Unable to Orgasm

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Well i've been dating my boyfriend for just under a 2 years now. He is the first and only person i've ever been with. When we first started having sex I was unable to orgasm just because it was a new and kind of scary experience for me so it was hard to relax. But now i'm completely comfortable with him. The only time I've ever been able to orgasm with him was when my bladder was full and that didn't really turn out well. I've tried everything. Different positions, toys etc. I've resorted to faking it to keep from hurting my boyfriends feelings. But i'd really like to enjoy sex as much as he thinks I do. Can anybody offer any suggestions.

You should know what makes you get off. What needs to be touched or rubbed or licked? Talk to him. I'm sure he would want to help you enjoy it too.

I agree with Roc 100%. The only way you can have an orgasm with him is if you talk to him. He's not a mind reader, I'm sure, so don't let him guess on his own. Guide him. And no more faking. That's asking for trouble. I know you don't want to hurt his feelings, but it might be better for his feelings to be hurt from not giving you an orgasm rather his feelings hurt because you lied to him.You said you had one when your bladder was full. Why don't you try again but use the bathroom before you have sex?

It might take you a lot longer to orgasm than your boyfriend. Most girls take 20 or more minutes to orgasm during sex, and that's a long time for a guy to last. Try some foreplay!

Try the top position. If it doesn't work it could be your age.

If I couldnt last more than 20 minutes in teh sack, Id fucking quit trying! if man cant go that long he needs to look into finding a solution to his problem.

lots of foreplay is always a very good idea ( as stated before) but, Its also worth askin are you on any meds?

I think before we say that, we should know whether or not she can have an orgasm on her own. I.e., when masturbating. If she doesn't masturbate, it's possible she doesnt even know what gets her off.

Do you masturbate at all? And if you do, do you orgasm from that?

I can orgasm when i stimulate my self. But it usually includes some sort of visual stimilus. Like sexually explicit reading matierial and even porn. not that the sight of my boyfriend doesn't turn me on or anything but when i'm by myself that visual stimulation seems to help alot. He's the kind of person that thinks that porn dirty or gross or something. He wouldn't even go to a strip bar with me because he said the only person he wants to see naked is me. He's kind of prudish that way. I on the other hand am pretty open minded.

I believe foreplay, or clit stimulation is the answer...

Am I right in thinking that not all women will orgasm through sex alone? I thought I'd read (in the New Scientist magazine) that some women would only orgasm with stimulation of the clit (it was an article investigating how women differed physically depending upon whether or not they claimed to have a G spot).

Welcome to A2A, ShutterBug! Yes, it seems quite a substantial proportion of women can't orgasm, or rarely orgasm, from penetration alone.

agreed

Well not many people know this, but most girls can't orgasm until their around 20 years old, and even them some don't, most girls never have orgasms and it's nothing to be ashamed about,there's not much you can do about it, but as long as you still get pleasure out of it.

I would have to disagree that most girls never have orgasms. But I have seen a suggestion that a quarter of women never achieve orgasm, though I don't know how reliable that figure is, and it seems hard to believe.

well not most but some girls never even achieve an orgasm and there's nothing they can do really.

if u are a girl sit on a dryer when it is on. i heard about.but i dont know if it is true.TRY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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