...i found it so hard..but i finally cried today. me and my bf were in a fight, until i broke down and he just held me for like 20 minutes..i just couldnt stop....i just want to know if i should be feeling better now??? i mean, my eyes hurt like hell, my stomach hurts, and i still feel all sad. whats wrong with me???? (read - why am i doing this to myself if you want to know whats wrong..)). before replying to this one please..thank you....
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I finally cried today..
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Luv it's been more than six years for me now, and I still cry almost EVERY day. It may not feel like it now, but really, trust me, it's a GOOD THING that you've started crying!
Most days it's just silly tears that I can blink away (and usually have to as I'm company, they're usually triggered by some trivial thing, some song on the radio etc) Other days it's a full on flood that I'm very thankful to be alone for. The point is, you probably wont stop being upset for a long time, and that's ok too.
I'll be thinking of you honey; and dont forget 'Embraced by the light' by Betty J Eadie, I really meant what I said what I told you that book did something extraordinary for me, something I couldnt have imagined before I read it.
Maybe it wont have the same effect for you (though I'm sure it will, if you give it a try), but in the middle of all that hurt, surely it's worth a look? It cant hurt anyway, can it? All my love and best wishes, xxx.
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Oh, wow...I'm happy for you, as weird as that sounds...it's an important step and I'm glad you've taken it. Don't be surprised if you find yourself doing it more often for the next couple of weeks--usually at the weirdest of moments and for seemingly no reason. Believe me....it's the best thing for you, so just let it out to run its course--you will feel better for it. I know it seems like you will never get over it--and you will not forget, so don't worry about that--but you will reach a point where you understand that the loss was inevitable and you'll be able to go on....because that's your job: to live the life you've been given, just as your pops lived his.
Best, as always!
Proud of you!!!
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Yeah, I agree with binther that sometimes you'll cry for what seem ike weird reasons.. like a tv commercial or something stupid mught make me have to leave the room. It's weird but like you can sometimes feel guilty for not crying then soemtimes feel ridiculous for crying. The thing is, the tears come soemtimes and sometimes they dont and I dont know about anyone else but I feell like I have very little say as to when it'll happen.Another thing is that odd stuff reminds us of the people we love. I can look at pictures of my parents (who both passed away) and not cry but sometimes something completely ridiculous and sort of unrelated can make me get emotional.In any case, you're dealing with your emotions as they are happening, instead of trying to control them. Anyway, that's something my therapist and I agreed on-- accept whatever feelings you have and deal with them, rather than try to force yourself to feel a certain way or ignore what you do feel.You'll be okay. And Im glad you got some of it out.
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o god i didnt mean to upset you hunn....thank you for your advice
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i hope it IS a good thing that i started crying..i forgot bout that book..but im gonna see if i can pick it up soon, as long as it isnt too expensive. thank you
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thank you hunn. i really appreciate your words...XOx
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yeah im gonna expect a lot of crying for now on...weird things really remind me of my nan and pop.like certain shows i cant watch anymore, (just for laughs gags), certain foods i find hard to eat (cantoloupe O_o)...its just this weird feeling comes over me sometimes like they are close by.. thanks
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Wouldn't surprise me a bit. Remember that book I mentioned, too Best!
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o right.... did you pm that to me?? i cant remember what its called... if you remember can you let me know???? XOx
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It's called "Many Lives, Many Masters" by Brian L. Weisse, PhD. Well worth a read.
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kk thanx hunn i will remember to look for it XOx