Fearing insanity

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I'll make this simple. I'm 16 years old. This girl shows interest in me, wants to hang out, we do. All-nighter AIM conversations, house hang-outs, and movie-watching ensues. I make her laugh, I act like myself, I'm comfortable around her, I begin to really like her. I tell her this. Things change rapidly thereafter. Everything I listed above no longer happens, she suddenly doesn't want anything to do with me. School starts. I see her every single day, my feelings for her have not changed, she doesn't as much as look at me. I see her with other guys often, the type that are "cool" throughout highschool but end up bagging groceries for a living to support their alcohol/drug addictions. I'm so fucking frustrated. I've tried to get over it, I've talked to other girls, but my mind is not easily swayed.

has it ever occurred to you that maybe she was only talking to you because she was bored and had no one else to talk to? Basically just using you? Now that school has started she has other guys to talk to and things to do...just let it go for a while. Dont get obsessive over it. Dont start stalking her or calling her all the time. If she has any feelings for you she'll probably come back to you. Go find another girl to hangout with for now. She might get jealous over it and try to come back to you or not. You are 16, your hormones are raging and basically causing you to feel like crap. Play some sports or workout or both so you can fight those hormones. In the end you'll probably figure out that you didnt really have any feelings for her at all.

Thank you man I needed that. I've just started getting into weights again btw. Arms/chest. Working my way up to 1hr every other day, I'll need heavier ones soon.

Please if anyone else has input I would appreciate it greatly.

thats a good start. You wanna know a workout that will really make you feel good? do squats. Your body literally starts shaking after an intense workout doing squats. I think because it affects your cns or something. You really really feel this surge of energy and adrenaline when doing squats.

Oooo, the dreaded "brother-sister" relationship. You see, guys like me like to get to know the girl before going into anything. The only problem with that is that whenever the girl gets comfortable with me and stuff and I ask her out, she sees me as a "brother" and nothing else. It really annoys me. Perhaps it's because I'm not smokin' hot (I'm working on it... just trying to lose weight right now) or something. But, that situation has happened to me so many times, it's not even funny.

I dont remember the original poster ever saying anything of the girl he likes telling him that she thinks of him as a brother or any such thing....maybe you posted in the wrong thread dude.

No, but it's the same exact situation. I asked this friend of mine out a long time ago, and for months, she avoided me. And, this girl told me she liked me. And I avoided her. I just didn't like her hanging off of me, and perhaps that's what this girl fears that he will do.

no its not the same thing. Its only a brother and sister relationship if the girl at least tells him hes like a brother to her but in this case she doesnt say anything and just avoids him. In other words she just doesnt like him. Probably never really did from the beginning.

i have 2 20lbs dumbells how many weeks/months would i have to stick with that lifting regime before my arms start to get bigger?

that depends on a few things. Your diet is the main thing - getting enough calories and protein is the only way you will grow. Sleep is another thing (you may not know this but the body only grows during sleep). Form and whether or not you are using enough weight is another thing.

Abc, do you always think you're right? She doesn't have to say it. It's just the attitude that she has with him. She views him as a good friend (brother), nothing else.

satrin, no i dont think I'm always right. Do you?? Honestly i doubt you know what you are talking about anyways you already posted about having problems with a girl yourself. Go take care of your own girl problems before you tell others how to take care of theirs.Nothing he said even hinted that she thought of his as a good friend and you are jumping to the conclusion that she thinks of him as a brother?? good friends dont ignore you completely in school.

I've been through the same types of things.. There are 2 possibilities.1) The girl just wanted to have some fun.. They play around and flirt and hang out.. But then they fall back to a normal friendship after they find someone else to have fun with. This isn't a "Brother-sister" relationship, she's just a flirt.2) It's a brother-sister relationship, and she's felt like she will hurt you if she continues to be such a close friend, thus having to reject you if you ask her out. So she's tried to avoid you, hoping it's for the best.I've had both of these types of problems.. You'll get over them, seriously.

Abc and Satrin I appreciate the fact that both of you took time to help me with my problem, so I value your opinions equally. But Abc is right in saying that she ignores me completely, and avoids me, I just don't know why. Also she did say she wanted to be just friends, and I didn't answer, which is what causes me to believe the reason she avoids me is because she thinks I'm mad, I don't know. We were really close for like 3 weeks, I don't know if you'd call that brotherly, but it could be. I've been really taking in a low amount of carbs and calories cause for the past couple months I've been getting taller and losing weight rapidly (was 5'9'' 200lbs and am now 5'11'' 175lbs, i think she notices too), what should I eat to help me work out?

well 3 weeks is incredibly short to build a brotherly relationship of off. I honestly think this is just like any other relationship. She says she wants to be friends (her way of saying no i dont wanna be your girlfriend but I'll be nice and tell you we can be friends). Dont struggle too hard over this girl if she shows no interest anymore. You can waste a year chasing a girl you've only known 3 weeks or spend a year dating a bunch of other girls until you find the right now.as for food...well let me see, maybe this will helphttp://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/stella9.htmand this will help explain healthy fats and bad fats just incase you need it toohttp://www.bodybuilding.com/fun/gastelu5.htm