New to BLow Jobs

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Hi. this is my first post on here. been married. in the beginning thought Bj's were nasty, never would go down there... but did consider doing it with condom on top... but thought my husband would think I was dirty. Latley found out my husband doesn't think it was dirty... and he thought I thought it was dirty... so I never did it with a condom on top until recently. My husband was making requests.. and I something in me listened.. and I was like o.k. You want this.. I will give it to you.. So now I've been doing it for one week with a Condom on top.. I must Admit I hate these Condoms on Top.. I don't like the thickness of them.. and I don't like having to use put them on before I want to do anything.. .. I wish I had more freedom.. so when I want to suck it.. I just can.. I must admit that in only one week, I have gotten used to it... and I don't understand why I think about it all the time., it has consumed my person.. this thinking of Blow Jobs... possibly it is because it is new to me... or I am in some state of Shock that I am actually doing it.. But back to not liking condoms. I wish to be more free, and I do believe that he has not gotten off from it because of the condom.. it just seems like it would take forever with the condom on.. I have given him handjobs in the past and he has gotten off. OR maybe he has not gotten off because I am relatively new to it... and I just need to practice more.But I need to know.... ARe there any alternatives to condoms? I guess I'm self conscious about going down there still.. I know I'm going down there.. but i'm not sure that I totally agree that my mouth belongs down there. and I read all on this sight, about how if you have a clean man.. well my husband has only been with me.. and me only with him.. i can't imagine these people who go with a lot of different cocks, sucking on all of them.. so i guess they would consider my husband clean, however... i don't know that i feeel that my mouth should be sucking on a cock.. and i'm not sure how sanitary and clean that sounds.. I'm mostly self concious of the pee pee hole.. Yet at the same time I'm like i want freedom, i want to give sensation, not just for him, I want to feel, I hate condoms, and I feel very torn between not wanting to feel nasty, and wanting to be free.. .. so are there any alternatives to condoms.. can i cover it, somehow else? something thinner and less intrusive. is there any way i can just cover the pee pee hole ? I just want to put some chocolate on it and go with it.. but I feel so self conscious of it.. and i'm not sure if i could kiss my husband after that.. my husband won't go down on me.. because he doesn't believe his mouth belongs down there.. and even if i somehow dream about it.. I don't want him to.. because I couldn't kiss him after that..... -purplemonster............

First, i don't see why your husband thinks its ok for you to put your mouth down there, when he doesn't think his should be..........to be honest i would tell him to shove it, sex should be a two way thing.Second, I also don't beleive that you should do anything you don't want to do.........Third, i can't think of anything worse than giving a blowjob with a condom on EWWWWWWW! A clean penis is perfectly fine, and most men can't pee when they are erect so you don't have to worry about that. Why not try washing him as part of foreplay, so you know hes all clean down there, and as long as he doesn't go for a pee inbetween the washing, and the BJ, then the pee-hole thing shouldn't be an issue. Once you have washed him, penis, balls and surrounding areas, then get him to lay on the bed and explore him, with you hands and mouth. There is NO reason to be embarrassed, this is your husband, not some one night stand, and you should feel totally relaxed about things, especially a blowjob, many men think of it as a 'should do' for women, i don't agree, its something to be given, not expected, if you know what i mean.I posted this on another thread, and the guys seemed to think it sounded good.......vary what you're doing, doing the same thing, stops it from being nice, lick and kiss his balls, the shaft of his penis, the head, run your tongue gently over the head, flick the head where is joins the shaft, run your tongue around the rim of the head, use your lips lightly, and use them firmly over the head, as you take him in, do it slowly sometimes, hardly sucking, other times, suck hard as you can as you draw him back out, flicking your tongue around as you move up him, suck the head hard, rub it on your face, rub your nipples on his head, in his pre-cum...........tease him by taking the head in slowly, and stop, take him all in when he isn't expecting it LOLwhatever you do the secret to a good blow job is variation............ However i still don't beleive that it should be a one way thing, if you hubby isn't prepared to do the same to you, i wouldn't do it for him, no way, especially since you want him to............maybe you could both shower together, wash eachother and you will both be more comfortable putting your mouths down there.

It was my decision to give him the BJ. He didn't force me, he didn't really talk to me much about it. He mentioned it a few months ago jokingly because he thought I thought it was dirty.. but I realized he wasn't really joking, he was trying to speak the Truth.. He wanted to try this... I had jokingly told him that I wanted to try it... years ago.. but I wasn't really joking I was trying to speak my truth.. but uncomfortable I thought he would think I was dirty.. So He didn't ask me out right, I basically told him that I was going to do it to him.. So It is something that I was open to do from the beginning - the blow job with the condom, I was open to this from the beginning.I don't want my husband to go down on me, because I personally couldn't kiss him afterwards. but I've told him that he will have to do other things to me in return - he has agreed to the other things, and I've even added to my list of other things that he will have to do to me.I'm just very self conscious about no condom, i know you say it's my husband, but aren't all people self concious about things like that in the beginning ? The only way to overcome is to do. but i'm not sure that I'm ready to do all that yet.... Or maybe I am.... One week ago I was embarrased or totally self concious about doing it with the condom on.. but now I'm not... maybe i'm shy... or something... i was somehow embarrased to take his cock into my mouth.. i had never done anything like that before.. but one week later i'm not afraid to put his cock into my mouth.. yeah i have a condom on it, but i'm still puting it in my mouth.... and i'm somehow used to it.. and now i'm considering doing it without the condom... but i'm not sure if that is right for me... I may have to wait a while for that step... When i decided to finally give him a blow job, i was nervous about it, but I was comfortable with my decison.. I guess if I decide to take off the condom, I will have to be nervous, yet comfortable with my decision.. and i'm not comfortable at this momment to take off the condom.-Peacepurplemonster

not sure why you wouldn't want to kiss him after he had been down on you, i love that taste and smell of me on his face!If you feel comfortable giving him a BJ with a condom on, and then work up to giving him one without, why not try flavoured condoms........I hate the smell of condoms, can't imagine the taste of em yuk, but surely flavoured ones would be better than normal.........tho i don't get why you would be self concious about sucking him with a condom on, its exactly like sucking him without really.............the action is the same............but as you say, once your comfortable with the idea then go for it

Ahhhhhh..... Wow ?????
I'm compelled to at least try to give some advice here, but can't think of how to write it... Good thing you're here Angel.

But weren't you somehow shy about it all in the Beginning?

me, shy? LOL...........actually, no i wasn't, i just knew i wanted to do as much as i could and feel all the intense new feelings.........I was fascinated by it all grin And you have to be doing a VERY bad job for a guy not to enjoy a BJ to be honest.........:)

Giving blowjobs is fun! I've never done it with a condom, it ruins it. No need to be self-conscious- just enjoy it! But if it really bothers you, maybe you shouldn't be doing it at all... (?)

angel, stop........I can't take much more.........lol. I will never get any work done today , for sure........take care.

***kiss* **