofile but if your heart's in the right place, I think it's cute. To make it short, what Web said.

Well thanks for all that....I know that if u really like someone then it suppose its ok...

If ur supposed to be with her just wait till ur older things will happen they way they should. You being 17 and her being 13 is to much but her being 20 and you being 25 isn't as drastic. So if u truely care about her u can wait for her.

The older you get the less the age difference makes.

The main difference is maturity. At her age she's still very immature and what you'll want from her she wont be able to give you emotionally as well as physically.

For a 17yr old, going below 15 would be pushing it.

I agree...I'm 20 and if I were to go out with a 16 year old I'd feel pretty darn weird about it.17 and 13 is something I really don't condone.For a start there is no-way on earth she would be mentally prepared to go out with a 17year old.

The difference in maturity when I was 13 and now is about the same for me. I grew up pretty fast, it just depends on the person.

well i can see were your coming from, and im going to have to agree, although im still in high school

Yes, the gap is a bit too large between a 17yr old and a 13yr old. One justification for statutory rape laws is the power imbalance between people of different ages and maturity levels. Although stat. rape laws pertain to the sexual aspect of relationships, this power imbalance often permeates every aspect of relationships between individuals of divergent maturity. I therefore do not agree with the members characterizing such a relationship as OK as long as it isn't sexual. Sexual or not, this seems like a bad idea. Give her time; a 13 yr old probably wouldn’t benefit from romantic attention from a junior in high school.

how many girls (asking the older girls here at the bored) were in love at 13? i mean unles she's very muture how do you know she just don't have a school girl crush on you? not saying she couldn't love you...just saying what if..grrrrr there i go again with the what ifs...

I do have to agree when you say that she may be too imature to be able to "love", but she does seem quite grown up compared to her friends, as i said, im not going out with her...and im not sure if i want to...but i do understand where you all are coming from when you say she may be too young...but thanks for ur replies anyway

Well... I'm almost 15 and I can say honestly that I do not get along with guys my real age AT ALL and I never have. I'm always hanging out with guys much older.Is that bad?

depends on how old the guys are

wouldnt it also depend if she was doing anything with them. there isnt anything wrong with hanging out with people older than you. but i do have a large problem with guys who think it ok to sleep with anyone above the age of 14. even at 16 (legal age in Britain) it still counts as cradle snatching for me. ive always had to hang around with people a couple of years older than me as i never felt i had much in common with anyone my own age. it wouldnt make sense for me to ever go for someone younger than me as well, as there would be even less in common

Every person is different. You may find a girl that you have a lot in common with who is also younger than you. When I was younger than 16 I would always want to be with girls about my age. But now that I'm almost 18, I don't mind the idea of bein' with a younger girl... as long as she's not too young. 13 and 14 is really pushin it.

just never found much in common with anyone my age. when i was younger i was usually a couple of years more developed than the rest (or liked to think so anyway, "that was my excuse, whats yours?") makes ot hard to strike up conversation with people when they are thinking along the lines you were 2 years ago. so ive always gotten on better with (and only ever gotten off with) people older than me

when I was younger I hung out with people 5 years older than me. I didn't need an excuse. They just thought I was cool. I still hang out with one of my buddies who is 5 years older. The others are married. heh.

I know one thing, dont date someone 10 years of difference.... that sucks ass! and if you're both comfortable about it... and you think her parents wont mind... then go for it... cuz when u get older... age will only be a number!