Why do i puss out?

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Nah, You're a guy. You can help him more then me.

Just show no mercy and do it.

What? Why are you replying to me?

I didn't date much in highschool. Actually I only had one semi-serious relationship. I like it that way. Doesnt stop me now from having options in guys. Why? I have confidence.. I give myself chances.. I TAKE chances.. I don't go for guys who randomly throw themselves at me.. I go for what I want.. Me Me Me!! Set yourself a standard.. stick to it.. You shouldnt have to take anything less then the best! TakeAChance

YAWN..and you bore me...If you don't like it, remove signatures in your preferences.

About 80% of my friends are girls. I am really good friends with just about all of them and I have asked out over half of them and they all said no. Now I am going out with one of them who I have been best friends with for nearly a year and I couldn't be happier.

There are many things about girls that ya have to be aware of. Try to become friends with them, and if you can't become more than casual acquaintances with atleast one of them then you are probably just backing out of something that is actually so easy.

There isn't really a trick to it or anything, ya just have to be yourself. Altho I think you might want to rethink who you are and your attitude towards people before trying to make contact. I fyou start talking to them about all your failures with other girls and with life in general you are just gonna sound pathetic and put them off. be happy, be nice, have a nice sense of humour. You don't even have to be funny, some girls find that cute as long as you're not being an ass or offensive or anything.

Basically I'm saying that you need to forget about fucking for the moment, and even forget about relationships. What you need is a female friend, cause they will teach you more about women than fucking drunk girls ever will. Cause you can't go to parties and pick out the inebriated girls for the rest of your life, you need to understand girls in general before you can really ever be with one. It doesn't require being a football player or being cool, nice guys don't finish last, guys who sit around doing fuck all blaming social order do.

Wow, I can't believe I just sat through this thread and read this whole bag of shit. White Lines, let me tell you a few things.First, do you ever brag about yourself to yourself? You need a major confidence booster of some sort before you will ever convince a girl to like you. I have realized from personal experience that you have to love yourself before others will love you. I realized that with my girl as well. She wouldn't let me love her till she realized that she is worth it, that she does mean something, and that she can love herself.Second, you mentioned that you posted this thread to get advice on how to treat girls better and speak well with them so they will have sex with you instead of some "other random guy". Well, you have to be yourself and be easy going. Most of the girls who will just get banged at a party while they are drunk, are just like you. They have no value of themselves and they don't care who they are with as long as they are getting sex, which my friend, is WRONG. You can satisfy your hormone rage yourself temporarily until you find someone who will deal with you.Third, be extra caring and sweet. Girls often like these kind of guys who show the little bit that they care. I remember hearing this from somewhere and it's so true: most guys are jerks out there, so when one guy shows the least bit of thoughtfulness, the girl has no choice but to fall madly in love with him. And this is true. If you can show others that you actually care ABOUT them and who they are, then you can probably win their heart in a heartbeat (no pun intended).Last, and most importantly... get over yourself and stop letting your dick make all the decisions. Get your heart active and find someone who's right for you. It's simple, once someone gets in your heart, and you love them, you will probably end up getting in their pants too. Love comes with the pros and cons, one benefit is the physical stuff you seem to desire so much.Hope this helps, hope you can discover yourself, and hope you learn how to love!-anon dude

You see though, I find it difficult to talk to people I don't already know, especiallu girls. I've tried everything to counter this, fuck I've even taken drugs and alcohol before school (years ago) in order to be more talkative and social, it backfired one time I did about 6 rails of blow in my car in the parking lot and I felt all jittery and shaky an hour later and had to leave. Right now my biggest fear is dying alone and I'm nearly convinced it's my fate so I just want to get it over with sooner rather than suffer another 50-60 years of solitude.

That's what I don't get about people saying drugs are bad. What about the successful recreational social users? Why can't I smoke a joint with a hot girl or something, plenty of girls smoke.

I had a buddy that had this happen to him. He only got off because it wa at a party and this girl nearly raped him and walked around telling everyone she was going ot fuck his brains out that night
He called several off us into court when he went to trial ffor rape, if it hadnt been for her mouth he would of been in prison getting ass raped and sucking cock for smokes and protection.
My rule was always that the first time I hump them they had to be sober, aftr that if they were drunk and fwanted some I gave it to them.

Sounds like a horrible vicious cycle, you take alchol and drugs cause your alone which only make you more alone. Very depressing. You have to break the chain some time.

Yeah but I don't think drugs are my problem in specific, they just don't help (but they don't hurt). I most often use alcohol socially anyways.My problem is I lack the ability to talk to girls, I just don't know where to start or what to say. I really doubt I can change, I wouldn't know what to do.

The general rule I was taught and I have found to be almost 100% true is :Treat a lady like a whore.Treat a whore like a lady.There have been a few exceptions but in general looking for some sex and a one night stand I have found it to be pretty reliable information to have on hand fin the bars and social clubs and partys.

lol, that's a funny song. hehe

I have such a hard time talking to people I don't know. I didn't even feel completely comfortable with my girlfriend (who I just recently broke up with) who I began to get to know in September. For me, I just have a hard time completely trusting unfamiliar people and I have a comfort zone that is limited to people I've known for a long time. I always tend to get nervous, my mind goes blank a lot and I'm not sure what to say, but I try to get over it. I've gotten better at talking to people I don't know over the past couple years. I'm making slow progress, but at least there is some progress there.For me, I've been like this since I was a little kid. I didn't care until junior high, and it's only started to improve since I've looked at it with a more positive attitude. I can improve myself, so long as I try to stay as positive about myself as I can. Feel strong, don't slouch, give yourself confidence, and just go for it when talking to people (particularily girls) that you don't know. You need to just not give a shit about the outcome and try to be as relaxed as you can.It's something you can find in yourself, and I'm sure you have the ability to improve yourself. A positive attitude and confidence are the most important step.

I have a couple girls in mind who I'd ask out, I just don't know how to go about it. This is bullshit that I'm alone, I see ugly people with humpbacks who have girlfriends.

So there's one girl I don't really know or even know her name who I see everyday in the lounge at school watching TV. We never say anything to one another and I doubt she's ever noticed me. She's kinda goodlooking though, not hot but cute which I like. I have no idea how to get to know someone like that. I can't just go and ask her out, that would look creepy.

There's another girl who I knew from when we worked together when I was 16 and 17. I went into that store today and saw her, we hadn't seen one another in at least 2 years so I said "hi" and told her what'd I'd been up to and vice versa. She was a good friend when I worked there, she was cashier and I always bagged for her so we talked about bullshit a lot.

I think I should import a wife from Hong Kong though. I here those Asian mail-orders are trained to be obedient.

just walk by the tele and ask "whats this crock of shit playing on the ol' boob tube? eh?"

In reply to:I advise to not be stoned when doing this...just be yourself....she might like the (not stoned) you. I'm not stoned all the time. Especially not during school, I'm not gonna fuck around with what my parents pay for. I'm usually alone when I'm stoned anyways so I'm never around girls to hit on or I'm with a few male friends who also smoke because in my experience most girls don't smoke or if they do they only do it once in a while because the smoke is too harsh for them.

actually, i know a lot of girls that smoke, but i wont get into that. It sounds like you deffinatly could get a date, but you've built a sort of wall around youself and dont know how to aproach anyone and are afraid to rejection. Can you just ask a girl friend of yours whom you like to go out for coffee (Make sure you actually give a specific time, other wise the "Sometime" will turn into never)