I'm 16, and I've been dating this girl for 4 months, and it's been the strongest relationship of my life, just like, INCREDIBLE. We've had fights, arguements, all that stuff, and it's turned out for the better everytime. It's just been a very very flexible relationship. We think it's pretty real love here, if not true. And I may sound a little retarded trying to classify love in categories, but I'm talking about from maybe just an outside opinion. And I know I don't know what love is when youre 30 years old and blah blah, but I feel like I have the full understanding as I currently know it. And I know I've passed the infatuation stage, that was a long time ago. I know this relationship is true for me, was just seeing how this compared with anyone else's experiences/opinions/point of views/etc.
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Best way to tell if its TRUE love?...Hmm...
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It might be love. It's not unreasonable to fall in love after four months. But it's a pretty hard thing to define. I thought I was in love when I was 14, and I still think I was...but who knows? It's all so subjective.
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Well, I think (this is an OPINION) that there is someone for everyone out there but you never know that you've found that person. Being in love is a great thing but its not always true love. I wouldnt trade of erase any of my loves from my past because I dont regret any of them, and if my love now passes i think it was worth it cause you learn from every relationship that you have, wether its good or bad. I dont think you know if you've found that person for you, or your true love(s) until you lose them.
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well said..good point
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I think there are a lot of possible "right" people. Consider yourself lucky if you've found one of them.
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I dont think you can be in true love with someone at that age. Its even hard when you are a young adult. The reason i think this is because at that age it is very hard to find someone mature enough. People will change as they get older and go their paths in life. I remember high school where everyone that dated was in love. Made me sick. And i always laughed when they ended up breakin up. But i thought they were in love?!?!?! I dont buy love at a young age. My advice would be to take it for what it is but dont call it love. Stay in the relationship and get older. If you still feel the same way latr in life even after shes gone through all her stages, and uve gone through all ur stages in life, then maybe it is true love
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Very well said
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yeah. I agree with Ata7, too. How can you really know when you've had such little life experience yourself? just take it slow...
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"love is giving someone the power to destroy you, but trusting them enough to not do it" that a quote from something but i just thought that i'd post it :grin:
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I think you can fall in love at a young age (real love). just not know it, and the odds that it would last into adult hood are small.
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I love that quote, very true.
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I think most people have that one person who they were with in their teenage years, that they will never ever forget. It's hard to explain but i think that teenage "love" and adult "love" are two different things.. teenage love is fun .. about being happy with who ur with and just having a fun time with them.. adult love is serious.. being happy with who you are and what you've become since you've been with that person. I look at my relationships.. then i look at what my mom and my dad have... soo different.. I know my parents are truly in love..
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Thats an interesting point. I think it might have more to do with the people, like ive have very serious relationships and very happy exciting a fun relationships. At 20, my fella 22 we have a very fun exciting relationship.
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I belive love has to do where you live also. I have 30 cousins and i am not kidding. I am the youngist one at 19\. They have all gotten married before the age of 22\. That is becuase they are from small little towns of about 30000 or less. So everyone know everyone. I am the only one that hasnt stayed in one town my whole life. There is only on person that can tell you if you are ready to be in love or not. Fuck all these people man. Listen to your heart and brain. You are the only one that knows if you are or not. No one can give adive in love when the usa has the worst devorce rate in the world. Just let your heart tell you. You will know if you are in love with this person. I cant give that much advice either becuase i have dated a lot but only been in love 2 times. But just let your heart and brain tell you what the answer is. You will find the answer soon enough.
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Why are we asking ourselves if we're living a true love? No one needs to classify and define these feelings. It's better for us just to live these great moments and these powerful emotions into our hearts, since the good things never last forever, instead of asking ourselves all the time what we're living actually.
Sometimes we have to live for today :P