Hey people, i had issues with sex like 6 months ago, with condoms and lack of hardness etc. i'm pretty much over them, put it down to them being too tight, now im fine with my regular girlfriend at sex, but we brke up a week ago, and now im trying to cop off with some other girl, but we were both naked, didnt feel nervous much, but it just wasn't going up... what could this be?? surely just lack of confidence or stress? when i say wasnt going up, i mean not even semi-semi-semi hard! embarrassing as hell!any idea's?maybe i'll lay off the masturbation a bit eh?
Has happened to me, havnt tried to have sex since cos I came to the conclusion I was just too stressed out with life and that was the cause (my parents were/are in the process of splitting up and divorcing). I think for me it caused a cycle of problems cos worrying if it would happen again caused me to be stressed even more made it worse. it remains to be seen what happens next I have a girl...I am in a much better state nowadays, so i reckon if I am in a healthy relationship I'll be fine. I suggest you seek to deal with any stress in your life and explain to your girl you want to take it slow.How about you say to your girl ya wanna have a play around, but agree beforehand that you arent going to use your cock in any penetratial capacity. That will take that particular worry off your mind...and thus could well result in your dick getting hard precisely cos your not thinking about it. I tried this and it worked for me, i justg decided I wasnt gunna use my cock, and vualla! it was burting outa ma trousers. Do that a few times before going to have sex again. I hope that works.Hope that helps man, and I hope ya feel relieved to know your not the only oen with such experiences
So..anyone got any idea's ? i didnt plan to do anything with her really, it just happened. hmm im sure i'll be over it! positive mental attitude