When my boyfriend eats me out, I don't feel any pleasure whatsoever. I'd rather masturbate then have him eat me out and that's depressing. I don't mean to be perverted/go into detail, but I masturbate in the shower. I let the running water hit my clit until I climax. I wish my boyfriend was able to make me cum. I don't know if it's because the water hits my clit harder, or my boyfriend sucks at giving head (he's the only one that's ever eaten me out by the way) or both. I always make him cum but he's never made me cum.I love making him cum and I want him to feel the same way towards me. I know we'd be closer if he made me cum. Sometimes I even get angry because he never finishes me off. But anyway, my question is: what should I do? is he doing something wrong? should I stop masturbating?
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My boyfriend never makes me cum, I need advice!
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I'd say stop masterbating and see how that goes. Maybe you just have to relax and let him eat you out until you cum.
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The probblem might be two-fold. First your BF might not be great at giving head. And how should he know unless you tell him what you like and what you don't. Don't be rude, but help guide him towards what feels good to you.Seconly, you might be overly accustomed to the way you masturbate in the shower. Perhaps you should stop the water masturbation teechnique and see how things go. Good Luck.
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I did stop but it only lasted a week. But yes, as of today, I'm going to try my hardest not to masturbate.Thanks
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How should I tell him? I don't want to hurt his feelings and this is really important to me.
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He does know you don't come right? If so I'm sure he will be open for suggestions. If he is under the impression you are, then that's a totally different matter.
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You don't have to tell him he's no good - you can give him suggestions for things to do while he's down there.
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There is no greater turn on than when a woman tells her man what turns her on.
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Good luck with the stopping. i know it's hard, i use to do it everyday (sometimes 2 times a day).
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If you can get off with the water hitting your "joy-spot", it sounds like you're pretty sensitive. Guys early on are usually a little too rough as they only can go by what they already know, and that involves themself as opposed to a woman. It might benefit you if you told him he needs to go more slowly and gentley...he may be being a little too rough with you as you sound very sensitive.
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You need to communicate with him. Like sdp said, don't be rude about it. When he is going down on you and he hits a pleasure spot, you could say things like 'oh, right there', 'that feels so good' etc. Grab his head/hair and and kind of push your kitty in his face. Works every time.
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Grab his head/hair and and kind of push your kitty in his face. Works every time. You so kinky!!
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Isnt she! ha ha, I was just about to comment on that line but you got there before me. I think 'Kitty' is a much nicer term than the ones we use here, which I wont repeat as they're rather vulgar by comparison lol.To the op; I think you should gently explain to him what you've said here, that you feel his making you cum will bring you both closer and that's why it's important to you. That way you will be giving him the message 'I love you' along with saying there's room for improvement, rather than putting all the focus on his lack of technique.Personally I find if a man is too rough he may as well not bother at all cause that just does nothing for me. Make sure your man varies the pressure as well as the movement. Hope it all works out for you!
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