Ive been really good friends with a girl for a year or so, but about a month or so ago we seemed to have more when we went on a trip with a bunch of friends, so we started going out. I love this girl more than anything but we still were like best friends. We would be together all the time, shed be on me all the time, which i loved becuase it made me feel like i ment something and she was just the bright side of my day. But yesterday she said that we werent the boyfriend girlfriend type, were more "best friends" which we are now but i also think she feels this way becuase im a total clutz and dork when it comes to picking up signs from girls. Im a big guy, not the type people think of very sensitive but im probably one of the most sensitive caring guys a girl could meet, and now i just feel like im missing something, like somethings not there anymore. Im not sure what to do to get rid of it, since there are no other girls i feel this way about.
I know how you feel. I have been through it as well. I am mis-judged as well. It is hard, and the best thing to do is to just continue on. I could not tell you how many times I have heard a girl tell me we would not be bf/gf material...plus sometimes I catch that I do not want to hurt anyone stuff, but in doing so they do. I will say it really gets me pissed.Just keep at it, that is what I have been doing all along, not sure why, but I do it. And it keeps me going day to day. In time we shall get ours.
I'm coming from the other angle. My boyfriend frequently fails to pick up on how I'm feeling, and we have had fights because of it, bur in reality it's because I expect him to treat me in an unrealistic way. I've come to realise that my love for him does not depend on him performing to these silly expectations. But we still had a fight last night, because I was sad, and after 10 minutes of talking and cuddling he thought I was fine and started talking about politics or something, but I still wanted him to just sit there holding me and thinking about how wonderful I am.Men and women are very different animals ... it could be that in a couple of days, the girl will realise how much she misses you. I hope she does. When she comes back to you, have a good long talk to find out exactly what it is she wants you to do. Then you should explain why it is that it doesn't come naturally to you, and figure out another way that you can communicate your feelings to each other.If you haven't been in touch with her, maybe you should call her now, or at least send an SMS or email or something... and just let her know you miss her and love her...