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Hey all, im 13 years old and have a BIG questionMe and my friend like to watch porn, then we started to show each other our dicks, then hj's, now bj's. We both dont "feel" gay, and only like dicks. Like, most gay guys want to kiss and like muscle's, but i dont like any of that, just dicks.Im not asking if im gay or not, cause i know you guys cant answer that, but is this normal? and has anyone else experienced this? Thanks

Although I think most guys wouldn't have that experience, there seem to be at least two guys on the board who are of similar age to you who do the same.

that wasnt aimed at me or deek or anything

haha just kidding.

I was thinking of this thread, I confess.

Ahhh..

Experimenting, is the norm. Though, I guess, there is something to experimenting with the same sex. I was MUCH older...so at your age, I don't know what to say.(directed to the OP)

I don't know about normal, as in a regular occurrence within the lives of males as they mature, but it certainly isn't abnormal. In my time on this board this seems to come up rather often and seems generally to be, moreover, a stage of advanced sexual experimentation rather than an indication or manifestation of sexual preference.

Many if not most adolescent males compare and even "play" at sex, that is common. I do wonder however if the more advanced play at younger ages is a result of more widely available pornography, or if it has always been that way and just wasn't reported or studied. My guess would be a combination of both answers.

They was certainly some playing around at 13 going on when I was that age (though not by me). I think people didn't talk about it much. I never heard of blow-jobs, but then at that time blow-jobs were rarer and ranked higher than full sex. Girls didn't give guys blow-jobs as just one easy step higher than a hand-job, and well below full sex, as happens now.

To true. Back there if you found a girl who would put out you would get the goody and may or may not stick around. Whether you really liked her or not, if you found a girl who would get on her knees on a regular basis you hung on to her like... like.... ummm, well like a woman that likes to suck dick. (my vocabulary failed me.) Of course I wasn't like that cough cough but most of the guys I hung out with were.So is your contention that boys, back then, didn't engage in oral sex play like they do now, or that it was at least far more rare? Then again would they ever have admitted to anyone, back then or even now, if they had engaged in more advanced sexual play or exploration with each other.

It's hard to be sure, because I think what happened differed among different groups of guys, and if it happened between two guys no-one would have been told, but I think oral would have been rare. At that age we hardly knew it happened, and gay sex was always assumed to be anal. But on Scout camps that I was at, comparing size and some feeling were the norm (though I was too shy to do anything).

So the question becomes would a male of that generation ever admit to sexual experimentation, such as oral, with another male?Would any of the older guys here care to answer that. Not whether you did, or wanted to, or anything like that, just would you truthfully answer the question if it was posed to you?Cause now I'm curious.For myself, I would have tried oral with another guy had I not been so shy. Would I have ever admitted to it if I did. Not till about five or six years ago.

I don't think any guy in my generation would have admitted to anything outside the norm, no. I wouldn't have.

When i was your age i did pretty much the same thing. It started with me and a friend masturbating in front of each other (Under the covers at first). Then to the point where we could see each others wangs, then it turned into giving each other Handjobs, then it came down to Oral, and then we just kinda got over it and never did it or talked about it again.Im not sure if normal is the word, i mean i consider myself normal and i did it at that age but what does normal really mean anyway, ya know?But that was 5 years ago for me, now im in a relationship with the best girl in the world, and i dont question my sexuality. I guess with some boys it just happens and with others it doesnt idkk.

I read a lot of these threads in general, and I have to ask something sorta the opposite. I never had any inkling to do anything like this. I mean, maybe once or twice I looked at a guy and said "I wonder.." but then some chick would walk by and I forgot about it entirely. I can attest that I was definitely not any lower in sex drive than any other teenager my age, but I have to wonder if my lack of curiosity beyond that of male/female was abnormal? It really doesn't concern me, I just have to wonder.

I think that's normal too. There's a lot of variation between individuals.