Help!!

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Ok i'm 15 yrs old and a girl. I am In love with my best friend. How do i tell her first of all i'm a lesbian and second that I am maddly love her.

A) Does she know you're a lesbian?B) Is she?C) Do you think the thought would disturb her?After you establish that, it's pretty easy. Just go nice and slow, and tell her the way you feel without making it seem like you're coming onto her...so-to-speak...

In reply to:
A) Does she know you're a lesbian?
B) Is she?
C) Do you think the thought would disturb her?
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A)I don't think she knows... she and a bunch of my friends joke about it but i do not know.

B)She might be a lesbian she's always been a little obsesive over this guy but whenever I ask about the relationship its either ummm uhh yeah we're taking a break or we were never toghether and I think he's afraid of me.

C) I really don't know like i asked her once when she was joking around that would it be so bad if i was gay her response was no but she kinda moved slowly away and talked to another one of my friends.

Well, this doesn't seem that good. You need to just sit her down and explain the lesbian thing to her first, let her in on your point of view. Otherwise, unless you want to freak her out, you shouldn't (unfortunately) tell her the truth. Teenagers are a tad strange about hearing things like that, and you never know what answer or comment you'll get back in reply.

So should i tell her... what if she totally alienates me i seriously only have one bunch of friends and at my last school nobody even talked to me. Should i live my last couple of high school years a sham or should i come out.

Ummmm....try and gague whether she is a lesbian or not, and if you don't think so....maybe you shouldn't.It's one thing coming out and saying your gay/lesbian....a little different to tell your best friend your in love with them.

First off, if you're worried that telling her you're gay will totally end your friendship, then don't tell her unless you're ready for that.If you think she'll be accepting, then tell her.See how she feels about that first, then if she's cool with it, tell her that you like her, but you value your friendship more than a relationship with her, but if she were ever curious or anything, then you'll be there as more than a friend.But make sure she knows that your friendship with her comes above your sexual/relationship feelings for her.

How long have you been madly in love with her?

I have loved her for 2 years but only maddly for 7 months after i made the jump from Junior to senior high. we both went to different schools across the city and we met when she tripped me during a crosscountry race and i fell into a ravine. lol