I have confidence, but when it comes to certain i have none. One recent example, I had a wrestling tournament and i got so nervous and for some reason couldnt get fired up, and my confidence went way down, and i started to just feel week. Im good, i know i am.. but i cant seem to get that confidence i need to win
Concerned about confidence
I don't think that's a lack of confidence. That was just your nerves getting to you. Once you figure out how to calm your nerves, then your confidence can come through.
Western society is built up on black or white, win or lose. Don't get caught up with this way of thinking. Don't compete. Don't strive to reap the rewards of winning, nor fear losing. Just devote yourself to the action. Confidence is a state of mind. Clear your mind and you'll become who you are.