I'm new to this but this website really helps me....anyway me and my boyfriend have been together for about 5 months, and we fool around with each other all the time but lately we've been goin a little too far. The other night he got naked and I got *half naked (well just in my thongs) and we started dry humping and we got kinda out of hand and i could feel it tryin to go in....it started to hurt a little but i still had my thongs on so i think im a virgin. I know u might think this is a crazy question but it would really help me bc after i told him to quit i started feeling a little bad...i want to make sure he's the right person for me and it didn't feel right so i made him stop. I'm only 16 but i think im more mature than he is and he's 20.
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Am I still a Virgin?? ( I think I am)
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#1. His penis didn't penetrate you.. so you are a virgin.#2. Be careful. You are a minor and he is an adult. He can get into big trouble. It's called Statutory Rape.
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Well, the trouble with thongs is that they can be moved aside pretty easily. He may have moved it to the side and tried to enter you. If you couldn't feel it or you're not sure if he really went in then you should ask him if he did. The pain could be because he got in or because he was trying but couldn't get it right.Virginity is different for a lot of people, but by my definition you didn't really have sex. He may have entered you, he may not, but thats not sex. Its like sticking a needle of heroine in your arm but not actually injecting. So by my standards and considering the situation as well as the physical acts involved, I'd say you are still a virgin.
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Ok that makes me feel alot better! Thanks for the help
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No problem. Just in the future, don't feel bad if you tell your boyfriend to stop doing something that you don't want. He should be the one apologising to you.
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yea, he said we wasn't actually gonna have sex bc he would've stopped it from happening but he seemed a little upset when i said to stop...I'm not sure if it could be bc he's tryin to make me feel guilty so that I will do it with him....but I know we should stop going that far atleast for now bc it didn't feel right.
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Yeah, I've said that I'd stop before it got that far too. But when it gets to that point in can be hard to fight the urge to go further. I usually stop but sometimes I can't help myself (aka, I get greedy). But I apologise after it because its a form of disrespect to go against the wishes of someone letting you get so close to them.So do not let him make you feel guilty, you are well within your rights to say no and it isn't hurting him in any way and does not mean you don't love him or any of that crap which he might come out with. He will ready to do it any time so there is no need to rush, and if he can't wait for you to be ready then he isn't worth it.
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He may be trying to manipulate you into having sex, by being upset with you when you didn't let him go in. Because he was trying to enter you even though you said, he said, he wasn't going to have sex with you. He did to try or he wouldn't have try to penetrate you. He will try again. He is alot older than you and if you aren't sure you want to loose your virginity to him, you are just going to either resist the urges to make out almost naked, because the door is open and he will take it. Or you are going to have to break up with him if you don't want it to go any farther. You don't want to hate him or yourself after it does happen, because it probably will if you continue with the situations you are putting yourself in.I was there once, I was 16 years old, he was much older and I didn't want to loose my virginity, but it did happen and now I hate him and regrete and resent him oh so much!!!So just becareful sweetie. hugs
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Well, him being upset could have been his own guilt. Whenever I push towards doing something sexual and my gf says no, I feel kinda guilty for wanting to do it and sometimes kinda ignoring her a bit when she says no. I always feel really bad about it even tho I've never gone through with doing something she didn't want, but its a scary moment when your body/mind can override you judgement and I feel very guilty about it, it sickens me to know I'm capable of ignoring moral judgement. It happens to a lot of guys and that might be the cause for his reaction afterwards.
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Thanks for the advice, I'm glad u told me about your experience bc that relates to my problem. I'm trying to be very careful with my decision's with him bc sometimes i feel like all he wants is to get some...ppl have warned me about how he is but he'll deny anything that is said about him. I'm not sure if I believe everything that is said about him bc some of it was said by my ex who knows him and he could be trying to get me back...I'm just not ready to have sex yet, I don't even know if he is the right person.
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I would strongly urge you, if you don't want to have sex with the guy, don't take any of your clothes off when you're with him.