Okay this might sound like an odd question but here me out.How does a blind person discover their sexual orientation?Seriously, we rely so much on our eyes for sexual discovery, without even realising it. If we like what we see we invariably wnat to indulge our other senses. If you've been blind all your life you dont have that guide.
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Blind people and sexual orientation
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thats a VERY good question, and one that I will be able to answer in a few years LOLMy daughter is blind, born blind and nearly 10. There are a lot of things I wonder about now shes growing up, like how she will deal with periods etc, how will she know shes even started if she doesn't get cramps like i didn't used to.............rambling sorry LOL But how she works out her sexuality, now theres something!
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Indeed! Well you'll have to keep us all informed. Good luck with that. Maybe its a subject that has been studied indepth already? Maybe theres even soem kind of Blind Gays Association.Its not a question I've heard raised before. It only came to me cos on TV was this thing about these young blind people going to stay in Sierre Leone and it read out exerts from these brail letters between a blind Englishman and a blind African and I was thinking..."am I the only one who thinks it sounds like more than a friendship?". And then OMG blind gays! WOW!
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**LOL well, being disabled in anyway obviously doesn't make you any different to anyone else in your mind, so i guess there are just as many gay blind and disabled people.
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Aye! But maybe there are many that arent even aware of such.Lets say I'm a blind gay. I've never seen what a man or a woman looks like. So I'm shagging this girl and my mind is feeling in the gaps in my senses, according to my sexual ideals and desires, probably without me even totally understanding them. You get me?
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I totally get where you are coming from, however attraction to another man, for example is more than just looks, so surley a blind man would be attracted to another man in the same way a sighted man would be, but without the initial looks attraction...............
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But what tells the blind man that the other man is infact a man atall? Of course he knows the guys a man, but physically all he has to go on is the guys voice. So what about a woman with a deep voice? Will he be attracted to her?Man its so hard to imagine living without sight.
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**As a sighted person the hardest thing in the world is to try and imagine what it must be like without sight. I spent months seeing things with and without sight (if that makes sense) so i could teach my daughter as she grew up everything she needed to know, like the sound of the washing machine for example, talking to her all the time as a baby so she knew where i was, the sound of the kettle, birds everything. and trying hard to describe everything in details that i know she will understand, for instance, you say dog to a child and they know what one is, you say dog to a blind child and they have no idea, I have spent years explaining, making sure she gets to feel, smell and taste everything in order for her to have a visual image that she can work with and understand, for example what a dog is. I even spend a lot of time out in town 'feeling' at the raised letters of signs etc, so that when she is older she will be able to get around...........its really really hard, being a parent is hard enough but having to bring up a blind child is even harder, not to mention the heartbreak i have when i see her with her cane, and banging into things :frowning:
Saying all that, its been the most amazing thing in the world to have her, she is always so happy and inspires everyone she meets, shes amazing. **
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Thats wonderful. I'm sure becuase of your effort and love she will loves a very happy and fullfilled life.
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sorry i waffled and went off topic
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Oh you had better be sorry!!!
haha nahh its all good :smile:
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Well since sexual orientation is not truly about looks, it actually more of an emotional thing.
For gay men in general, it's not about the penis that makes us homosexuals, it's the emotional attraction to other men that makes us homosexual.
Now I am not saying there is not a physical attraction to other men, because of course there is... but it's not the main point of being homosexual.
So because it's an emotional attraction more so the physical attraction that determines sexual orientation, it's pretty easy for a blinde person to determine their sexual orientation.
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About a year or so ago an ex-girlfriend (now best friend) set me up on a date with a blind man, who of course was gay. He was a great guy but we just didn't click. But on the date we talked and one of the things we talked about was sexual orientation and such. He said he knew he was gay from a very young age and it had nothing to do with the penis or even anything physical. Instead he said he also had more of a connection emotionally to men and as he got older he also realized that the emotional attachment he had towards men was turning into sexual attraction as well. But it was the emotional attraction that let him know he was gay.
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sorry i waffled and went off topic
That was a great waffle!
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AGREED YOU KICK A$$! Big hugs!
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I wish I could give you a great big bear hug!You have gone thru and been thru a lot. You children are lucky to have such an awesome Mom as you..
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awww thanks guys...........I didn't mean to go on, I just get carried away sometimes LOL funnily enough my daughter got her new cane yesterday, the only blind child in scotland to have a flourescent pink and green striped one..........she LOVES it and now im afraid it will become the pink and green offensive weapon against her brothers big smileIts really great to read such positive posts from people who have known blind people in their adult years and who don't think of them as lower class citizens..............i have met with discrimination already and she is only 9
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hugs I loved your waffle.I am thinking that a blind persons imagination is probably better than any of us. I mean, a definate upside would be if they are sleeping with a man, they could imagine it is Vin Diesel. And the woman could be Angelina. Touching/feeling would also play a big part. I know my man wispering and breathing in my ear is enough to get me going.
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in bed with vin and angelina, can you imagine, is it hot in here or is it me???...........whispers in lisa's ear and kisses her neck
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Ladies, please!
