What girls want?

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this is an age old question. what exactly do girls look for in a guy. i'm 16 if that helps. is there anything that would really be a no go. e.g.annoying shit. I realise it depends on the girl but, a bullet point list of qualities would be good

There is only one universal thing: Confidence.

Well what I look for in a guy is for him to be funny, and nice. I look for a guy with a good personality. A guy who's not shy of coming up to a girl, and stuff. I don't like it when guys are stuck up and think there all that, its a turn off for me. But a guy with a great smile and personality does it for me. Hope this helps you.

Small compiled list of reasons I've been given for girls not going out with me, that must mean girls want it (note to girls, before you shout at me saying "that's not true", these are all 100% honest official responses I have been given by actual girls over the past few years):Keep in mind that most of these relate to first impressions only, and are what girls look at first. You need to have these following things to "get your foot in the door". From then on it's down to your actual skills as a boyfriend (usually).- "throwing around money". excess cash to spend on her- car, self-explanatory, but car value is directly proportional to the bitchiness of the girl- own home, not so she can sleep over, but so she can move in and destroy your privacy- "nice clothes" - however, there is no definition for this. wear smart casual and they think you're full of yourself, wear casual and they think you're scruffy. finding the exact middle ground is nigh-on impossible.- no facial hair. girls like a guy to be smooth- manly stubble. girls like a guy to be rough.- i know these contradict, but so do girls!- sense of humour, actually true!- confidence. Now I could write an essay on this. Girls want a guy who is confident. There is supposedly an exact level, which goes along the lines of being willing to show that you're sexually interested without giving an idea that you're a sex offender. However, if the confidence streches to you being an asshole, that's ok too. It cannot however go the other way, and if you're too nice you're too rejected. Instant friend-zone material. You'll be painting their nails in no time.- having some "manly" pastimes help too. Be a guitar player in a band (note: has to be lead guitar only. No drummers, bassists, synth or vocalists - apparently they're all pussies). Extreme sports help. the more extreme the better, providing they're not "sick" (literal meaning). Surfing, rock climbing, skydiving are all good examples. note here that skating is NOT an extreme sport. They will accuse you of being a 12yr old.- physically you must not have body fat that can be pinched, grabbed etc. You should be buff, but not too buff (although some girls really go for heavily beefy guys like Helms on here, but I think the majority are more for "I can see the sixpack but it's not too much of a distraction"). Body hair is a variable that depends on the girl, as long as she isn't getting you confused with a wild animal! Long, thin, girly fingers seem to be popular (although in practice I think chunkier fingers work better!)- as a personal observation, as opposed to one a girl has told me, facial appearance really doesn't seem to have much impact whatsoever. As long as there's nothing out of the ordinary going on, you can be turbo-ugly and still get girls, but I think you must have EVERY other thing on this list to be successful. As an example, I see girls say "cor that guy is well fit and has a proper nice face" about blokes who look like they tried to kiss a moving train!- hair, again is dependent on the girl. It would seem that length of hair is proportional to the demeanour of the girl, i.e. VERY short hair = cold heartless girl who is only interested in your money, whereas longer hair gets you a warmer more friendly girl.- the fewer eyelashes you have, and the shorter they are, the better. Believe it or not I've been turned down because my eyelashes are "long like a girl's"- you MUST have at least some ability to dance. and you MUST be willing to do so when she requests it.- a cute pet wins points, so long as it doesn't make you look like a wuss- and i think the last one that springs to mind, is that you must let them have space. when I say space, i mean leaving them alone until they're willing to do something with you.You will notice that barely any of these relate to personality. Girls saying that personality matters (in my experience) is just a euphemism, and they're really just trying to hide the fact that it's not as important as everything else. Obviously once you have your foot in the door, your personality will make or break a relationship - but you still need to maintain the above list, else personality wont matter.Good luck!

wow you must be with a lot of superficial girls. i can put up with practically anything, except lack of confidence.

Haha, no I'm not with a lot of superficial girls. I'm never with any cos they turn me down for one of the above reasons. And they're not including the girls who give me a false reason to "not hurt my feelings"!I've never met a girl who isn't like that.

wow. crazy stuff, the whole throwing around money thing...thats just...greedy/superficial/materialistic.same thing with the dancing thing... i have no ability to dance so i wouldnt expect a guy to. and the eyelash thing, well, thats crazy, i think its cute when guys have long eyelashes. maybe your looking for the wrong kind of girl. My boyfriend doesnt have money to throw around, doesnt own a car, cant dance.

I have no car, not much spare money, I have short hair but my girlfriend isn't heartless, I have long eyelashes that my girlfriend pointed out and likes, I can't dance to save myself.I don't think you have to be super confident in everything you do to get a girl. What mainly counts is the ability to approach girls and engage in convosation. To be honest confidence can be faked. You just have to be not afraid to fail.

Hmm..I'd rather not have an overly confident guy. They seem to be arrogant and cocky, and think they are better than other people.
If I was lookin for a man, I'd go for someone I feel equal with - someone I know it wouldnt be a constant fight to impress or keep them happy, someone I know would listen to me, make me laugh, and I would be able to make them happy in return. I look for people with nice eyes... a smile that reaches their eyes... and a person I would feel comfortable being myself with, who would love me for who I am and not try to change me.

Don't forget, also, that the ideal guy for one girl is not the same as the ideal guy for another girl. (And similarly for ideal girls for guys.) People tend to like people who are like themselves in some important ways, so, rather than trying to turn yourself into something quite different, it can be better to find a person who likes you as you are.

I always heard that it was opposites that attract, and people tend to look for someone who complements their personality, not matches it?

I'm picky. But that's because I don't want a boyfriend.

Overall it depends on the girl. You cant ask such a big question.. that's like asking girls what they want for christmas.. some could say a chainsaw some could say a diamond ring.

Yah like if you have ever seen that episode of seinfield(sp? lol) where jerry's girlfriend is exactly like him and after a while he can't stand that there totally alike. I like a girl thats into the same stuff, but if both partner is strong headed and always has to be right.. you will run into some problems.

Firstly, Women arent all the same :smile:

Sadbuttrue, you seem to have a cynical perception. Personally i dont beleive women know what they want (exactly).

I would say there are key things to have though.

POSITIVE IMAGE = Confidence, Humor, Cool Personality, Interests, Social Life, Fashion Sense, Self Respect.

In respect of Confidence and humor, be cocky and funny, its a 'players' primary weapon with dealing with women. Its humor that verges on arrogant. Its hard to explain. Arrogance is bad but if you can use it in a humorous way is killer.

Cool personality will come from your interests and social skills, surely you have some cool hobbies? If not get one, it doesent hurt to have substance although topics like school or work are cool too.

Fashion sense, look in magazines, goto Topshop, H+M and Zara, see the people who shop there, there usually fashionable. Its all about finding a look that suits you and looks cool. Layers and scarfs are popular, chav is a big no no.

Self respect, this ties it all togeather. All the other things will become stronger or better if you beleive in yourself and think positivly about yourself.

Girls can spend their entire lives looking for Mr. Right, stop thinking like that and say to yourself your Mr. Right-NOW!

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