Is cyber cheating?

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I am a married guy who has almost no sex :frowning: I used to cyber and was quite good at it - just acted as if it was reallife through the keyboard. Well I felt guilty and stopped but for the last few months I have been so horney - should I start cybering again, or is it adultery?

I feel it is cheating, even if not technically adultery. If your wife would think it is cheating, then I think you shouldn't do it if you want to keep your marriage.

I THINK YOU SOULD TALK TO HER ABOUT YOU SEXUAL LIFE NOT BEING FULFILLED

JammyBoys right, its only the tip of the iceburg.

I dont think its adultry and maybe not even cheating but look at the emotion affects that could occur from your actions. I think its really wrong, and If someone I was with did that I would be very upset. I would become insecure and feel that i'm to inferior to suit their needs and that i'm worthless. I mean what does some cyber hussie have that your partner does not? Just because you aren't getting any doesn't give u an excuse to do this, maybe it just means when you do to it its that much greater.

Cyering isnt cheating. It's all I ever do! Its not actual sex and most of the time people lie to eachother! Don't think about too much, its not that big a deal. However, your wife may not like the idea.

i've had friends who were in a "netship" with someone and they cybered with someone else thus "cheating" to them....if that makes any sense.

Yes, it's cheating. It's even worse than actually fucking someone sometimes....you're sharing emotion and intimacy as opposed to just sex. How would you feel if your wife was having cyber sex? Truthfully.On the other hand, I don't blame you. No sex SUCKS.Get counseling to address this problem. Try to get your wife to go or go alone. You might find out she doesn't like your style, or that she has issues and just plain doesn't like sex.Then you have a decision to make. I can tell you that I am leaving my husband soon. Very very tired of NO SEX. And in case you are wondering, I am considered at least an "8" or more in the looks department, and have a nice figure. Before marriage I had several long term relationships with GREAT SEX. My husband was fine until we got married. Go figure

Man, that sucks. They say that sex life really decreases after marraige.. Sounds pretty stupid to me. If I were living with a wife, I'd bang her all the time.First up, talk to her about having some more sex, because you're obviously not getting it. If you don't want her sex for some reason, then you two have a marital problem.

ha! post back after you buy a house, have kids, have shitty jobs, run your credit into the ground, get out of shape, etc etc etc!hey, it doesn't happen in every marriage, but things do change and it is work to be married!

I will have to agree with 2 of maggie's points. First is that you can develop strong emotional relationships with long term cyber partners. I nearly fell in love with one or two of mine over the course of months.
The other, is in response to the house, kids, bills thing. Yes, married couples are tired and pressed for time. Unless you make time for sex, there often isn't any. Unfortunately, my wife is not interested in making the time. We had the discussion today, and it again boiled down to her stating that, the few times she is actually horney, it takes just minutes to masturbate but too long to have sex with me.

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You probably realise it already, but this marriage is not in good shape. People can have happy marriages without sex - old people do it -; but I don't think you can have a happy marriage when the partners won't go to trouble for each other, when they won't put themselves out for the other's happiness. We don't know you and your wife well enough to start laying blame or anything like that, but it's very clear things are not well with your marriage.

To reply to the question, is cyber-sex cheating? Hmmm, yes. This is why. You aren't just having lustful thoughts about another woman or man, you are engaging in a uber-sexual situation where you stimulate yourself and tell your cyber partner how you would like to touch them... why is this cheating? because it shows intent. just puting a medium in between you and your partner isn't good enough for anyone I know. They would have their feelings hurt. Why aren't you doing the things you are saying you'd LIKE to do to this stranger, to your significant other? And if you say it's because he/she doesn't want to then it's time to evaluate the relationship and either repair damage or move on.

"But it's not adultery" that wasn't the question. Adultery is having sex with another person while in the union of marriage to another. It requires an act. Cheating is a betrayal of trust, it's cheating someone out of the full experiance that is YOU. Some of you may not agree with my opinion, but hey, there it is...

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well lets face it man you feal bad because your reaching sexual climax with someone other then your wife.some people might not regard this as cheating but you obviously do if you feel guilty.i think that you need to explain to your wife that having a sex life is an important part of marriage and that if its just to much 'hassle'for her then your goin to have to look other places

We had the "birth control discussion" again the other day. We have 2 little ones and she does not want any more. But she said she does not want to go on the pill because "why take that thing every day for something we might only do once or twice a month?" (P.S. I WISH it was twice a month )Guess I will have to wear a condom when that next special time rolls around, however far off that may be. The last time I bought a box of condoms (reguar sized small box, not value pack or anything) they lasted the better part of a year. And that includes sometimes having more than one ejaculation.

That must be tough on you! Are you still in love with your spouse?

Here's my view skinnerguy:
Anything that you do/say that you would not do/say with your partner sitting right there, is cheating, in my mind. Relationships should be about honesty. The fact that you are even asking this question tells me that in your heart, you know it's cheating. Partners should sit down and discuss what their ideas of cheating are, to clear up confusion.
As far as your sex life, you really should examine the reasons WHY your wife isn't doing it much any more. Maybe she's tired, or is feeling a lot of stress. Little things like helping out around the house or with the kids can make a world of difference to a female. I would sit down and have a heart to heart with her and explain the way you are feeling. You never know, good things can and probably will come out of that. Then you won't feel the need to have empty, false 'sex' with a computer screen. I would also remember that you never know who you are doing it with...it may be some 500 lb shemale with warts or something (no offense intended to anyone OK). I wish you the best of luck.

I say if you're partner is not ok with it, then it's cheating. If they don't mind, then go ahead. I'd have no problem with my guy cybering as long as it wasn't with someone he knew in "real life" and for me it actually make me more excited about being with him.

cybering is bad. what would jesus do

What would Jesus do? He would probably make Mrs. Jesus horney so she would have sex with him, had Jesus choosen to get married. I am NOT Jesus and I need the occasional sexual release. I am not getting it from my wife and I do not want to commit flesh-and-blood adultery because I do happen to respect the teachings of Jesus. That is why I have considered cyber as an option.