Well i fingered my girlfriend a couple of days ago, but the rest of the days i could tell she was uncomfortable with it. The time she did let me do it, she wanted the blanket over us. Is there anything i could say or do to make her feel more comfortable with me and herself?
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What to say or do to make a girl feel comfortable?
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She is shy, you need to just give her some time to feel more comfortable with it, most likely.Are you the first guy who has done that to her?
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yes
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that is why then.
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how much time do you think she will need, i mean how much time did you need? i know girls are different, but yeah i'd like to hear some female answers. Also, what can i say to make her feel comfortable?
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my boyfriend and i started doing stuff like that a few weeks ago, and i still make him keep the covers on. she might just not be comfortable with her body around other people yet. make sure you let her know that you love her and that you dont mind that shes still shy about it..she'll get comfortable eventually.
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It will most likely take her a while to feel comfortable with you. I know with the first guy I ever let finger me it took me around a month to really start feeling comfortable around him.
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My current girlfriend had breast cancer. She has quite a few scars on her chest from it. She told me about it before I ever saw her chest. I responded by telling her that she doesn't need to be self conscious with me and staring into her eyes and kissing her. The first night we were getting to "it", she became a little hesitant when I was about to take her shirt off. At that point, I said "come here". I grabbed her hands and helped her off the bed. I stood her up in front of me and took off her shirt. The first thing she did was grab her chest with her hands to cover it up. I leaned in, hugged her, grabbed her hands and slowly pulled them away. I took a step back to look at her for a second, and then I brought her in close to me and looked into her eyes and said, "without a doubt you are beautiful". Then I embraced her, kissed her forehead, and we just stood there for a minute or two just hugging each other.If you let her know that you accept her for who she is with both words and actions, she will come around a lot quicker.
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She's a lucky woman.
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I had a similar experience with my girlfriend's "inverted" nipples. I was the first person outside of her family to have seen them, and she wasn't a virgin. She let me know before we got physical that there was something different about her body, but I didn't know what. When I first saw them I let her know they were as beautiful as the rest of her and now over time I'd say she'd have the confidence to flash them if she wanted to!
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what am i supposed to say about her vagina though? your vagina is so beautiful?? help please.I need help on what to say to her.. edit: and to make things a little more complicated, she doesn't really like to be complimented. i call her beautiful and sweet all the time and she says " no, im not "help a man solve this puzzle?
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just because she replys with "no im not" doesnt mean she doesnt like to be complimented. sure you might not want to do it too much if she always argues with you about it..but its nice to know that someone thinks youre beautiful so make sure to let her know. and no, dont call her vagina beautiful. well..you could if you wanted to...but it kinda sounds weird. you just have to talk to her..i cant really tell you what to say cause im not her, i dont know what makes her happy. just talk to her soflty, that always make me feel comfortable.
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You don't have to address her vagina specifically. Do you think it's just her vagina that beautiful? Probably not. When you compliment her, change it up. Say things like, "I love your body" or "I think you're so beautiful". Let it sound like an opinion instead of a fact so it will be harder for her to argue with it. If she turns you down with a "no, I'm not" or "I don't think so", just reply with an "uh huh" and then kiss her for at least 30 seconds so she can't retort and may even forget about it by the time you're done kissing. Simple things like saying, "I want you" will make her feel good about herself. Girls with low self-esteem can take a long time to come around, so accept that the process will take a while and be patient.
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thanks man, thanks for everyones help. Maybe some other people could post for viewers with the same problem as me. I'll update what happens tomorrow.
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The first time i was actually fingered, i wasn't under covers but i still had my pants on. I'm not a virgin, and when i did have sex i was kind of self conscious about him fingering me cuz i was like half naked. well i wore a skirt a lot of the times,.but he'd tell me he understood i might not be comfortable with what i look like or something, and he reminded me that he likes me how i am. and isn't judging me by my vagina.