What about the love?

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What about the love? I see the having sex, sex with brothers, sisters, people your age, older or younger, flings and lasting relationships, but what about the love? I came here for the insights, but I can't enjoy reading about so much sex when I can't see any love involved.There's a thread where someone said he wanted to give his girlfriend oral sex so she'd give him oral sex. What happened to giving someone oral sex as a form of expression, rather than of selfish desire, or because you enjoy it because of your hormones.I'm only 17, but it seems that for a long time, I've known more love than most of the people here, the way they talk anyways. I'm still a virgin, though I've had some sexual experiences mostly as a much smaller kid, back when I was very young.I don't want to be misunderstood, I'm not trying to insult everyone here, it just bothers me to see so much about sex, but as an industrialized.. tool.. of interaction between either two fairly close people or even random strangers, rather than something precious, or expressive, or special.But maybe I'm mistaken. I'd enjoy hearing some people talk about their love experiences with people they've shared themselves sexually with, or something. The love I've found is a girl I met online and we've been together for nearly 2 years now. I know peoples general reaction to online relationships, about how it's always a fat man in a trailer in the middle of nowhere who's also a stalker rapist with apparently millions of dollars to spend on technology just to trick me and lure me close enough to have freaky man sex with me, and also how it doesn't mean anything.. and it's shallow and you can never trust anyone etc etc etc..Well unlike the impression most people have of it, our relationship is a serious one and I don't want anyone to take it incredibly jokingly or lightly.Anyways, no offenses intended, feel free to comment.

The love I've found is a girl I met online and we've been together for nearly 2 years now.Are you saying that your relationship is strictly on-line?

Its a bulletin board from questions you are afraid to ask.. and when you love someone ... you as proud and as open about it as you can...well i am

Resurrection...you are wise beyond your years. I agree with most of what you have said however I am generally skeptical of online relationships. I need to see, feel, touch, smell and hear their voice when I am in a relationship. An online relationship would be as weird to me as sex without a strong emotional attachment. Lifestyles and culture today seem to encourage what I refer to as "sport sex." It's the use of another person to satify your sexual needs. In my opinion it's no better than masturbation.....feels good but empty because the heart is not committed. Just my two cents but my way is certainly not for everyone.

Nice to see talk about love - welcome, Resurrection.The biggest problem that I see about online relationships is not so much that people may be completely different from how they portray themselves, as that their portrayal is only a glimpse of part of their personality, and other parts may not be revealed. Some online relationships survive real-life meeting very well, while others don't.

I can only say from my point of view,online relationships can work...........i met my other half online 9 years ago, we met, and we married this year...............so they can work............but in general i don't think they do.

well i'm not gonna sit here and talk about online relationships and what not. i'm just not.but about love. my wife and i have a deep love for each other. and altho i don't say it much (if at all) all the things i talk about her are all rooted in love. i know what u mean resurrection, people using sex as a tool, or just like an object, i hate it too. i like sharing my experience b/c i don't talk about w/ friends or nuthing so it helps me get it out and keeps it fresh in my mind. perhaps i'm not the best example here, but everything i do to/with her is out of love.and on a loving note, we watched "the notebook" last night, made me cry like a baby, her too. but the main thing she took from the movie was that we are not passionate like we used to be. (which i've been saying, but not in those words) and of course i total agree. so for the first time ever she slept in only her panties, all night. see we've slept nude before (after sex) but usually at some point she gets up and puts cloths on, she's just not that comfortable naked after too long. but last night was the first time ever (or maybe second, but first in a LONG time) that she's gone all night and morning w/o getting up and putting cloths on. she knows how much i love her bare sking and sleeping w/ her like that last night was more than words can describe.ok done w/ my rant (i seem to have a lot of those this morning), there's my lil love story for ya resurrection.

i don't say it much (if at all)"I love you." Three words, not that hard to say. If your marriage lasts, I guarantee that, someday, you will regret not having said more (or at all).

