This is worrying me increasingly

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I'm a male of age 32.I currently have a problem of discomfort and pain in the (probably)right prostate area.(Based on the diagrams posted in the male genitalia forum). The pain/discomfort starts when I masturbate too often(sessions too close together) or when I get too/very horny but don't relieve it by masturbating. It makes me feel as though I'm not giving my sexual organs enough time to rest between sessions.When the symptoms occur, not only do I have the prostate discomfort but placing any pressure on the right testicle produces an extreme sharp pain on the testicle. It takes a while (about a few hours) for everything to ease down. I started to get this problem about 8 months back.I don't have any allergies but I am an epileptic. I had it since age 5. I started masturbating at about 15 and this problem worried me to wonder whether I was overmasturbating-until I found this forum/website. Ever since I started getting the pains(which was when I masturbated a little more often than my usual once), I wanted to know what was wrong. But because of my epileptic problem, I wasn't allowed to go out alone-my mum wanted to drive me or she had to get someone she knew to accompany me. Asking her to see the doctor would only make her suspicious and start asking all sorts of questions. (I'm sure many of you, like me don't want family members to know that we masturbate).So I'm stuck ever since! Have I injured my sexual organs from overwork? Does anyone know what is the problem or can anyone suggest how I can see the doctor without my mum suspecting anything? Help! and Thanks!

You didn't say how long you've been getting these pains. Is it something that just recently started happening? A lot of guys complain about pains in the area you describe after ejaculating (I'm not sure that the prostate has anything to do with it...it may be muscle strain or something else.)

In any case, you don't know anyone but your mother who could take you to the doctor, should you want to go? Can you take a cab?

I did say that I started getting it about 8 months back and have been getting it ever since if I masturbate too often or get too horny. That has made me cut down my masturbation quite a lot.I'm not sure if its the prostate or some other body part either. I'm only giving an approximate location of where the discomfort is coming from. Thats why I want to know what is actually wrong.Its because my mum still treats me like a kid and worries if I get a seizure and suddenly run across the road etc. Thats why she wants to know everything and have someone "look after" me when I'm out.

Sorry about the 8 month thing...you did indeed mention it. In an of itself, I'm not sure that I'd worry about it, but since it's a new thing, it would be worth looking into, and would at least be worth a call to your doctor.I have a friend who's epileptic, and he is living independently. He couldn't drive until his doctor put him on an anti-seizure medication, and adjusted the dose to be effective. (In fact I think he's driving again this week).I hope your mother realizes that epilepsy is not mental retardation or schizophrenia, and that a 32-year-old man deserves to have a life separate from his parents. If you can't get to a doctor without telling your mom all of your personal business, then you do have a problem. If I were in your shoes, I'd just make something up. Your medical business is between you, your doctor, and your insurance company only, and the doctor has no right to disclose anything to your mother.Please don't tell me that your mother comes into the examining room with you.

When you say "make a call to my doctor", are you referring to my epileptic specialist? If not, then which kind of doctor am I supposed to look up for my problem?Well, I do take anti-seizure medication but where I live, the rule is you're allowed to drive only if you haven't had a seizure for at least 3 years or more. My doctor has been adjusting my dosage and infact, my next appointment is in a week or two.I don't think my mum views it as mental retardation. I forgot to mention that both my parents are doctors, so what can you expect when they know too much medical possibilities? Do they intend to be more cautious?I've been cracking my head ever since to come up with some story that I can use so that I can either get my mum to bring me to the doctors, or get her to allow me to see a doctor. But I have a very poor sense of imagination.

Is your epilepsy specialist an internist? I assume he's a neurologist. I assumed you'd have a general practitioner or internist as your regular doctor...they one who'd give you periodic check-ups.You can just tell your parents anything. Whichever doctor you see, he'll be obligated not to disclose anything to your parents. If he does, he's subject to having the crap sued out of him. I'm sure your parents would understand that.In Massachusetts, you have to be seizure-free for six months in order to get your license back. That's where my friend lives. He's doing well, now that they've tuned the dosage of his anti-seizure medication.Are you happy, living so close to your parents, and having them so involved in your life? I didn't mean that they'd literally think about you being mentally retarded, whether or not they're physicians (in fact, my epileptic friend has a masters in engineering from an Ivy League university). I mean, do they think you could live OK, without being under their wing? How do you feel about it?

Yes my specialist is a neurologist.I know a general practitioner whom I go to for my normal illnesses. But in my society, the people believe that the parents should know of anything he/she does. Furthermore, having gone to this GP for several years already, he thinks that I'm a naive "angel" who doesn't do anything bad.Regarding the mentally retarded part-which involves not living under my parents wing, I guess comes from (especially) my mum being so protective of me all these years that I lack the confidence to be alone. It does frustrate and worry me-esp. when I know I will eventually have to be alone one day.Maybe that might be part of the reason why I daren't step out and ask about my problem.

Since your English is so good, I made some assumptions about where you're from that were probably incorrect.> Furthermore, having gone to this GP for several years already, he thinks that I'm a naive "angel" who doesn't do anything bad.First of all, masturbation is not "bad". Secondly, don't assume that your doctor is naive, unless you live in a very conservative religious country. Your doctor almost certainly masturbates.> It does frustrate and worry me-esp. when I know I will eventually have to be alone one day.You're 32 years old now. Are you talking about when your parents pass away? I think now would be a good time to get in the groove of living independently, while your parents are still around, and can help you if a difficult situation arises.

What else am I left to say? I just returned from a month long holiday (and thus the few days of silence due to loss of net access).Before I went on this holiday, I thought I might stop masturbation for a month and see if anything changes. But it doesn't. I think I've made up my mind to tell my mum abt the pains and ask her to bring me to a specialist for checkups. Then I'll see how things go.

OK...good luck.

Told my mum abt the discomfort and pain yesterday who brought the issue up to my dad. Both discussed whether to go for a checkup, but ended up deciding to get a second opinion from my GP first.

After visiting my GP today, and some examinations, he said that it was nothing to worry abt. When I told him that I started masturbating at abt 15, he said that's normal/ok. He mentioned that I might be stressing my muscles involved in masturbation and should take it easy.

I asked him if there's such a thing as over-masturbation and he said of course. One thing he said was that masturbation involes a lot of muscular activity. I was advised to just not get too worked up over it and let it heal by itself whilst I cut down on my masturbation activity.

In the end, he had to indirectly tell my mum what was wrong because she was worrying her wits out and had a sleepless night. So I guess she knows what I'm doing now and I'll just have to let it be.

he had to indirectly tell my mum what was wrong because she was worrying her wits out and had a sleepless night.Now that she knows everything is OK she will rest more easily. It's win-win. I'm glad it's nothing serious.