How do i become more social and more

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Hey (ill try to make this concise)Basically i go to school, i go to my extra curricular activities, i come home. Does homework, meets with groups for projects when i need to. I talk to ppl on AIM. Repeat cycle.I'm a senior in high school and I just never got a good group of friends. I certainly have friends and many aquaintences, but no group of friends to hang out with. No close friends. I've gone on a social outing not forced by school like 3-4 times in my HS career. I need help. I'm shy with people I don't know, I'm not always a great conversationalist. Big fear of rejection. Was made fun of in Middle School (years ago, I know) and I had no friends then. I do have friends now and am no longer made fun of - but I still think I would be rejected by people from my middle school. Rarely to never asked to hang out or do anything and I don't suggest anything (fear of rejection,no group of close friends)... Casual friend/good aquaintence to many but not good enough to ask me to hang out I guess. How can I change this?

get drunk with some people some how loads of fun

i'd like to avoid getting drunk :Pi wouldn't be invited to go with ppl to go drink though.

Ask em if they wanna grab a beer sometime.

So you're telling a guy who's 17 or 18 to ask his pals if they want to go out for a beer?

wow great advice guys....I'm still 17!!! Most ppl in my grade are still 17 (but more will be turning 18 every month)....Your advice is get a bunch of 17 and 18 year olds drunk when it is illegal to do so? wonderful.I wonder when I will start getting real replies.... -----------------------horrible beer advice asisde - I cant just ask ppl out to hang out ......thats part of the problem.

Are you in any sports? Also What type of extra curricular activities are you in?

Since you dont want to drink or do drugs, buy a ricer. Go rice it out. Take it to races. Talk to other ricers. BAM. You have friends.If you suck at it, you will be dead. So no worries...

What type of extra curricular activities are you in?Good point. Any type of out-of-class activity can be a good way to meet people you share interests with.

main extracurricular activity is Band.Marching band in fall, right after Jazz band, concert band throughout the year. stuff like that.spending many hours after and before school doing that stuff, and I'm not good friends with any of them :POnce the school activity is over - I don't see any of them. After football games a group of ppl sometimes go to food places. I'm going to try to join some of this one of these days (hopefully this coming friday).Of course I'd just feel like a tag-along, not really wanted there. And I could be rejected. shrug might as well try.-----------------------------If you want to help, keep drinking comments out of this.

Talk to people, and gradually you'll move from being a tag-along to being one of the group.

WOOO! Go band! Yeah, like Ineligible said, if you hang out with people in the band and add to their conversations, they will like you. Trust me, last year no one wanted anything to do with me but since I've been hanging out and being one of the guys, I've been getting a lot more "Hi's" in the hallways and people actually want me in their conversations. If they reject you, then they might not be your type of people. There are plenty of other people in the school, though. It's taken me a couple of years to find my place, but I've found it and I'm happy now.

Gee, you sound like my nerd of a boyfriend. Don't get me wrong though- his nerdiness makes him cute.. Hee hee.I would say be friendly in general. Like if you hear about someone's birthday, remember it, and buy them a little present (like candy, or a small candle, etc). If you are just really nice, people will eat it up and be nice in return.

i can kinda relate to you, i used to be a lot like that. i've never been a school person, what can i say people are annoying, ignorant and sometimes scarily unrelateable. however, i doubt your not the only person who feels left out and i doubt people purposely miss you out. just go for it, talking to people youve got nothing to lose *shrugs*
..yeh im not much help.. :smirk:

Partys!!! Show up and get wasted and by morning you will have 15 new numbers in your phone book none of which you remeber getting! Im so glad I live in england with its drinking culture it makes it really easy to meet people ^^. I would suggest using the internet like myspace.com and getting to know a few people and asking them if they want to hang out sometime. Unfortunaly there are alot of emo fags on it but some people are pretty sound. All you have to do is meet a few differant people from a few differant social groups and watch the freiends roll in.

It seems like, for you, the answer to everything is to get drunk all the time. You may want to do that kind of self-medicating, but the OP said that he didn't.I've seen lots of drunks lying in the gutter. In the end, it really is a hollow solution.Is getting trashed out of your mind every week a U.K. tradition? No wonder the Empire declined.

Nope, hes just a punk going to the bar every fucking night, getting into trouble and getting into fights.

He doesnt really look like the fighting type lol.

footballer youre right , i dont go out looking for fights, I think its wrong to give people shit for no reason. But if anyone gives me shit I will have no problem fighting in self deffence ^^.>It seems like, for you, the answer to everything is to get drunk all the time. You may want to do that kind of self-medicating, but the OP said that he didn't.Answer for what? Im perfectly happy most of the time, if you can think of anything funner that I could be doing than going to the pub with good friends having a few beers doing some kareoki then going to the haygate for some live music and finaly topping the night off with a party at my friends house I would like to know!>I've seen lots of drunks lying in the gutter.Why would I be lying in the gutter? I dont get so drunk I cant walk and get ill thats just stupid and embarrasing for you and everyone around you. >In the end, it really is a hollow solution.A solution for what? Drinkings not a solution for anything, its just all in good fun.>Is getting trashed out of your mind every week a U.K. tradition? No wonder the Empire declined.Getting thrashed out your mind isnt, having a few social drinks with your friends is. Is not making propper flood barriers an American tradditon? No wonder a whole citys underwater. Bashing on other peoples countrys is just anoying and ignorant.Youre a very judemental person. How about you come to shrewsbury and come out for a night out and then make up your mind. Hell I'll even pay for it.

Thats a rather ignorant comment.