Teens are predominantly the people who post sexual (and relationship) questions here. They have strong sex drives, and thus have a strong interest in the subject of sex. But it does not mean that they don't have or understand deeper feelings. Some people consider those feelings to be deeply private, and see no need to discuss them on a forum. Usually, what is there to stay? How much they love the other person? Most people don't feel a need to follow it by, "Is that OK?" Love is not a problem, as are, "How can I get that person to go out with me?", or "How do I sexually please that person?"Not everyone thinks that every sexual relationship requires that they be in love. But just because people post questions and comments about the mechanics of sex without discussing the emotional aspects of their relationship doesn't mean that they disagree with you. I'll bet architects have forums where they discuss the mechanics of designing buildings, but they probably rarely mention their emotional feelings toward structures and the use of space, even though most have those feelings.The English language has a large body of literature on romantic love. I'd start there. Also, there are undoubtedly forums and blogs where discussion is more focused on feelings.

I thought that could be the case, but I just couldn't see it in what I was reading. It's a relief to see a lot more people are more involved with people they're sexually involved with. It makes me feel a little more comfortable about possibly sharing my opinions about it.Also, you asked if my relationship was strictly online, by that I think you mean nothing but text messaging. Well we met online, so naturally we communicate the most online, over instant messengers. But like I said we've been together for going on 2 years, and we've shared countless pictures, videos, talked on the phone, been through hell and back, and had very romantic moments, open lovey moments, problems, surprises, but we've prevailed through it all, and I'm very confident that she's the one I'm going to spend my life with.I'd agree most online relationships don't work out, but personally I think I'm a good judge of character both online and offline, and I haven't followed the typical path of an online relationship.Thanks for your comments everyone.

I think I'm a good judge of character both online and offlineThen you have a rare and unusual talent.> I'm very confident that she's the one I'm going to spend my life with.I wish you all the best, but a virtual relationship is not the same as a real-life, flesh-and-blood relationship, and you're fooling yourself if you think it is. It's possible that she's "the one", but the image of the other person that you have constructed in your mind, even with phone calls and photos, can't be realistic. You're missing all of the "in-person" nuances, expressions, body language, etc., and might be setting yourself up for a huge dissapointment.I have no idea how old you are, but your not meeting almost seems ritualistic. Is it possible that, deep down, you are afreaid to rock the boat?

My sexual experiences began with a man with whome I'm madly in love with, we have been together for a while, and we can't imgine our lives without each other. The sex is really like a bonus. I really like this forum, because it has everything on it! Sex related and not. If you scroll down to the Relationship forum, you'll see lots of people who are concerned about feelings and love and not sex.

As a 16 yr old, all I'm concerned about is the love... I found this site looking for tricks for making out to keep it interesting for my girlfriend. I have no sex life, and I am proud of it, I am still waiting for that one special person that's worth it, that I want to spend the rest of my life with. Like mentioned above, there's alot of literature on just love, this is one fo teh few places where you can discuss the *other stuff* without getting nailed by a mod or admin...

welcome aboard!

In reply to: as that their portrayal is only a glimpse of part of their personality, and other parts may not be revealed the best thing about net is no one can see shit. i can type lol and say LMAO and hahaha and crack jokes and shtit and no one would everyno that 1 was puting or sad..wutever. as for the online relationships... i have 2 CLOSE friends, 1 i grew up with and the other i met here. and yea so the noobs will know it's Diver dude LMAO (not including my older bro.. that b 3.) one of my idk.. "pet peves" is when people say my real friend or my in the real friend.. that's just fucking stupid. just cuz pauil is on the other side of the ocean don;t mean he's not real. just cuz inliguble (i can never spel that but i didn;t want to say ur real name lol) is in assuie don't make him not real. so i think this my "net" friend vs. my "real" friend shit is just stupid.to me it's like i dk.... it's just stupid. nvm ummm love......... < rolles eyes nuff said!

**I totally agree hon, I have a friend who i email and who emails me everyday, we share our lives, our problems, and are always there for eachother, email or fone, this has been going on for 2 years.............I love him to bits and just cos we have never yet met doesn't mean that he isn't a so-called 'real' friend, cos he is a better friend than some 'real life' friends i have to say. **

I'm with you, brother!Personally, I hate it when people have sex just for the sake of sex. Sex is a gift that if you abuse it, it becomes useless. Sex should only be done with a partner, someone you love and are married to. Think 'bout masturbation.. If you wait for weeks before you flick the budgie, it's much more exciting when you do it. Same for sex.. if you do it at every party,.. It just gets useless and isn't as exciting as if you cherished it.