I love you??

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what does a guy mean when he says i love you? i know, many people will say this is a stupid question. but really. they'll say it right at the start of the relationship when they hardly know anything about you and it's just weird. and then it just becomes sort of like a chore... i hate that.

What does it mean?... Not much.How can you "love" someone when you really don't know them that well?

Ick, I hate that too. Some people have no problem throwing that word around. I'm sure they really do believe they're in love when they say it, but in my eyes they're giddy with lust. That, or they're only saying it because they think it's what I need to hear. Not sure which is worse.

I dated my fiance for nearly a year before I told her that.
Alot of times if you say it you get laid. that why its said and tossed back and forth and who doesnt want to be in love?
I think that few people know what its like to relly be in love and mistake lust and fun with love.

After years of marriage, it becomes just a word.

thanks for your opinions everyone!

It freaks me out. I haaate it when guys say 'i love you' when they dont mean it...it makes me feel awkward because i dont say it back lol.

yeah, my friend just started going out and I guess the guy started saying it right away and she broke up with him. I'm proud of her. I don't know if I could ever do that.

Me and my bf said i love you quite early on, like within the first month. Just because a guy says it early on doesn't necessarily mean he doesnt mean it. Of course most guys say it just to have sex with the girl, but that isn't always the case. And loving someone and being in love with them are two very different things.

Yea if you two dont know eachother too well then its kind of wierd. Ive heard good friends say love ya back n forth, but other than that i would say its odd to say i love you to someone unless you're togethere for a while

I'm that same way. Every time I imagine myself with that special person, I can only say I like you a lot. I can't actually bring myself to say the deep meaning word because I don't really know him yet. It takes time and a good knowledge of a person and how you feel about them before someone should actually say it.

My girlfriend started saying that to me like a week after we started going out. Shortly after I said it, but it just didn't feel right. I kind of stopped saying it after that. Not only that, but I found it kind of annoying that she'd say that when we'd only been together for a short time, she acted like she had been with me for months or years and it seemed way too fast.

As a guy, from my perspective it's just a word in that case. My girlfriend was the guy you were talking about. I know exactly what you mean by hearing it and feeling like you should always be saying it back as being a chore. I liked her, but I didn't LOVE her. That takes time to establish and in this case I found that I didn't enjoy being around her as much as I originally thought I would. I broke up with her mid February and honestly... I now find her incredibly annoying. I haven't really said anything because she'd probably take it to heart and be even more self-conscious than she already is, but she's very clingy among other things.

depends on the guy, you have to know how he feels about you and what kind of guy he is. If he's just a person that trys to get laid alot then he probably wont mean it rather than a guy that you've been with for a long time and that respects you and enjoys being with you.

well something to add, alot of people don't really know the meaning of 'love' and it's really a difficult concept to understand. I didn't really know what it meant until i signed up for this forum and read a bunch of posts about it.

yeah my bf started saying "i love you" really early on too. Every time he talked to me he would say that. It just got really annoying and i dumped him after a month or so.