This may be too complicated to explain so let me start from the beginning. When I was about 10 or 11 years old, my dentist noticed that I had a fairly large overbite in my jaw. My upper teeth were coming forward too much and the gap was 5mm (that's larger than it looks). He suggested I get some orthodontic treatment to correct my bite since my jaw noticably came forward. Later, when I was in 7th grade, I went to an orthodontist to correct my bite. The Orthodontist put braces on me and gave me a headgear to wear. The head gear was basically a thin strap that went around the back of my neck connecting to a curved metal band with small hooks that hooked onto the braces on the uper teeth inside my mouth. This was to push my upper teeth back. I was to wear this 14 hours a day. (in the evenings and while I slept.) However, I didn't wear the thing at all. It just pissed me off so much to keep the damn thing in my mouth so long and I never slept while wearing it. 14 hours is a VERY long time to keep something on and I just didn't have the will power or I couldn't be bothered to do it. I honestly did not see the direct benefit of it to me: When I looked in the mirror to see my overbite, I noticed it, but I didn't think it was a big deal at all, I thought I looked fine. Anyway, since I never wore the head gear, every trip me and my dad made to the orthodontist was HELL. Every month when we went, he gave me a talk about putting on the headgear and every time I never did it. Eventually, he gave me elastics to wear inside my mouth 24/7 which I also did not wear. After about maybe 1 and 1/2 to 2 years, (a couple of months ago) I decided that enough was enough. I talked with my dad and he agreed that if I was never going to end up going through with the treatment we may as well stop it. I also agreed to this since going to the orthodontist every month was putting me through hell. I'm almost 16 now btw. Now, about a month after the treatment was stopped and my braces were removed, I was talking with my mom. I noticed my overbite when I smiled in the mirror. I asked her how bad it looked as I noticed it (and I alwyays really have, I just kept it in the back of my mind). She said it was not necessarily ugly, but noticable (and it is) and that I should never have stopped it. She said it's a shame that I should have an overbite like this when I have other good-looking features on my face. Eventually, this lead to a discussion with my dad, my mom and I over this. Essentially, what my dad said was that the headgear has been removed and this was agreed a month ago since there was no way I was going to go through with the treatment. He said I knew exactly what was going on (and I did) and that I agreed to stop the treatment with full knowledge of my overbite. A little while later I was just thinking of the whole situation when a thought came into my head. I realized then, the full extent of the damage my naive idiocy has caused. I realized that this problem can NO LONGER be solved. I have removed the braces, removed the headgear and the elastics, and told the orthodontist I will not go through with the treatment. I am stuck with this. stuck with it forever. Now when I look into the mirror, I see it. I see that horrible upper jaw jutting forward ever so slightly but surely, as if mocking me and my lack of discipline. I see it and it's stuck on my face now, like a wine stain on a snow-white wedding dress or a scratch on a brand new ferrari. The bloody thing is driving me mad. And of course, I have no one to blame but myself. You know how they say "You never really know what you've got till it's gone."? That is how I feel now; I no longer have a chance to fix it. Before, while I still had the headgear and braces and my doctor's ressurrance that it "can still be fixed", I comforted myself in knowing that at some point, nevermind when, I could correct this bite and so I did not worry about it. Now however, I sit here with this horrible empty feeling. I have nothing now. I am no longer going to the orthodontist every month with that I'll-fix-it-this-time attitude. I am simply stuck here, as empty as that finished and now dry can of coke sitting on the side of the road waiting to be run over by an 18-wheeler...This truly is a lesson learned. Only now, at the end, do i realize the error of my ways. I was too damn naive and lazy to do anyfuckingthing about it. Not that it really matters - my revelation is absolutely useless without the proper tools to act on it. It's ironic actually: right now I look into the mirror braceless and headgearless and can see the protrusion of my jaw, something I never could see when I had the chance to fix it. But alas, this can never be fixed....Unless - well no - but maybe...if I could just have ONE more chance at this, one more oppurtunity to fix this, I could rid myself of this horrible feeling. I am, in fact, thinking now, that I should go to my dad and ask him to get the headgear and treatment started up again. I really don't know if I can do this however. We both agreed to stop this a month ago but I just can't let this kill me. Hell, I'm not even sure if I'm actually going to do anything with the headgear this time! After 2 years, there is no reason for anyone to believe I should take action now. And what will the orthodontist think? Wow, I can't believe I'm even contemplating this without even knowing if I would go through with it. And I know what my dad is going to say, "I've talked to you about this every time we went there and on numerous other occasions, and you never did anything about it. Now you're upset? Well tough. You've had your hundreds of chances to do this and you want to try again? Now you just have to deal with the consequences." So as you can or may see, I am in a bit of a pickle, so to speak, and I really don't know what to do. It seems extremely fooldhardy and even more awkward to go back into the orthodontists office and tell him I want to start this again. I really don't know what to do. Help me, this is killng me. Thank you for reading all this about my silly little problem. It's people like you who I really respect.oh, and sorry for the metaphors and things. I just got carried away, with the length as well it seems...
well, 1stly, im sure its not as bad as u think. this happens when ppl start focusing and obsessing on a certain feature of themselves and cant get past it. to u it may b horrible but to every1else it wont b that noticeable or a big deal.ive had braces and its not cheap, dont fuck aourd with this. if ur REALLY sure and certain u wanna change it and will try and WILL wear ur headgear everyday, THEN talk 2 ur dad and explain that this time ur motiveted enough to do it and u see that u made a mistake b4.
I agree with CuteNCrazy. Most of these issues are very noticeable to the person with them, but hardly noticed at all by others, and what is noticed is just considered part of your individual look, which is probably much better than you think.But if you do want to go ahead now, don't worry at all about what the orthodontist will think. He'll be thinking of his fee.