Me: see I can't say everything because I've hardly gotten to know you, the reason I developed a crush on you was because everytime I saw your face you just seemed happy and looked beautiful, you seemed to have a more exhilarating look in your eyes than any other person I've seen beforeHer: are you serious? I've never had anyone say anything like that to me.. you have no idea how sweet that was of youMe: it's trueHer: and I probably should even had said that because I do have a boyfriend but Zach that seriously, put like the biggest smile across my faceMe: I'm glad to hear thatMe: what's your dream guy like?Me: void that question I'll just ask the big kahunaMe: what do u really think of me?Her: ooh this is so mean.. you know I could just push this questions off for like 2 minutes.Her: I can't answer that, I have a boyfriend and my answer probably would not be something he'd likeHer: lets just put it this way, I think you're a great guy all togetherMe: I was thinking about you while I was biking and I thought to myself ... why should I let myself get emotionally degraded by trying so hard and not getting anywhere ... I guess what I'm really trying to say is do I have a chance or not because it would help me out a bit here if I knew.Her: well to tell you the truth, no.. I really like Josh and if Josh and I were to break up, I'd want to be single how long, and I just think of you as a friendMe: that's ok, I understandHer: I'm sorrySoujiro: Sigh, you are a goddess what was I thinking trying to win someone over who is forever wise and beautiful, I'm nothing more than a mere peasant who has to deal with life's everyday disturbances and hardships.Her: you're way too nice to me, I'm sorryI think the internet is shit for describing feelings. I'm going to tell her how I feel in person and if I get put down well then I'll know for sure to never try again.
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How does this add up?
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you're setting yourself up for heart break. The best thing you can do is move on. You can wait, if she really means what she says then it means that you have a chance with her, but just not right now. I knew a girl who had a boyfriend for 3 years and she said the same things to me. In the end, when they broke up she wasn't single for very long and hooked up with someone else.
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Why are you repeating the same conversation again? You have the same convo on another thread on the second page of this forum.
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i don't think he posted the first part of the convo before.
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It's the same...move on, she's not interested
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we talked for 5 hours straight face to face how could she not be interested?
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if she was interested, she'd already be with you
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Your a pussy.
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i do have a great one
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i guess the board will just have to take your word on that grinsoh and by the way im 12 and a half inches long too grins
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Someone plz respond to the last part of my post jeese, lol.
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I'm sorry, but this girl has made it quite clear she isn't interested in you as a boyfriend. To try anything more would be harrassment.
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In pretty much the same situation as you are in Weapon, but i dint respond as i have no useful advice to give. I can say the only thing that will work is to move on, and if you can, not lose her as a friend. that would work out for the best, rather than you sitting and pining. I myself, am taking to whoring again to see if it suits me any more than last time and to see if it will help ease the ache. Im not saying its particularly healthy or right, but screw it. It may work and i will be no less screw up than when i started if it doesnt. Then i can go back to pining
And yes i realise ive turned this completely into all about myself, but the problem seems about the same to me. It wasnt my intention but... *shrugs*
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Everyone says to move on, but still keep her as a friend... are you people aware how hard that is? If you are still talking to her, and seeing her, then it's almost impossible to move on, especially if you have a crush on the girl. I have had this experience, and I found it best to just blow her off, and not talk to her anymore, that way, you can get on with your life without her bouncing in and out like a goddamn ball and paddle, but that's just me. It's hard to just shut out your feelings for someone, but trust me, if you let it dwell on you, and you keep getting that feeling in your chest, the feeling of pain, from thinking about them, and hearing about them with someone else, your just going to be more miserable than ever.
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In reply to:
we talked for 5 hours straight face to face how could she not be interested?
She said she wasn't interested, and you need to take her word for it. Focus your energy elsewhere, and get over this woman. There are millions of Joshless women out there...
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i already said no useful advice dint i. i said it was the best possible course. i made no mention of the fact that its impossible, in exactly the same way i wouldnt state dropping something on your foot hurts. and of course im bloody aware how impossible this is, i said i was going through the same shitdeep breath sorry if this appears less like my calm, collected self, but thats cos im not really. gods, this shit gets to me more than anything else. look, whilst shutting yourself off from her might be the best recourse for you, try thinking about her for a second. if she actually does give a crap about you, then you tell her you like her and she rejects you, how do you think she will feel? shutting out feelings for people is impossible to do if you are in constant contact with them. acceptance of them is the only way progression can be made. again easy to say, hard to do, but then i dont need to say that ow drops something on foot
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I'm sorry, Weapon and CaughtMyFancy. Yes, it's very hard.
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very.
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thank you for your sentiments but i neither need nor deserve sympathy. not trying to pick a fight or offend you in any way, i truly am appreciative of it, but i dont deal well with sympathy or compliments for that matterThe Miserable Bugger, for now
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Okay but getting back on the subject what she said to me when I asked what she really thought about me implies that she was interested at the point? yes/no I want to know for future reference because if yes I fucked up in person and if no I fucked up by laying it on to hard to fast or something like that.