Okay, so recently I've gone quite depressed. I know you think "stupid reasons", but.. The girls in my school act really bad to me, like everything I say, they tell me Im a moron etc. I have no friends, my family (mom, dad and brother) dont talk to me. They dont listen to me, when i have something to say, because they think its not important. The other reason is my looks and health (allergies, bacterial vaginosis,hyperhidrosis) . I am NOT good looking, people have told me that. Still they take pictures of me, but they know it p***** me off and makes me even sadder. I absolutely HATE teenage girls!! They are so mean, they like to hurt people, but later they act like 'angels'. And they get angry at everything, but they only bring out others mistakes Oh and I absolutely hate one thing too. I cant hear my voice very well so I speak quite loud. People have insulted me saying: shut up, you moron. you want the whole world to know about it? I have never insulted a person before. I always give help and try to understand people, I loan them money, help in homework, every time i buy a chocolate or drink i give them the whole so i get nothing from it One last thing- my brother beats me. And calls me a s*ut infront of people, because he thinks its so cool. I need some help
It's not acceptable for your brother to beat you, differentgirl. How old is he, and how old are you?
Some girls can be nasty bitches, especially those who don't feel secure and try to make themselves feel better by being nasty to others. :frowning:
It sounds like you are trying to get niceness by being over-nice. Lending people money when they don't really need it, and need to learn responsibility, isn't good for them. (As a rough rule, give rather than lend: if it isn't appropriate to give, it probably isn't appropriate to lend.)
And giving someone all of your chocolate or drink is unfair on you. St Martin shared his cloak with a beggar - he recognised himself as on an equal footing with the beggar. This being over-nice may be leading people to treat you as a doormat, instead of as an equal as is right.
My brother is 16 and Im almost 15.I know, over niceness is never good. But i tried to be " a lil not too nice" one day, but it all came out like this:this girl asked me for cocacola, i had it so lil left and i said " no sorry i need it myself " a day later i was already known as a "bitch, who never gives anyone anything" and i asked some girl to lend me a pencil, but she said, 'you never give anyone anything, why should i' and i was like '?' Even my 'so-called friends' were totally bugging me for it. It pissed me off so much, I have always gave them everything i bought! So UNFAIR!The weirdest thing is, the teenagers are all alike. They do everything, what they think is popular. First they act like their friends to be popular, when they have it achieved, they start to create their own rules.It is just very stupid, that they always agree on eachother. It is really easy for them to get upset at EVERYTHING, but if you just say it to their faces 'calm down', they are like ' ummm, shut up bitch' and all their friends agree on thembut if i rarely get upset, they laugh at me and the whole class hates me. All i can say - puberty sucks..
They are manipulating you, using the fact that you care what they say. If you can be less affected by what they say, they'll have less power over you.Fortunately the real world is much bigger than these people.Have you told your parents about your brother?
Those arent stupid reasons, they're very valid reasons to be upset; it sounds to me like you're getting it in the neck from all directions and it's time to do something about it. As far as your classmates are concerned, you're going to have to toughen up. I remember when I was thirteen, I was a very quiet shy sort of girl and I was thrown into a situation I really didnt know how to handle when I had to move out of my home and into a hostel for homeless girls.Living in a hostel with ten other girls (all from 13 to 18, I was the youngest) who were riddled with the negative effects of social dysfunction was no joke for me. I was picked on and bullied mercilessly. Eventually I snapped and beat the shit out of one of the girls. I surprised myself at least as much as her, I had no idea I was capable of knocking the shit out of somebody! Please dont misunderstand me, I'm certainly not advocating violence here, just saying that you need to develop the habit of standing up for yourself, and it is a habit, which, like any other habit, has to be repeated continually until it becomes part of your nature, and by the time it does people will have stopped picking on you because you'll no longer be seen as an easy target.As for your brother, you ought to tell both him and your parents how you feel, how his behaviour is hurting you and how you really dont want to deal with emotional abuse at home as you get enough of it in school. I think if you're honest with all of them on this point things will get better at home, because then your parents will know what going on and what to look out for, and because your brother does actually love you, even if he's not showing it very well right now.