Okay so..this will probably sound dumb to all of you guys but i'm getting to the point where I don't know what to do. There is this guy that i've liked my whole entire life and we've had little things for each other before but starting christmas of last year we started 'dating' seriously. We called it off for a while but couldn't really get away from each other so beginning of summer we were hanging out like everyday and were together. I fell for him really hard and he's all i would ever want. Everything was perfect..of course we would have our arguments but what couple doesn't. But then he left for a week and we couldn't talk that whole week and when he came home..i kept getting this vibe from him that he has lost interest in me.I'm scared that some of the girls he met while he was gone are better and prettier then me and that's maybe why he kinda forgot about me? This whole past week he hasn't wanted to be with me alone really and that hurts..really bad. I've tried to talk to him about it and he just keeps saying he's confused and he needs time. I try to be patient but it hurts when he won't call or ask me to hangout. All i keep doing is praying because i would give anything to stay with him. He's been my best friend for years..but if we were to break up i don't know if i could handle being friends with him..i'm scared it might hurt too bad to watch him laugh and flirt with other girls. Some of you may say just leave him..but I can't and i don't want to. Before things got shaky he used to tell me that i was his one and only and that he wanted to be with me forever. I would give my life for him but I don't know what to do anymore? It hurts to know he doesn't love me the same anymore and he keeps saying just give me time..but it's so hard when he doesn't want to spend time with me or see me. I guess I just need some advice..or maybe this just all needed to come out..i dunno..it's just hard
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So..
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If you are both best friends, then you should be able to tell eachother anything. Ask him to meet you or come over, and ask him outright whats going on, how you feel, and how he feels.
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A little tip. What incentive does he have to be in a hurry. He knows that you will be there whenever he wants you. Play with his head. Be nice to him, speak to him, talk to him but don't show any interest in him romantically. Pay attention to other guys when he is around, date other guys and make sure he sees you having a good time with other guys. If he has any interest in you this will make him move.
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oh my, i disagree. I don't think plotting and scheming and pretending is going to do any good. Just sit him down and tell him just how you feel. Make sure he knows how important he is to you, and how upset/hurt you are, encourage him to open up.