ok after EVERY time i cum i always feel guilty for what ive done, and since i feel guilty it makes me depressed and i dont want that. so i was wondering if any one knew why this happens and if there is any way i can stop feeling guilty. and please dont give me a site with the info on it, unless its better than ur explanation.
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Just don't think about it. I used to have that feeling too when I first started, but since then, it's gone away. The less you think about it, the less guilty you'll feel, and eventually you won't think about it at all.
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It seems to me that it results from a change in mood that I suspect comes from the hormone changes at orgasm. It's very common.
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My question would be how do you feel about it at other times. Like when you're not masturbating, not thinking about it or planning it, not horny. Make sense? Like when you're doing normal life stuff. Do you feel guilty then about having masturbated?
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holy moly i just came on to make this exact same post with your question but then i saw ur thing and read it, but yea i get that to like right after i cum, immediatly i feel like insanely depressed and feel like idk i just feel so awful
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I feel it too. Right after I cum I end up swearing off porn and masturbation and yelling at myself. Then, thirty minutes later the feeling is gone. I also lose all attraction after masturbation.
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most people when they start masturbating do feel guilty. Its just a natural feeling. It WILL go away. The guilty feeling comes because it is seen as a PRIVATE thing. The important thing to remember is that 99% of guys do it. Don't feel guilty, just enjoy it.
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Just about every guy gets this feeling after orgasm. Its caused by a sudden change in hormones immediately after orgasm. I forgot which ones make us feel this way, but it has a major effect on our mood and feelings after we orgasm. It is believed that they are designed to be released and make us feel that way to force our reproductive system to get some 'rest time' to get ready for the next orgasm. It makes some women angry and confused though - they can't understand why we sometimes like to "cum and run" and not cuddle and continue playing after we orgasm.
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The cause is dependent upon several things. First, once you orgasm there is a hormonal change (as others have said), generally producing a satiated feeling.The guilt your feeling generally comes from feelings you have. Often from childhood where you were told touching yourself was wrong or even being punished for it. Also, your religious up-bringing that may even specifically stating that masturbation is wrong.You need to decide how you wish to handle these feelings. You need to decide if you feel this is something you really feel is wrong, or if it is just a reactionary feeling. One thing you do need to realize is that most men, and many women, do masturbate.Most people feel it is natural and do not see religious or other reasons to avoid or stop doing it (at least as long as it is kept private and by yourself). You will even find various sources that state it is good for your body, a good method to avoid pre-marital sex, etc.So, research and decide how you feel about it and my guess is you will determine that you really have nothing to feel guilty about, but have a refactory period when your just not interested for some period of time, once you have the release.
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Good words longlines. I appreciate that you encouraged him to do research and decide for himself instead of telling him it's right or wrong.
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I've always thought of this feeling as the mental orgasm. Generally, after the physical O, your body is done. The mental one is the same.... suddenly what was freaking hot a minute ago is suddenly yucky! It can happen with partner sex as well as masterbation.Don't worry about it, it's normal and, I can tell you personally, it fades over time
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When I first started masturbating, after I had cumed I would get that guilty feeling too. But now years later I don't ever feel guilty about it, cuz it is normal for people to masturbate. I stopped getting that guilty feeling about 4 months after I started masturbating.
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im not here to urge u to do something that u feel bad about but if u really like jacking off, my best advice to get rid of this feeling is to do it more. thats how i broke of it. i would jack off and feel like i did the most disgusting thing. but after i did it for a long time and kept at it, the feeling went away. just think of it this way, as soon as u start to feel guilty and ur concience tells u that u did something extremely wrong (this may soud crazy) start cursing ur concience out. it works for some people.
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the same thing happens to me
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I used to have that feeling after every time I masturbated, but it will go away.