Boring

---

I dunno where to put this really so this is as good as anywhere else I guess.well the thing is honestly, it's boring. I know if I suggest having sex he'll say "okay" and we'll strip down and do it and get dressed and be done in under half an hour.at home, after hours, in the truck, in the van. There's nothing new. It's pretty much always the same, no matter how many different positions we try, it's the same.I don't want boring sex, but it seems to be getting to the point where I'd just rather not have it than have boring sex, yes I still enjoy it but it doesn't give me anything to look forward to nor to look back upon.any suggestions?

maybe some foreplay before the actually intercourse part? like an hour or 2 of nothing but foreplay?Seriously though if you are not enjoying it just dont do it. Maybe you guys should try not having sex for a month or so then try the foreplay thing. Too much sex could cause some people to get bored of it...

Yea, you have to do other things then just sex, Does he finger your and do you give him head? or any thing like that? Most women cant orgasm over penetration, you might need clitoral orgasm, in which case he needs to eat your out and/or finger you. If you dont mind me asking, Can you orgasm masturbating? (if you do that)

It's kinda weird but like I can't masturbate (or rather I can, but I get no pleasure from it) but when he fingers me he gets me off really well.And we usually spend the better part of that half an hour in foreplay.I enjoy giving him head and he loves nothing better than to mess around with my buttons.it just seems like the same thing all the time, no matter what positions we try, or where it is, it's always I orgasm (somewhere between one to five times) and then he does and then we wait for him to recharge and either go home or do it again.shrugsthanks for the suggestions though.

yeah do some role playing. Do something other than new positions to kick up the pleasure.

Are you sure it's the sex that's boring? Maybe it's him.

Have you had sex so many times it's boring? Oh wow I'm so behind. I have never heard anyone in my life say sex was boring. Maybe you guys should have a little fun with it. Like the other's say foreplay. Try having it in different locations. In the shower. On the kitchen counter. I don't just thinking from nowhere. Do you love him? Because if you do it shouldn't be too boring... I haven't had sex yet so I have no idea.

Very good point,Do you feel sexually attracted to him still/if ever?

It's pretty much the case that if you're with the same person for a long time, sex becomes boring (although even bad sex is good). You have to work at it to keep it interesting. But some people do the same kind of thing, year after year, and are perfectly happy.

In my experience, the chemistry is either there or it isn't. Doesn't matter if it's a long time or not. I'm all for working towards 'better' sex, but there are times when it's just dead. Poking it with a stick won't help much.

Get back to me after you've been with the same person for 10+ years.

Why bother having sex then at that point if it's boring? I'm still somewhat young, but, I'd like to think that even after 10 years with someone I'd still want to jump their bones. I know it's not nearly the same thing, but I've been with this guy three years and he still turns me on like crazy. We're not constantly having sex but I like touching him while we just lie around my apartment doing nothing or watching TV. Running my fingers over his chest or toe wrestling.

Everyone idealistically thinks that, and sometimes it's true, but I'll bet in fewer than 50% of the cases. It seems like a biological imperitive that drives people to wander, to spread there genes as far and wide as possible, I suppose. The parts of the brain that drive these things don't know whether or not the type of sex you engage in will produce offspring.