this is the last of my annoying angsty threads for the while, i promisebut ive been arguing with my mom a lotits really bad, shes taken my allowance from 15 a week to 5 a week. she wants me to do more chores, and i dont do enough, fair enough, but she totally sprung it on me. without warning. i mean, today i just asked for a little money to get some stuff for my acne and she said no and demanded i do a bunch of chores first. i mean this acne stuff is like 2 pounds, hardly worth breaking my back over. i may sound really bratty and i know being a mom is hard and she just wants whats best for me and all that jazz but it isnt so onesided, i mean, shes really unreasonable lately. shes having a bunch of pointless work done on the house ( we have a fucking dolphin themed bathroom with a glass seat now for fucks sake, our old bathroom is fine ) and she buys loads of tacky needless shit like a change sorting machine and a new toaster and kettle, stuff we dont even need, yet she wont give me like a few pounds to get some acne medication or anything. and im pissed at her because she decided to have my dads ashes scattered without even asking me what i thought...i wanted him to have a grave...i mean scattering his ashes? what the fuck? so my dead burnt up dad is sitting comfortably in billions of particles along with peoples spit and raw sewage? oh thats lovely. she didnt ask me what i wanted at all, and im his son and i thought my opinion mattered too but apparently it doesnt. fuck. im so angry at her, if i say anything in a slightly aggressive tone she switches off and just walks away. i cant get a job so i have no means of getting money. this is so shit. advice, please?-maxPS- im not playing victim here, i can be unreasonable too i admit
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It's rough having a severe drop in income, and a sensible boss will do all he can to avoid it, or at any rate give as much warning as possible. However people are fallible. Your mother is certainly fallible. My mother-in-law used to buy a lot of useless junk too, and I have to watch what the wife buys. :smile: The bathroom is a matter of taste; your father's ashes however brings up an important issue - she probably didn't think of asking your opinion and most parents probably wouldn't, and it's clear that can lead to problems and these things should be discussed more.
(You could make a memorial to your father anyway.)
To get control of your income, a part-time job would be a very good idea. You'll discover that two pounds does represent a certain amount of labour. What's the reason you can't get one?
well, i made her breakfast in bed and we're doing okay. sorry about the needless thread, im just frustrated because she used to give me plenty of money and now i get very little even after lots of chores if i do them. im not saying i work my fingers to the bone or anything just so we're clear but if i worked all week id get like 10 poundsand im not allowed to get a job.