Threesome?

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Before I got with my current girlfriend, I had never really considered a threesome. I have been with her for over two years now and I've honestly begun to consider one. Originally she was interested in having one however, I was completely uninterested.However, with her being my first girlfriend I can honestly admit after two years, I'm interested in seeing what its like to have another woman. I do not want to cheat on my girlfriend however, I am very interested in finding another woman. To be honest, the idea of my girlfriend enjoying herself with another woman is also enjoyable. My girlfriend is actually open and interested in having sex with another woman. The problem I have.. and I do know that part of this stems from societies views.. Is I am worried about it being detrimental to our relationship. We haven't discussed it extensively but, we have both fantasized about the idea. My girlfriend wants it to be someone completely random, in case jealous arises that way it won't be one of her friends. I would prefer to have a "regular" even if we don't have a friend that we use now at least a girl that we have sex with on a regular basis and can trust. I would prefer to have a relationship with her as well. I don't mean having a second girlfriend or anything by any means. I suppose I am a bit confused on this but, I don't want to think of the new girl as a "girlfriend" but, I would like for her and us to have a good solid and trusting relationship. I read that its not a good idea for the third person to stick around and crash in bed with you and your girlfriend.. but, I would honestly like for that to happen.I don't know.. maybe I just have the wrong idea about what a threesome should be.. but, I don't want to mess up my relationship with my girlfriend and I'm afraid it will. Yes my girlfriend and I do have our share of problems.. but, they get better and worse over time..My girlfriend does get a bit controlling sometimes, or paranoid which makes the wanting a threesome kinda ironic. So to say I'm a bit confused as to what I want seems pretty honest.I suppose I could boil it down to this. Is it weird to want to have a threesome and to have a relationship with the "other girl" that is sexual/nonplatonic but, not nessicerily romantic and still have a meaningful relationship as friends?Edit And I suppose the real question I am posing is ultimately do the views of our american culture cause us to look at threesomes in a more damaging mannar than they really are?

It's too common a fantasy to call it weird. However, I have heard from several people who have tried it and found that feelings of jealousy, which they never expected, did in fact arise and poisoned the relationship to some degree or other. There are other people who have done it without such feelings, but it seems a risky thing to do.

To be honest, I was originally in no way interested.. I don't know at what point I became interested either.However, I spoke with her today about it because, I had never contemplated how frowned upon it can be. (I'm so use to places online where people are honest, looking around the rest of the web was a bit weird.)For something that is as common of a fantasy as it is... I was amazed at the negativity. I felt the need to discuss that with her.. and it was really dissappointing to hear her say that she didn't even want to discuss it. I don't mind idle fantasies however, I felt a bit isolated. I do understand her points, she admits she would be jealous and admits that she lacks self confidence to handle it. I am glad she is honest and not leading me on about the issue, I don't want to ruin the relationship.On the other hand it's a bit isolating and worrysome that she obviously fantasizes about it, I have come to fantasize about it.. and outside of random fantasy she has little to no interest.What bothers me the most about it is I can not gauge to what level she is "really interested" or really willing to work towards it. I suppose it simply boils down to me being afraid of possible worse reprocussions. My girlfriend hates making decisions about anything and prefers to "jump in head first" which wouldn't bother me as much but, this case it seems much more unstable..I don't know that that is what she is thinking.. but, I suppose I feel its a bit fair to admit to fantasizing about it one minute give some hope it might happen the same minute.. and then the next when I try to be serious about it completely refrain from saying anything.

If she says she doesn't even want to discuss it, then I think you should assume it's not going to happen.

I am going to have to have a discussion with her. I agree with you, I should by no means assume it is going to happen. However, I am also going to explain that I don't want her to say one thing while she is "in the mood" and another when she is not. I do understand what when in the mood, things change as to what is or is not appealing and it is easier to consider something when already aroused. However, if we do decide to have a threesome (ever) then I would definitely prefer it to be something we discuss in advance because, jumping in head first would be very risky. Sex with anyone creates a huge number of problems as we all know.. so Jumping in head first with a random person seems like the worst idea..I suppose the major issue is also that, I don't want her telling me one thing.. and not meaning it.

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My wife and I really love each other and both enjoy watching each other swing. I am rather over sexed and have a very large cock so my wife some time ago suggested that I perform in porn films and I have been so doing for some time now. My wife regularly comes to watch and also take part.