Older men

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Lately i've noticed (and it's been pointed out to me a couple of times) that older men, A.K.A friends dad's tend to sorta.. like me which creeps the fuck outta me.I was round my best friend's the other day when he told me not to be around his dad on my own. Apparently he and his dad were mucking about saying who they would shag if they get the chance and his dad said oh that's an easy one- and just mentioned my name. My bestie noticed that his dad fancied me a while ago from his staring and the way he talks about me, and for a while things were uncomfortable between us because his dad creeped us both out. My other bestie who's a girl told me to be careful around a couple of friend's houses as their dads look at me all pervy-like too, including hers apparently :S.I really wish they hadn't told me because, although I had a vague idea of it before, now i can really notice them doing it and i really hate it- whenever im asked to sleep over at someones, i make up an excuse because im just too uncomfortable with the idea.What irritates me though is that these men have wives, and surely they must realise that staring and such upsets everyone- their partners, their kids and it's irritating and pretty intimidating for me aswell :@. I'm 17 but can look up between 17-21ish, so i can look older than a lot of my friends who are already 18 but their dads are all around the 50 mark.Is this normal? Or do my friends just have exceedingly pervy dads?

If you are stunningly good-looking (which I assume to be the case), any man is going to look at you, married or not, young or not. That doesn't mean they are going to do anything. Most men are capable of keeping their hands off, but not staring is to ask a lot. They usually don't realise that you notice.In their 50s, men feel their biological clock ticking particularly strongly. Their wives tend to be menopausal and sex is rare or absent; their own equipment still works and longs to be used, but it is beginning to falter and it becomes evident that their shagging days are limited and they are not going to get much more. So they start having fantasies.

I agree. If you are hott, men are going to be attracted to you, regardless of their age. Just because they look (and many women enjoy that) doesn't mean that they intend to touch.However, if being in their presence bothers you, you might want to be sure that you are not alone with them. Most men will respect you if you say 'no', but (to be safe) don't allow yourself to be put in a position that if he doesn't understand the meaning of 'no' that it would make you uncomfortable.

Thanks for your replies guys, I can see where you're coming from with their quickly aging bodies, but it's just so embarrasing that their kids- my friends had to point it out to me :S. After my male best friend told me about it, we felt weird around eachother for a long time- I hated how it altered our relationship. Thankyou for your advice though, i'll be wary not to get myself into such a position :).dunnowhattodo x