Parental Issues

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Me and my girlfriend have recently had sex. Now her mom has found out and wants to inform my parents. I dont know what to do because I'm not sure how my parents will handle it please help.

Well not much, except be a man and say yes you did. If you are being safe then she should eventually get it.

yes we were safe i think her mom found a condom wrapper so she cant say anything about it

How old are you?The best way for you to handle it is in a mature way. Don't become too emotional, even if they do. Screaming and shouting never helps in situations like this. What has been done has been done, you can't change that now, and as long as you used protection and were both of sound mind (no alcohol or drugs) then you have your basic argument there. The biggest thing they will object to is your age, and it is an issue sometimes. If you are very young then they are well within their rights to be a bit pissed off. But as I said, stay calm and be mature about the situation, even if you feel your parents aren't doing the same.

im 15 shes 14

yeah just stay cool and calmly talk. That is the key.

That is quite young, but I would expect a much stronger and angrier reaction from her parents than from yours. You will probably get off easier than she will, but take whatever punishment they give you as long as its within reason. If they say that you cannot see each other anymore, well that can be overcome, but don't scream at them saying that they can't stop you cause you're in love and you're meant to be together. Not only will they completely ignore you, its a very old cliché.

okay what do i do if they really start freaking out

also my mom and her dad had sex freshman year (which was very weird to find out but anyways) my mom cant say much. also do you think it would be better if i tell them

I don't even wanna know how you found that out, but things like that are never a good argument. They will always reply with how times were different when they were young or that they want you to have a better life than them and not make the same mistakes. If needed, you can say it as a last resort.In regards to telling your parents, I'm not sure about. I really don't know about that bit, personally I would tell them if somebody else was gonna do it but thats just based on how I know what my parents' reactions would be.

i think if i told my parents before someone else does it would be more mature yea we found out by looking in an old year book it was quite scary

It is the more mature thing to do, but you would have to think about how you would tell them. Don't lie or exaggerate, just tell the truth.

yea well i need help on what to say

That's a pretty young age. I'd get my but either kicked out the house or just... kicked. Either way my life would be hell and it wouldn't be pretty lol. But I think you should just tell your parents that you knew what you were doing, you were safe, and you're responsible and they shouldn't jump on you for your own actions... I guess lol

yea my parents arnt the type to do that and my mom had sex about the same age

I found out my mom was like a little playboy showgirl when I looked in her yearbook from the way she dressed lol nasty girl but if I ever pointed that out to her she might have my head.Tell us how it goes with your parents. It might be awkward at first but try your best.

Remember the golden rule of politics "Always tell people openly and frankly what they are going to find out anyway".It's a scary situation, but remember that the person who keeps his temper and keeps calm is the one with the most dignity.

yea I'm not the one to start screaming and i dont think my paretns will eather atleast i hope not i dont know im just scared.

Well your parents sound like they give you a lot of repect so I wouldn't expect an over-the-top reaction from them. As to how you can bring it up, thats really up to you. Find a moment when its just you and them. Don't keep waiting for the perfect moment because you don't really want to tell them, so the perfect moment will never come.

very true so i guess ill just have to tell them. Its bound to happen sometime in my life why not now.